Some words of wisdom to all of you struggling

I initially wrote this as a response to finding ones-elves in their career professional life, but I realized it was totally relevant to my weight loss journey too:

When I was a young adult in my 20s I tried to achieve success in things that I thought society expected of me. I failed because they were not things I wanted to be successful at, I was doing so out of a misplaced “duty” during the time. In my 30s I stopped caring about what passing strangers and society expects of me and I aimed for succeeding in the things I care about, in doing so has lead me on the road to many wins. I approach 35 in the next month and I find myself in a place of where the sky is the limit, it’s what I decide to spend my time on that counts. I’ve never been more motivated in my life.

My biggest fear in my youthful days was failure. I’ve learned that failure is the greatest of all teachers and when it happens to endure and walk away not with shame but of enlightenment.

Regarding how this is relevant to weight loss. When I was trying to lose weight in my younger days I wasn’t doing it for me. I was doing it to appease adults in my life and become some type of body image that society expects of me. I failed because I didn’t want it. Although I was trying I didn’t want it because I choose to keep binge eating and saying screw it I’m done with this “dieting” stuff. I would pretend I was trying to lose weight to appease others when I wasn’t ready to do so myself. Now that I approach mid 30s and I am a year and a half into my not diet but lifestyle change, I have found a success at 80lbs dropped, now I need 120lbs more to go. What changed this time? I want this for me, for my future, and present. I want to be healthier, move around better, and play life on easy mode for a change.

If you are starting your journey, remember that it’s your journey! Do this for you and only if you truly want it.

I hope this helps thanks for reading!

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When to be concerned about weight loss.

I have lost 56 pounds since November.

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I have not actively tried to lose weight But:

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I moved to a new city and took a new job and have been suffering a lot of stress.

I eat about 2/3rds the calories in a given day that I did before the move.

I walk or am active about 3 hours a week compared to 0 hours a week in previous city.

I completely stopped eating fast food (maybe 5 times in the last 8 months)

We only cook our own meals for the most part.

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BUT I am not actively thinking about any of this, I did not make a plan to lose the weight (even though I should have).

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I was 335lbs before the move, now I am 279 after about 8 months.

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I tend to be a hypochondriac, I have no other worrying type of symptoms. What I need to know is with the changes I mentioned above, and over the 8 month time frame, is this a reasonable amount of weight to expect to lose? To me it seems like a lot, and someone mentioned it could be a symptom of some type of cancer.

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Yes I am going to see a Doctor soon, but I always tend to overthink and worry.

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I wasn't able to make sustainable daily changes until I respected and valued myself at whatever weight I was at

I know that many people are motivated to lose weight because they hate what they see in the mirror or are unhappy with the person they've become. It seems like it works really well for many who've had incredibly successful weight loss journeys.

For me personally, those motivators were only ever good for short bursts of determination. I'd lose 5-15 pounds and then quickly gain it back, often more. This was because I still disliked myself and lifestyle changes aren't a quick fix with obvious results you can see in short time spans.

I gradually started saying fuck off to the voice in my head that told me I was unwanted, worthless, and ugly. I started doing the things that I had let my weight hold me back from. I went on dates, made an effort to widen my circle of friends, went to new places and tried new activities. I've always avoided all these ventures that made me interact with others, but slowly introduced them back into my life.

After I stopped using my weight as an excuse to hide from life and wallow in feelings of shame, I realized that I respect myself and like myself too much to let my unhealthy habits dictate how I feel. I got excited about life again and that made me want to experience it to the fullest (cheesiness aside) which meant becoming as fit as I can be. Being more excited and positive in general helped displace some of my emotional binging triggers. Making healthy decisions became a little more effortless with a change of mindset. I am truly doing this for myself this time, not for the people whose judgement I was always so afraid of.

That said I still have my good days and bad days. I recently posted about body dysmorphia and how discouraging that can feel but I know that the decisions I make daily are good ones and I am choosing to trust the process.

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Lost 30 pounds and using myself as motivation to keep going

Hey everyone -

So I am 30 pounds down since January 28th! Last month I started taking more cheat days than I should have, so in order to remotivate myself and remind myself that I need to keep pushing and working hard to not lose any progress I have already made, I finally edited a video Ive been working for a while and posted it today! I have been doing intermittent fasting (usually 20/4) but have been slacking on the weekends, and I eat as low carb (almost keto) as I can manage. In previous months, I went to the gym 3-4 times a week, and went walking or biking on other days. Like I said, last month was too easy going so I am kicking myself back into strict order this week. I filmed myself over the last few months religiously and compiled a video montage of what my journey has looked like so far! Hoping this video can maybe help motivate someone to keep pushing forward, never give up, and be proud of any progress, no matter how small!

My Weight Loss Transformation (so far)

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I'm not really sure how to feel lately.

Here I am on day 159 of CICO. I started on January 30th of this year. I'm honestly not sure of my true starting weight because I made the mistake of not weighing myself at first. In early April, I weighed 299 lbs, so if my weight loss trend reflects what I lost before I weighed myself, I likely weighed anywhere from 320-330. If we're going with the high number there, that means I've lost just under 70 pounds since the end of January.

I am immensely proud of this. I haven't weighed under 275 in my adult life. My eating habits are real changes. I no longer get urges to binge. Some days I have to remind myself to eat, otherwise I run out of energy. This has never happened to me. So much of my old personally revolved completely around food. It is no longer a dopamine hit from a drug, it is sustinence.

