On loose skin removal surgery and being called fat

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It's been a while and a lot has happened since I last haunted these parts! I finally had some loose skin removed from my stomach and arms and I'm now almost 8 weeks post op and feeling really good. It's surreal not having my belly pouch resting on my thighs when I sit down or feeling my arm skin flap around when I move. I've honestly never felt so good about myself and feel prepared to tackle the remaining weight loss because obviously I'm still carrying some visceral fat.

And then...

I was very recently called fat by someone close to me. They didn't outright say, "you're fat", it was insinuated in a convulated way. But anyway the message is the same, that person purposefully intended to hurt me with a word that they felt holds power over me. Initially my thought process went like: "how could they say that to me? After everything I've been through. I can't believe they would say that". Then I stopped, because I was internalising their problem and actually... I don't give a shit. They insulted me and that comes from a THEM issue, not a ME issue. I was perfectly happy prior to that interaction.

I just want to clarify that for me the word fat is an adjective. It's neutral. It means nothing to me other than to describe a body type, the same as slim, stocky, skinny etc etc. It wasn't always this way; being called fat used to sting like being slapped in the face. It used to be embarrassing, especially if it was said publicly and other people heard because it was like being exposed. I KNEW I was fat, but I didn't want everyone else to know and by being addressed as fat in front of others my secret was out. That was a bad place to be mentally and it has taken years to address a multitude of thinking errors.

And you know what, who actually fucking cares man. There is a lot of bad things to be in this world and fat is not on that list. Do not let other people's words and actions hold any kind of power over you. You're so much more than a shitty little word, whatever the insulting word may be to you. People lash out for various reasons and the majority of the time it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

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Switching to low carb help

Hi there :)

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I was on keto between 2018 to around the fall of 2019 and managed to go from 180 to about 155-160. It was nice being that thin for the first time in my life, but I found I had to stop going to the gym because I didn't have the energy anymore to do my usual workout. And, I was just for energy a lot. I also found it difficult after getting together with my partner as we go out occasionally, that, and he doesn't adhere to diets like I do. It's also fairly expensive. Dont get me wrong though I loved the weight loss, but I think I did it in too fast of a way that left my body in an unhealthy state.

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Fast forward to today, I'm sitting at 168. I'm eating whole grains like whole wheat bread and long grain brown rice. I eat MOSTLY clean. My goal is to get back down to 160 in a sustained way that doesn't entirely deprive myself of carbs. I've decided to go with a low-carb model so I can use the gym with more energy. My questions are this: what is considered low-carb? and does low carb mean net carbs or total carbs. How do you manage fiber intake when limiting carbs?

A rough idea of my daily macros:

Protein 105

Fat: 60

Carbs 146

- net 115

Cals 1600

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Alcohol

Hey everyone, I need to ask a question that gets me every time I read anything to do with weight loss.

They say, "Stay away from alcohol."

"I cut alcohol out of my diet and noticed the weight falling off."

"I never considered how many extra calories I was consuming with alcohol."

My question: Okay, how? How do you just give up alcohol? I'm not an alcoholic by any means and that's why I feel comfortable asking this question. I like a drink or two at the end of the day (not every day, but some days). I like drinking beer and watching TV. I like ordering fruity cocktails when I go to a restaurant. I like drinking socially with my friends. I like getting drunk on the weekends sometimes. My alcohol consumption is completely normal in my mind and I've never had any major issues with it. How are people so casual about just, "Oh, I gave up alcohol and finally lost weight!"

Huh? What? How?

What if you want to be drunk??

Genuinely so confused about how people come to that decision or find the correct balance.

EDIT: Okay, wow, those are all super helpful and realistic suggestions and explanations for this question. Thank you all! Y'all know your shit.

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I need weight loss tips because I am a complete beginner and don't want a return to disordered eating

Hello! I'm 19F, 5'2 and currently weigh 184lb, but my goal weight is 130lb. I decided quarantine was as good a time as any to start really trying to lose weight.

I do about 30 minutes exercise a day, which I know isn't much but I'm a complete beginner, and go for a dog walk everyday which is usually about an hour. In terms of my eating I'm trying to eat a value of the same as or less than 500 calories a day, and I track what I eat. I'm eating one meal a day at the moment. My eating behaviour use to be disordered but I don't feel this is disordered eating, although my step mum disagrees.

Is this enough to begin losing weight? I know a calorie deficit is required which just doesn't seem conceivable given my current activity level and eating so I plan to do one hour of exercise in the morning, as well as the dog walk, and eat OMAD.

