I’ve been hesitant but it’s time.

Hey all, I’m a lurker and decided it’s finally time I bite the bullet and ask for some encouragement, advice, pretty much anything you can give me.

Back in May I started phentramine. This magical weight loss drug. And I lost weight on it. As of September I was 4lbs short of losing 50lbs. I didn’t binge, I didn’t eat half as much, and the meds made it so I didn’t even want to eat. Hell, half the time I wasn’t even hungry. After 4 months I thought that maybe I can handle it by myself.

Flash forward to now, 2 months off of it, 10lbs back and counting. I can’t manage to control my hunger, I don’t have the energy to work out like I did on the meds, I’ve lost all discipline and want. I feel like a failure. Like I can only lose the weight on medication. I’m about to go to my doctor and ask for another run.

My husband is a huge supporter and will do anything with me that I do to help me. But I feel defeated, overwhelmed, and I don’t know where to start. I felt so good losing the weight in every aspect. I still had about 80lbs to lose to get to my goal and a healthy weight but I felt great and I just let it all go.

I was really into calorie counting, but I’m a mom of 4 kids 5 and under. The time it took, even a few minutes, were killing me. The time to meal prep is a chore that I don’t feel like I have time for. I feel like I’ve hit a mental wall.

But, I need to start again. and so, I need to post here. I need accountability, I need someone who felt or feels the same way to say it’s okay. I don’t know what I need. But, maybe if I post I’ll feel like I have to work on it.

My starting weight before was 286, down to 234. My goal is 170

Now, SW 244, GW 170

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Starting to hit a weightloss Plateau

So like many people, my weight loss journey has been a life long struggle with many ups and downs and so many methods tried. A pattern I started to notice was that I try to do too much when I start a new weightloss plan, I get overwhelmed, and I don't stick to it. So this year I decided I would focus on one part at a time. I started with limiting calories and taking the time to measure out my food with a kitchen scale to ensure closer calories logged. I didn't focus on working out or even really what I was eating at first (although now I focus on nutrition of food a lot more) just that I couldn't exceed 1200 calories a day . I work a lot and have a desk job so it's not like I'm moving around a whole bunch, so I tested calorie amounts until I found one that started to give me a deficit. Well, here I am a few months later and I've lost 20 pounds, it was a slow process but it was consistent and that's what I was hoping for. In the past few weeks I've noticed that I seem to be hovering around the same weight and am now feeling more ready to add back in some workouts. A concern I have is that when I start to do cardio or weight lifting my appetite grows and I want to avoid going over my calories. Or that I will start working out but not see the continued slow weight loss.

I would love to hear other peoples tips and tricks for getting past a plateau or adding in workouts without gaining weight from appetite. What worked well for you? How did you get past the slump of a weightloss plateau? What workouts did you start with when getting back into working out?

Also stats if it helps: F (28) 5'4" SW - 197 CW -175 GW - 135

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I’m predicting this book will change my life...

(TLDR at the bottom)

Hi. I’m a 20yo college student and I’ve been struggling with my weight since I could remember. I just so happen to be the heaviest I’ve ever been, and in the past I’ve had bulimic and anorexic tendencies. Nothing that lasted more than a couple weeks but it happened more than a few times. I’ve also tried a variety of diets like simple calorie counting, weight watchers, keto, real food diet, etc. None of these diets I enjoyed or succeeded with. The only diet that ever really stuck with me or worked was intermittent fasting and that’s because I’m a compulsive or emotional eater, usually at night, so it helped stop that a bit. My therapist a couple years ago recommended a book called “Breaking Free From Emotional Eating” by Geneen Roth. I didn’t read it, don’t really know why. But the other day I had a painful but encouraging conversation with my partner and I realized, amongst other things directly affecting my mental health, that I’ve been trying to diet and lose weight for what seems like our entire relationship. He’s never spoken poorly of my appearance or weight, but is well aware of how much pain it gives me that I am overweight- obese actually but just barely. Because of this he’ll encourage me to diet or eat healthy whenever I complain about it. So I finally picked up this book, and I’m halfway through it and have a completely different outlook on food and dieting. This book talks about what to eat, when to eat, how to deal with bingeing and compulsive eating, and more that I haven’t read yet. The basis is to only eat when you’re hungry, and to give yourself permission to eat what you want. That probably sounds to good to be true, or too easy to be effective. But I’m telling you, ever since I started reading this book a couple days ago, I’ve stayed under my calorie deficit without a problem. Calorie deficit? Yes I’m still counting calories simply because I haven’t finished my book and don’t quite trust myself yet. But this book is about trusting yourself and your body to tell you what it needs and when. It tells you to love yourself and to forgive yourself when you makes mistakes like bingeing and eating compulsively. It tells you to give yourself permission to eat what you want because then you won’t be deprived of what you want and therefore less likely to overeat or eat it in secret later when you’re not hungry. It talks about emotions and satisfaction and how food plays a huge role in this. And it talks about how to give yourself satisfaction without compulsively eating or eating more than what you want or need. This book and the author are so compassionate and forgiving and loving- throughout the entire thing I’ve felt nothing but encouragement and confidence in myself. I found it online for free, I won’t link in case of copyright issues, but feel free to message me if you’re interested. It’s also on thriftbooks for less than $5. And I will update this in a few weeks to see how my life and weight has changed. I encourage anyone who’s struggling with their diet, or hasn’t dieted yet, to read this book. It’s only 224 pages! It might not work for everyone, but I truly believe it’s the healthiest way to lose weight and love yourself without depriving your mind and body of what it wants and needs. It might not be as fast of a weight loss, but I believe it will be less stressful than others and a satisfying lifestyle change. Here is the link to goodreads: link It’s 4/5 stars, and half of the negative reviews didn’t finish the book. For others it just didn’t work for them. Keep in mind, this is not only a weight loss program, but a sort of mental health program as well. It encourages you to be in touch with yourself and your emotions and what your mind and body needs. It’s not a strict eat this, not that type of program. There’s not much structure in terms of diet, and if that’s what you need then maybe this won’t be as helpful for you. But I still encourage you to read it.

