Mindset shift- how do I love my body after weight loss?

So I’ve(30F) lost a good chunk of weight. Maintaining at my goal weight. (140lbs ish)

For reference, I was somewhere over 200lbs (couldn’t tell you exactly where, I was avoiding the scale when I saw it hit 190) 5’8” Lost about 15 inches at my rib cage and waist areas. About a size 4 now, down from about size 15.

From about 2016 to 2021 is where this wieght gained happened. I know it was a number of things that contributed to it. A lot of it being my ex and my own victim mindset. (He refused to eat the meals I made for my family, and made me eat whatever fast food he was going out to get in addition to the meal I was eating with my family, and just generally pressured me into following into his unhealthy habits, which I made the choice to do for so long, so that’s on me.)

With the modeling and cosplay work I was doing at those times it was challenging to see the changes in my body. Especially around 2019-2021. I really hated what I saw in photos and in the mirror. And struggled with a chronic pain condition that made working out a challenge, but I managed a pretty consistent routine and dragged my ex to the gym while we were together.

Mindset around food has changed a great deal, I don’t feel like I’m missing out or tempted by things that aren’t great for you. And the occasion things, really are occasional and I don’t really fall off my diet plan any more.

The part where I struggle is what I see in the mirror. I’m still not.. happy?? I know I would have killed to look the way I do now a few years ago. I’m beyond grateful to be the healthiest and the fittest I’ve ever been. I fit into dresses I got while in middle school. A few people have made comments basically hinting that I look too skinny. And no one close to me is proud of the weight I’ve lost. I’m working on releasing them of unspoken expectations because I realize they’re uncomfortable with what I’ve done because they haven’t done it and that doesn’t sit well with them. But I still see the small pooch or other things I’m still working on thru working out but I don’t feel like I’m /ever/ going to be satisfied with my body. And I know I’ve had years of practice picking my physical appearance apart. But I want to stop now.

Any advice on how to improve mindset on your appearance after weight loss??

TLDR: I’ve lost a bunch of weight, picked at my appearance when I was heavier and now I want to change how I see myself in the mirror, how do I do this?

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Does caffeine help or hurt your weight loss efforts?

Hey there, I drink a double shot espresso every morning. This is a habit I've developed over the past year or two. Caffeine is known to curb appetite, but there was a post earlier today mentioning how the user would drink caffeine, not eat enough, and then binge later in the day once the effect of the caffeine wore off. I realized that I have the same feelings of desperately needing to eat something at around 3pm/4pm, even though I do eat lunch, and was just curious if the caffeine could be affecting my appetite negatively. What do you all think? I'd love to hear about your experiences. I've always gotten hungry in the afternoon, even before I drank coffee, but I wish I took notes on consumption before and after making drinking coffee a habit to see if there was any significant variance in total calories consumed.

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A milestone idea that might be helpful to some of you

If you’re the kind of person that doesn’t like to obsess too much about the number on the scale please disregard this, but if you’re someone like me who likes to check off tiny goals to stay motivated (whilst also being a bit of a statistics nerd) this might be helpful

I have a list of tiny milestones all the way to my goal weight in multiple different weight measurement systems (I’m British so accustomed to stones but prefer to use pounds and kg is useful to know too). Here are what my upcoming milestones look like…

CW = 198

Lost 25lbs = 197

Reached 14 stone = 196

Lost 2 stone = 194

Lost 30lbs = 192

Reached overweight BMI = 191

Reached 85kg = 187

Lost 2 and a half stone = 187

Lost 40lbs = 182

Reached 13 stone = 182

Lost 3 stone = 180

You can see that generally you get to hit a new milestone every couple of pounds you lose. I’m sure it might seem overboard to some, especially if not familiar with multiple different weight systems but personally I’ve found it so helpful to look at things this way when weight loss has felt slow or overwhelming.

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Trigger warning for EDs - ate all my allocated calories for the day in one sitting, now feeling bloated and nauseous

Trigger warning for EDs - and sorry to repost, the title of my other post wasn't reflective of the issue I have.