Is this the right approach and likely to help me lose weight? I'm kind of at a loss here if I'm being honest because I'm new to this whole thing. Any help would be really really appreciated.

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People who have been maintaining for over 5 years, how have you done it?

I have been trying to lose weight for the last ~8 years or so, and it didn't really pay off. Quite the opposite, actually.

I (M/23/6'3") was 100kg (220lbs) at one point, then it became 105kg (231lbs), 112kg (247lbs) up to where I am now, at 124kg (273lbs). I tried going down, successfully losing 25kg (55lbs) at one point (CICO), only to gain it all back after a few months. This scares me a lot (where will it stop??).

To have a more scientific approach to weight loss, I began to read some books about obesity ( here and here - sorry, it's in french) and habits. The first book mentions some studies that found that a lot of diets resulted in an overall weight gain after 5 years (Anderson et al. (2001), Mann et al. (2007)):

• After 1 year, 67% of people successfully maintained their weight.
• After 2 years, they were only 44%.
• After 3 years, 32%.
• After 4 years, 28%.
• After 5 years, 21%.

Some studies were more optimistic, others were not.

Basically, what those books say, is that for someone to really lose weight and keep it off, one has to go through a process (in therapy) to lift what they call "restrictive cognition".
If someone tries to keep his diet under control, one day or another, that control will no longer be (for whatever reason - fatigue, depression, emotional distress, ...) and they will gain all the weight back, usually with a bonus. According to the authors, a better approach would be to "let nature do it's thing", and be more conscious of how we eat. We eat too much because we are too busy doing/thinking about something else to feel satiated.

What I say here is an oversimplification of the work those authors wrote, and I recommend reading those books if you can.

What I would like to get at is the following: I see a lot of people successfully losing weight, be it here at r/loseit, or at r/progresspics. I've got some progresspics myself. But what I don't see, is updates of those people at least 5 years after their diet. Did they fall into the above statistics (like I have)? Or did they successfully kept their weight off? If so, how did they manage to do it?

Thanks.

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[NSV] Went through the last 4 years of MyFitnessPal progress photos today..

Progress photos!

I was going through my progress photos on myfitnesspal today and wanted to see how I compare to the last couple of years.

I first started taking weight loss seriously back in 2016. The top photo is me just after I started, only just short of my worst ever weight; 245lbs. My first ever diet consisted of 6 meals a day of nothing but chicken, rice, and broccoli. I never really exercised while on that diet, but I also had a really tough time sticking to it. I lost about 30lbs before I fell off the wagon and ballooned again.

About a year and a half later, I felt inspired to try and get it together again, only this time follow it through to the end. I didn't do any fad diets, just counted my calories and tried to get as many steps in as I could daily. My results really started to ramp up when my roommate Bradley introduced me to intermittent fasting. Ive always been a crazy food addict, but intermittent fasting really helped me to mitigate my hunger. I walked home from work, about an hour a day, instead of bussing. The weight was really starting to fall off. At the back end of 2018 I really started to plateau though. Stuck at about 190, I couldn't lower my calories any more than I already had and, being the notoriously lazy guy I am, didn't wanna spend a bunch of time exercising to make up for it. Thanks to a lot of campaigning from Bradley once again, I gave the keto diet a shot and MAN is that effective. Within 6 weeks I dropped 23lbs, and made it to my best ever weight of 167.

The problem was, right after that I got my license and my first car. Slowly but surely I stopped my long walks, stopped being strict about what I was eating and fell hard back into old habits. By the end of 2019, I'd ballooned right back up to 213lbs. I told myself that 2020 was the year I'd get it off and keep it off. So here I am, I spent 8 weeks on keto and slowly transitioned myself off. I'm now eating a healthy balanced diet and keeping the weight off and my motivation up. Today I weighed in at 172lbs and took the bottom pic (Sorry about the bedhead, just woke up 😂). I could still afford to exercise more, but hey, it's a marathon not a sprint.

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Constipation tips?

Hi all

I’ve been on my weight loss journey since June 2019 and have been constipated for the better half of it. I recently started tracking my poop as a recommendation from my friend who tracks her baby’s poop. I rarely poop twice or more a week and using the Bristol stool chart, they’re all type 1’s.

I looked for advice on google and it said to drink more water, but I have been drinking at least 101 oz since 2019. Said to have more veggies that help soften stools, and I started to eat exuberant amounts of apples and spinach with no relief. Said to try an OTC stool softener so I tried miralax for a week and it didn’t help at all when the label said I would get bowel movements within 3 days.

Any tips to help me shit?

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