Weight gain in relationship - how to balance having a life and losing weight

Hey All,

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Hoping for some advice/strategies/book recommendations/anything really from someone who has been through this before. Sorry for the long background info below, just wasn't sure what all was important..

I am 28 F, 5'1 and went from 200 lbs down to 138 mostly through exercise, but also unintended diet changes (didn't feel like drinking wine after getting home from the gym, usually had a drink every night before this). I also planned my gym time during my usual snack sessions which helped a lot. My daily schedule was basically work - home to eat something light - gym - sleep. It was very effective, felt great, didn't have much of a social life but wasn't too bothered about it.

Right after I reached my lowest weight (goal was 140) I met my S/O - we did long distance for awhile, and because of the time difference and length of our calls, I ended up skipping out on the gym a lot. Tried to go in the mornings before work ~3 times a week, but found I was consistently gaining weight due to the time home in the evenings (if I am at home, I am eating/drinking. I know this is an issue that needs work).

Now we live together, and the weight gain has skyrocketed. I was the one to make the move across the country, and I am still hunting for a job months later. I spend way too much time at home by myself (constant snacking), and we drink much more than we probably should (a drink or 2 most nights). He has started mentioning that he needs to cut back on my cooking, because he feels like he has gained weight with someone here taking care of him, but I don't notice it at all on him (he has a very active job, not a big snacker). I know I have gained weight, and I feel like he is talking about cutting back himself to help me realize I need to do the same. I am VERY aware, and very embarrassed, and very ready to make a change. I want to be the me that he fell in love with, and I can't believe I have let myself fall so far (I have gained back 40 lbs since I met him).

I have joined a cross fit gym (totally new to me) and am working my way through the intro program, and every class kicks my ass. I need help balancing real life and my weight loss efforts.... I seem to either be ALL IN, or completely off the wagon and I don't know how to find the middle ground. Any help would be so so appreciated.

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TLDR: Lost 62 pounds 2 years ago, gained 40 lbs back after meeting my partner. Need help balancing having a social life/relationship and weight loss.

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Officially 27 pounds down, stuck in a plateau!

I started my weight loss goal a hundred times; I've always been the overweight girl, but was doing really well after moving abroad. I was down to my lowest weight of 178ish. Then I came back home, got a very upsetting diagnosis, and became depressed and turned to eating my feelings instead of processing what that meant, and where I could go from there. I rapidly gained almost 50 pounds. Then I got engaged, and saw my engagement photos and it really hit me how much weight I had gained. I immediately got to work with CICO and going to the gym 5x a week in the morning with my fiance. It took several months for the work to finally start showing, but it did happen. I weighed myself this morning and with 38 days until my wedding, I've lost 27 pounds! That being said, I've been stuck in a plateau of bouncing up and down between 200 and 203 for the last two weeks, and it's driving me insane. I know some plateaus can last months. I was really hoping to hit my goal of being in ONEderland in time for my wedding, but I also want to celebrate the fact that I've come this far!

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My girlfriend is having a very hard time losing weight

Hey, guys. Long time lurker, first time poster. Me and my girlfriend have struggled with our weights for basically the entirety of our 6 year relationship. A few months ago, we decided to- once again- buckle down and start being healthy and trying to lose weight.

We track macros and stay in a caloric deficit, while working out consistently. I've lost 16 pounds and my girlfriend has lost nothing. It's incredibly discouraging for her and, in some weird way, makes me feel guilty for the success that I'm having. Honestly, she works out harder than I do and tracks EVERYTHING she eats. It really gets her down and I never know how to comfort her. I do notice that her face looks thinner, and overall, she seems healthier, but she wants to see that tangible weight loss that she should be having.

Now here's part two- I've never and would never share this with my girlfriend, because there's no way to say this without it sounding rude. My girlfriend falls into the "obese" category weight-wise, but doesn't look it AT ALL. Not even remotely. No one would ever even think she was "fat". The few people she's shared her weight with don't believe her that she weighs what she does. She literally looks about 40lbs thinner than what the scale says- How can that be? I've never heard of such a thing, and it just doesn't make sense to me.

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Has anyone struggled with this? Is there anything she can try to nudge the scale? I just want my girlfriend to see results and be happy, like I am.

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Trying to get weight loss started

Hello!

So, first thing’s first, a little about. I’m 21F, 5’7”, and weight 209 pounds. I am about to graduate college and I really want to start being healthier.

While looking up diets, somewhere said that I should be eating 1200 calories per day. I have been doing that for the past week, and really it’s left me feeling hungry and grumpy. I don’t know if that is accurate for me. I looked up my TDEE and it said it was 2095. Should I be taking in about 1600 instead?

I was also wondering if anyone had advice on dieting with thyroid diseases. I have both Hashimoto’s and Grave’s disease, but am currently taking 88mcg levothyroxine to manage it.

I am also going to start walking for exercise in my spare time before I really start going to the gym.

I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice.

Thank you.

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I'm at a crossroads and don't want to screw up.

I've spent the last month on a very strict diet - I eat only protein, vegetables, and fat (portion controlled full-fat dairy and I cook with oil/butter, in sensible amounts). I have lost 22lbs, going from 262 - 242. Needless to say, I feel great and I'm proud of my progress. I absolutely struggled before to limit my calorie intake, but when I cut out ALL the junk, it became easy. It wasn't a temptation at all. I've struggled with weight my whole life, and despite being active, it's just gone up and up and up. So to have this success is a turning point for me.

However. I know what I'm doing is really strict, and I have a long way to go. I'm F, 33, and 5'8, and I'd like to be roughly around 140lbs. So I still have 100lbs to go, and what I'm afraid will happen is one day I'll just start feeling deprived, the novelty will have worn off and I'll lose all control and order a cheese pizza and go on a 6 month long binge. So I wonder, should I incorporate small amounts of things that I really love? I'm not talking about eating takeout again and drinking frappuccinos like I used to, I really don't want to go back to my old habits. But for example, I do love Starbucks, and they do a tall, light frappuccino with 86 calories. I think well, I'm currently eating around 1000-1200 calories a day, so I definitely have room for that. (Just to note, I know this is a low calorie intake for my weight, height and activity level, which is also part of the reason I'm asking this question. I feel great and my energy levels are up, but I'm worried this might not last and in a few months start to feel sluggish and tired.)

On the other hand, I'm not sure if it would be a slippery slope. if I can justify one thing, will I start to justify something else, then something else, until I'm back where I started? I feel like it's decision time, and I don't want to mess up this good thing I've got going by either continuing to be super strict when there's no real need for it (i.e. I could loosen up a little and still see steady, consistent weight loss) or loosening up a bit and getting on a slippery slope back to square one, convincing myself that as long as I eat under a certain calorie limit, I could eat anything - but in practice, always exceeding that calorie goal.

I would really appreciate opinions from people because I'm in two minds and others' experiences would be really useful. I get that you can't make the decision for me, but I just need some help :(

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Tuesday, 21 May 2019? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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100 Lbs down.

https://imgur.com/gallery/1qgA9df

This is my first post but I’ve been enjoying everyone’s else’s posts and thought I’d join in.

I’ve been at it for over a year now, started in February last year. Just hit 100lbs lost. Still have more to lose but feel 100% better.

I have been losing weight by calorie counting. I try to have around 1500 a day but will sometimes go over, I average about 2lb a week of weight loss. I track the calories using My Fitness Pal.

Aiming to be happy with my weight by the end of this year, I don’t really have a specific goal weight apart from it being healthy.

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