For instance, has losing weight made your breasts more uneven or maybe evened them out? I'm struggling with this right now because i used to have even breasts but i lost a tiny bit of weight and one is now substantially smaller than the other sigh. any similar experiences?
Hi there. I (23/F) don't love to talk about this all that much but I made a throw away account just cuz it makes me feel better about openly discussing it.
I never had to worry about weight too much in high school and leveled out at about 120lbs (54.4kgs). When I started college I got really into working out and would train for about four hours a day four or five days a week. (Maybe a little excessive but I was having fun).
My weight didn't change much but I had abs and visible muscle tone. I felt good and active and strong. But when my class load increased a couple years later I pretty much put exercise on hold and focused on school and my social life more.
I put on 10lbs (4.5kgs) in just a few months . I wasn't stoked about this as I had never gained weight like that before but I realized my lifestyle had changed dramatically and I wasn't too surprised or bothered by it.
But then the pandemic hit. I didn't notice that I changed my activity level or eating habits that much but in a year I put on an extra 30lbs (13.6kgs) and I now weigh in around 160lbs (72.6kgs)! My abs are now a round belly. I can see the weight in my face and limbs. I have much more of an ass than I used to. I've gone up a few bra sizes and a few pants sizes. And I keep finding new stretch marks.
I go back and forth between acceptance and sadness about how out of shape I've gotten and how big the number on the scale now is.
I just feel like, even if the weight I put on isn't unhealthy the rate at which I've gained it is. I was avoiding the scale for the longest time because I knew it wouldn't be good news. After the initial shock, the new number has motivated me to try and lose it! Which is why I'm here.
I've never really tried to change my weight before and gaining so much so fast has kind of scared me. I'm super intimidated by trying to navigate all the diet and weight loss tips the internet has to offer (or sell) and I am mostly just looking for advice on how to get started.
It's been so long since I've exercised regularly that I've lost the itch and it just seems like a huge mountain that I don't know if I have it in me to climb. But I'm open to any words of wisdom.
How much of weight loss is exercise vs. how much is diet? How fast is too fast to lose or gain weight and how can I determine and set attainable and healthy goals? How can I help myself not get too hung up on the way my body is now and maintain a positive self-image while still motivating myself to get in shape?
I'm a little reluctant to set a goal weight as I'm scared of getting discouraged by checking the scale too often. I think I'd rather just shoot for fitting into my clothes again, do some of the physical activities I used to be able to do, and to maybe uncover that muscle tone that I used to like to show off.
Any advice is welcome. Whether it's practical, physical, or emotional.
Thanks so much in advance! It really means a lot.
TL;DR: I gained 40lbs (18kgs) and went from 120lbs (54.4kgs) to 160lbs (72.6kgs) in about two years. I want to get in better shape and lose some of the weight but I'm a little scared and don't know how to start. Any advice?
I've been fat my whole life. I was born fat. I lost 40lbs last year and I'm still fat. Being fat and the emotional baggage and habits that come with it are so core to my life experience that it feels like even if I lose another 40lbs (plus the 15 I've gained back since hitting my low weight) I'll still look the same.
You'd think losing that much weight would make it seem real, but nobody has said anything about my weight loss. And I know some people probably noticed and said nothing, but it wouldn't matter even if they did. Because I feel no different. I feel just as undesirable and depressed as I always have, and it feels like I'm going to be this miserable no matter what, so why even try? Why do less of the one thing that makes me truly blissful (eating) for just more pain?
I literally cannot imagine myself not fat and it's exhausting to motivate myself to do something I can't conceptualize. "Eating better to lose weight" feels as stupid as "lick doorknobs so you can fly". Like it's pointless and uncomfortable actions for impossible results...
It's been maybe a month and a half since I last stepped on the scale at around 160 kgs (~350lbs). It was also the last time I was at the gym which is the only place with a scale that can weigh me (my scale at home can't). I had somehow gained 5kgs from the last time I checked. I know my diet has been trash with a lot of eating out, but didn't realize the damage was so bad.
What made me think about that was meeting with some old friends whom I haven't seen in about a year. They commented on how I haven't really progressed with losing weight and that I've gotten wider. I knew it was bad, but not this bad.
Last year in the spring, I was finally signed up to the new gym that opened near my house. I was cooking for myself almost daily. I was finally getting into the groove to finally lose this weight. Then when the pandemic hit and I slowly started to see my friends less and less, I spent less time going outside because "why bother?" I only really got to see one friend with whom I started going to the gym with.
That quickly ended when my frequent depressive episodes made it harder for us to sync up gym times. Now we hang out, but a lot of that hang out time is around getting food together. I've eaten out at least 28 of the last 30 days. It's gotten to the point where I'm doubting my ability to eat healthy when I do make my own food. I also want to continue hanging out with my friend cause being alone all the time has been a killer for my mental health, but I can't keep up this eating out habit of ours.
It feels like I'm the only person in this whole country who has to deal with being so big. There's no one else who can understand the struggle. The only person is my friend and we just make it worse by eating like pigs all the time. I want to change, but I can't handle losing out on my last friend in this increasingly lonely place. I know I don't have much time left before I return to my home country (and the atrocious food culture I grew up with that led me to this position), but I feel like it's already too late to make a change.
I'm honestly at a loss of what to do.
This is just a rant because I know it's because of my shitty habits.
I always noticed that I was better at eating healthy and had that best weight loss when I lived with my parents. I moved out to my own place and the whole time I've struggled with even maintaining my weight.
Then this weekend some family came down to visit me and it was magical: I wasn't thinking about food all the time. Even though we did a lot of eating and buying snacks, I didn't feel the urge to try everything until I was stuffed. In the evenings I didn't have that desire to wander around my kitchen to find that perfect snack. I could leave food on the plate and go hours without thinking about what I was going to eat next. I didn't care if I ate or not.
Yeah I could not buy junk food anymore since I have full control of my kitchen, but that just leads me to binging on other junk later. I guess when I live alone, a highlight of my day is eating. I still love living alone but I didn't realize how much harder it made this.
I’m a 23 y/o female (5’3) who gained a ton of weight with the pandemic. I’m currently sitting at 168 lbs. Pre-pandemic I was about 144 lbs. I actually weighed about 175 a couple of months ago but I’ve started limiting my portions and that has helped a little bit. I have a gym membership but I’m so intimidated. I usually go in and do only cardio and then leave but I do want to start incorporating weights into my routine because I’ve heard cardio + weight training are better for weight loss than cardio alone. But I don’t know where to start! I also feeling all the weight I’m losing is from my top half (I’m very bottom heavy) and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Does anyone have any advice?
For almost a year I have been on my weight loss journey. I have lost almost 40 pounds using Victoza with a 3 month cyclical usage of 37.5 MG daily phentermine. I am on my 2 months into a second round of phentermine. My wife was prescribed the same dosage of phentermine but of a different manufacturer.
My Rx is a blue/white capsule made by KVK Tech. my wife's RX is a white tablet with blue specs made by Epic Pharma.
I decided to try and extend my use of phentermine by taking my wifes RX since it was the same name/dose. I have had a wildly different experience on my wife's prescription. Large extended mood swings, anxiety, wild libido with the inability to get/maintain an erection, suicidal thoughts (more than usual at least,) and difficulty sleeping.
I have been off of it for 4 days and am still experiencing the side effects. Previously after 2 days the normal side effects would stop. I did not experience the increased libido, more frequent suicidal thoughts, or anxiety on my normal medication.
Has anyone else had such a wildly different experience this way?