Hi everyone,

I've started my weight loss journey in a healthy way about a month and a half ago ( F, 5"7, was 86kg at the start, currently 81kg, aiming to get down to 70kg in 6 months time for when I plan to go travelling). I have had bouts of bulimia in the distant past, but that was 10 years ago when I was a teen/young adult and I thought I was recovered.

I have been aiming to eat 1,600 calories a day - about 400 for breakfast, 500 for lunch, 500 for dinner and 200 for snacks. Sometimes it's 50 - 100 calories less or more than this, depending on how I'm feeling that day, however I have been sticking to a regular routine of having close to those amounts of calories for breakfast, lunch and dinner. No restricting any kinds of foods however I have been upping my protein recently.

I have been sticking to it pretty well so far, apart from a couple of days last month to celebrate my birthday, which I was fine about and did not feel like I have to compensate for that the next day or anything like that (maybe because my mind was kept busy with seeing friends and family and I still had a kind of breakfast, lunch dinner type routine). I just went back to my routine the following day.

Today was different. I was feeling pretty low about a few things and skipped lunch and dinner all together. For dinner, I ordered food for the first time in a good while and I basically ate 1,500 calories in one sitting.

I'm still in a calorie deficit for today, but I feel really full and sick and those old thoughts are entering my mind just to get rid of it. I'm scared that they're coming back.

I guess what I wanted to ask this community, particularly those in my situation - where do I go from here? Should I just go back to my 1,600 (400, 500, 500, 200 routine) tomorrow? Or should I reevaluate my plan and goals?

Also, how do I stop this from happening again? Or if it does happen, how do I stop my triggering thoughts and make sure that I don't end up spiralling?

My apologies of this is not an appropriate place to post this and thank you for reading if you did, I appreciate it.

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The scale isn’t really moving…

Hey guys so I started the year on 103-5kg (227 pounds) and now I’m 92kg (202 pounds) I started my weight loss journey properly in March. The scale isn’t really moving how I want it to. Weight loss is very slowwww I’m eating 1500 calories a day, going to the gym 5 days a week (1hr weightlifting and 30 min stairmaster) Physically I can see I’m getting smaller. I also take creatine and oxyshred. Should I continue taking creatine or will this hinder weight loss. For reference my goal weight by the end of the year is 75kg//165 pounds and my overall goal weight is 55kg//120 pounds.

Do you think I’m doing well so far and how long did it take you to reach your goal weight? Also should I continue taking creatine? Because I weighed myself 4 weeks ago and I was 94kg now I’m only 92kg 💔💔

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Am I doing something wrong here?

5’6 33 y/o F CW 193 GW 140 Weekly calorie average: 1700 Activity: walking 10 miles/weeks and weightlifting 3-4x a week

Hi all! I’m writing here because I feel like I’ve lost a bit of hope in this whole process. When I first began, I found losing 2lbs a week to be a breeze

However, for the past month I’ve experienced fluctuations that ultimately reflect a two pound weight loss over a month (despite calorie restriction being all I ever think about)

It’s extremely discouraging and I just feel that the weight should still be following off at my current weight.

I would love to hear the mindset of others when they felt discouraged with the process

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How to loose weight when parents are constantly pressuring me to eat?

I (19F) am currently back home with my parents, (50F) (60M). I've returned from university where I gained some weight due to marathon training and overcompensating for calories burned. I used to weigh at around 52kg and am now 60kg, I’m around 155cm tall.

During my last month at university, I lost 1 kg quite easily by sticking to a deficit and fasting routine. I was able to manage my meals and schedule independently, without family meals interfering.

However, since coming home for the holidays, my weight loss has stalled. My parents prioritize having three full meals a day, and it's challenging to maintain my deficit with their meals. While I can handle breakfast on my own, lunch and dinner are more difficult. My parents often pester me to eat more, and they use a lot of fatty oils and sauces in their cooking, which adds many calories to the meals.

I have a history of eating disorders and am a recovering bulimic. The weight loss at university went smoothly and didn't trigger me, but being home has been a struggle. The pressure to eat more and the calorie-dense meals have led me to resort to purging to meet my calorie goals.

I don't want to continue this cycle and am unsure where to turn. Any advice?

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