I am in a regular exercise routine. 30 minute elliptical sprints (I normally go fast as I can manage while still being able to breathe) followed by varying strength exercises (not so much to build muscle, just to increase my calories burned at rest from muscle recovery) 4-5 days a week. On my off days I will hit the punching bag for 30 minutes just because being sedentary on my off days makes me feel depressed and useless. I have a much better time breathing now. I get less headaches. I have more stamina than most of my thin friends who don't work out.

The problems that persist:

• Clothes look ridiculous on me. I'm in a weird between spot where all my 2x shirts look like dresses, but a lot of the 1x shirts are pretty tight and make me look like the Michelin man.

• I struggle with my identity lately. A big part of my social life was going out and getting food with my friends, eating and drinking stupid amounts. Now I can't do these things nearly as often. I don't hear from my friends nearly as much because they know I'm going to say no to it. It makes me feel like I'm the sick friend who isn't allowed to do normal things. I know I need to replace this with healthy social activities but it feels like all I do now is go to work, go to the gym and manage my life responsibilities. Sometimes it feels like the only thing to do in my neck of the woods is go to the bar if you feel like socializing and I don't have the time, calories, or money to do that.

• I still don't like the way I look. I know nobody can make me appreciate my body image but me, but I feel like no matter how much smaller I get, I'm still huge. I still feel absolutely unattractive. It makes it hard to be proud of the progress.

• I'm staring to get loose, excess skin and that's been one of my biggest fears going forward. I've been obese since childhood. I know the skin flaps are going to be there and I'm worried about how bad they will be.

• On top of everything, I still have 80+ pounds to go until I hit my goal weight. 100+ if I want to be what is technically considered a healthy weight for someone my height. After losing almost 70, this still seems like such a mountain to climb over.

  In conclusion:

  I know most of these problems deal with how I view myself and that's always been a struggle for me. There are good days and bad days but it's going to be a struggle to learn how to finally and truly love myself. I feel overall much better but I feel like the honeymoon phase of my weight loss is over. I have zero intentions of going back to my old ways. I was a whole different person compared to who I am now and I will never be that again. I guess my real problem is that I want to celebrate but don't feel like I deserve credit until I get to where I want to be. And I feel like that's so far away from here.

  I wanted to post this honestly just to vent and get my thoughts out there. But I really hope this helps someone who might be in the same situation as myself. I want you to know you're not alone in these feelings and learning how to overcome isn't easy, but I am certain it is possible.

  This ended up being super long, but if you read this I am thankful for you and I love you.

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People who have been doing this for a long time, what do you do to enjoy the journey?

I've been at this for a long time. I'm at the point where I'm more relaxed into it. I've done the "things" - lifted the weight, ran the race, did the backflips, had the makeover, bought the clothes, wore the dress. I'm not at my goal body yet, but I'm at the point where I have to actually scale back my workouts because of my aesthetic goals. (Tried on a jacket the other day and realized, no more bicep curls for me, squats have been off the menu for a while too).

I responded to a guy on here upset over man boobs, that he was well on his way, and to just keep at it the way he's been doing and don't worry about it. That's how I feel about my weight loss/fitness journey right now - I feel like I have to just keep going, not pushing, just keep it rolling and I'll reach my goals. I'm not going to weigh or measure myself for the next three months or so, just judge by my clothes fit. And also I don't plan on doing any big clothes shopping until I get much closer to goal.

That said, I'd like to see once people made that switch from being focused on weight loss and all the topics that surround it, (celebrating NSVs, and PRs, and navigating comments/sabateurs, and figuring out your "new style," etc., etc.) and just making it a part of your life as a thing you do and not something you really put a lot of mental energy into, what are some ways you enjoy this part of the journey - the coasting?

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Question about Protein

Hi there all,

I'm on my journey towards my goal weight and now that I've got a bit of a better handle on my activity and calorie goals I wanted to start thinking about the specific nutrients a bit more carefully.

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For a bit of general guidance, I'm a 31 year old female at 170cm tall and currently at 87.5kg, with around 15kg to go to get to my target. I'm using my fitness pal, and as I've set the goal to lose the weight slowly and am fairly active (10k steps daily and a few gym trips a week, mostly treadmill/exercise bike but some body weight and dumbbell stuff), I've got a daily calorie goal of 1780.

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I'm aware that I don't get enough protein at the moment (the MFP target is 102g a day, and I'm often only eating between 40g and 50g). Trouble is that I'm finding it really difficult to work out how to add more protein in. I'm vegetarian, Coeliac so TOTALY gluten free, don't like eggs or milk (I do eat cheese), can't eat any beans, nuts or pulses except chickpeas, almonds and peanuts and can't STAND tofu. I'm on a slim budget and don't have much time to cook or prepare food.

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My current days look mostly like this:

Breakfast - nut butter on rice cakes

Lunch - Rocket salad with chick peas, mayo and rice cakes

Snack - usually a gluten free biscuit/cereal bar or maybe a few grapes or almonds

Dinner - Vegetable chilli (courgette, bell pepper, chick peas, kale and tomatoes) with rice and cheese. Often followed by a small piece of cake/ice lolly/fruit

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Anyone got any ideas on how I could add some more protein in to my diet? And how much does it matter if I don't get enough protein? Will it slow down my weight loss? Have other effects?

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