TLDR: I started reading “Breaking Free From Emotional Eating” by Geneen Roth and my perspective of food and dieting has changed. I haven’t finished it, and haven’t followed it’s suggestions / weight loss program long enough to see results, but I believe I will lose weight in a healthier, happier way. It’s about eating only when you’re hungry and giving yourself permission to eat what you want.

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Advice for those wanting to lose weight but are extremely busy people

Hello! I was wondering if anyone had any advice for those desperately trying to lose weight through exercise and diet but fail to do so because of how busy they are. Let me break it down my situation so you can better understand where I am coming from:

I am a 20yr female who doesn't really have a problem with my stomach unless I've really been stress eating sweets lately. My problems are mainly with my legs especially my thighs and the backs of my thighs right before the buttocks. My main focus is to lose weight there.

However, this year has been so stressful that I HAVE been stress eating sweets a bunch so I do need to lose basically just a few inches off my stomach. But stress eating is typically pretty easy for me to curb, honestly, as long as I put my mind to it.

However, this is my CURRENT situation that I need advice for, the rest was just information so that you guys could possibly offer better advice: I'm a college student. I am very poor. I live in a dorm, I cannot cook my own food. My cafeteria's food is really bad, ranging anywhere from actually getting physically ill when eating it to it being alright on small occasions. I am also constantly busy due to the work I get. Here is an example: last week, I did not leave my dorm for three straight days and half of the fourth day. The only time I left was just to go into the bathroom and go back to my desk to work afterward. The only food I got to eat was from snacks in my freezer, like peaches and nuts, or when my fiance would stop by and he'd grab some lunch and he'd also share a little bit of it with me (don't worry, I'm not a big eater so I didn't need a lot anyway :) ).

However, when I do have enough time to go outside, it's usually because I'm working at my "other job" aside from school which is typically 6-11. So when I get hungry for dinner, I feel like I am always eating out because my school's food is so poor and it's literally just closed by 11, and most supermarkets around me are closed by 11 due to COVID-19, and because I'm so poor, I have to buy the cheapest fast food imaginable. And on most days, even if I wanted to FORCE myself to go to my cafeteria, I usually can't before 6 because I have so much work.

Also, because I am so busy, it is very hard for me to exercise. And I know how I can best lose weight, I had this amazing weight loss plan over the summer that was so successful I lost FIFTEEN POUNDS over like two months. But I gained it all back during school! ):< I'm just so busy all the time, I have no idea how to find time to exercise and eat healthily. Maybe it's just something I'm really overlooking that could turn things around for me? I would really appreciate the help, I really would, and a sincere thank you to anyone who read this far. I know it's a lot of word-vomit, but I just want to get better.

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How to deal with weight loss/gain while sick with Covid

Hey everyone! Could use some words of wisdom and encouragement right now.

I spent the last 6 months losing weight and lost a total of 40lbs going from 183 to 143 (I’m 26F 5ft6). I am sooooo proud of my progress and feel that I’m nearing completion and moving toward maintenance. Problem is I got covid and was down and out for 12ish days. No exercise. Didn’t eat much (not being able to taste makes food a hell of a lot less desirable). Slept a lot. And “lost” 5 pounds... going down to 138. I know it’s not actual fat and it’s more likely water weight and possible muscle loss (??) but it’s all coming back now that I’m healthy and waking/eating again. I’m back to 143 this morning which I know isn’t a bad thing but I feel like I’m gaining weight and look in the mirror and just feel shame. I’ve been eating healthier again now that I’m not sick and am back to my calorie counting so that’s good I guess. But my boyfriend did surprise me with 5 Guys burgers and fries tonight to celebrate being able to taste again so that’s not gonna be a fun weigh in tomorrow either (even though it was delicious).

I guess my questions are.... how do you deal with “gaining” weight after “losing” it from being sick? How do you not hate yourself for the fluctuations in the number in the scale when physically you’re not really losing/gaining inches? I feel like I’m being so hard on myself for no reason. It’s such a mental game... like the number goes up and I hate myself lol ughhh

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How did you mentally prepare for the consequences of your weight loss?

Hello! I have quite a bit of a load to unpack with this post, so I hope you'll bear with me here. I'm not too sure if this post is suitable to be posted here - I have some heavy stuff I write about - so I don't mind if it has to get removed. Seeing this sub be so supportive and strictly regulated made me feel this is a safe place to post my problem below.

I'm a 5'0" 24 yo woman at 140 lbs. Always struggled with my physical health, and my mental health regarding it is a bit of a roller coaster. Dealt with body-shaming and sexualization, and regularly struggle with my own body-posivity. One day I'll get a peak of confidence in myself feeling beautiful just the way I look, then the next moment I see flaws in myself and feel terrible about myself. However, knowing that I'm slowly getting closer and closer to becoming obese and potentially getting diabetes like my whole family currently does, I know I need to make a change for myself. But I'm afraid of the consequences.

My goal weight is to be 120 lbs, and it's obvious that my body will thin out during the process. But I'm scared of how my worth will change through that journey to the end point. I've experienced friends leaving me behind and people not wanting to have anything to do with me because I don't match their appearance in being physically fit/naturally thin. I experienced being sexualized for my "thicc" seemingly hourglass figure, and have been body-shamed for it as well. I've read stories of people noticing that others who never gave them the time of day before suddenly wanting to hang out after they lost weight/became fit. I've also read stories of people getting hit on more after their weight loss. It feels superficial and shallow..

Currently it seems my only worth to people atm is for helping them with their career. I'm afraid of getting sexualized far more than I currently am if I lose weight. I'm afraid of my current worth being emphasized if I get through losing weight to my goal in the future - as in, I'll see that the current me was truly worthless vs the me who would be 120lbs. I feel like I'll be abandoning the current me who just wants to be loved and treated decently regardless of how I appear.

So how did you mentally prepare for the things that happened throughout your weight loss journey and/or after? What happened? Did you see it coming? How did you deal with it?

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TL;DR: I'm a 5'0" 140 lbs 24F with a goal weight of 120 lbs. I know I have to and want to lose weight but I'm afraid of the seemingly inevitable consequences to come after - more sexualization, seeing how much my 140 lbs self is worth vs my could-be 120 lbs self, experiencing different treatment, etc. How would I mentally prepare for this? (More questions in above last paragraph).

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just found out that scale i used was wrong the whole time, i’m so sad and disappointed

i started my weight loss journey august 25th and lost 9kg within the first 3 weeks. i was so happy and so proud of myself even though no one really noticed my change. after these first weeks i couldn’t keep up with how i started out. i got into binge eating once again and developed bulimic behavior. we’re starting our second lockdown over here so i’m not able to weigh myself at the gym anymore. today i tested the scale i have at home but didn’t use because i thought it’s inaccurate by putting on 2 water bottles. and it showed the exact weight of these two, so i stepped on and it showed 75kg. i thought i was at 68kg. i thought i had lost so much more weight. i’m 16 years old and saved up all my money to afford a personal trainer, gave up on all the things teenagers normally buy with their pocket money to afford paying 200€ a month. and now i just realized that i only lost 7kg in almost 4 months. i just hate myself right now, because i didn’t give my best as i did the fist 3 weeks. i rest on having lost a lot at first and then slowed down the progress. i feel like i’m not good enough, disciplined enough, strong enough, skinny enough, pretty enough and never will be. i feel like i’m not capable of ever reaching my goals in the future and that i’ll be trapped in this body i hate for ever just because i can’t bring up the discipline as every other person seems to be capable of doing. i’m so so disappointed and sad.

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