Advice for staying on track when eating out with others.

I've started a CICO based diet recently once it had finally hit me that I had let my weight get completely out of control. I've been at it a three weeks and have lost 15lbs so far going 419lbs down to 402lbs. While I'm glad I'm off to a good start with my weight loss I realize I have an obstacle to staying on track when my significant other visits. He's a cook and rarely likes to do additional cooking when he is not at work. He often subsides off of take out and microwave meals and tends to avoid vegetables. My diet at this point is a variety of vegetables cooked or prepped by me with lean meats, occasionally a protein shake if my daily protein intake is lower than my target.

Usually his choice in food doesn't interfere with me at all as we live with some distance between us and I only see him every other weekend or so. However, spending a weekend with him throws my entire calorie planning for the weekend out the window. Since he doesn't cook at home he doesn't have the kitchen equipment I'd need to prepare my meals at his place, and when he visits me, he wants to eat out as my town has more variety in restraunt.

I'm looking for advice on how to maintain a consistent diet with such a large hurdle. Is it down to just planning ahead and meal prepping for the weekend and planning to eat separately so that he doesnt feel guilty about eating what he wants to? Do I order a side salad hold the dressing and pick away at it while he goes to town on a sandwich?

Furthermore, while the pandemic has limited how often my friends and I eat out, I run into a simmilar issue. I don't want to make others self conscious of what they eat by how I eat and I'd rather not have to explain my diet Everytime I do get invited to grab some take out or something.

I recognize that I have a long journey of weight loss ahead of me. I have a firm grasp on my self control when it's just me eating alone, but I feel like I'd be more successful in the long run with a method of handling these situations for eating out with friends and loved ones without drawing more attention to it than needed.

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It's Been 6 Months Since I Started My Weight Loss Journey, and I've Lost 90 lbs!

F23 5'8 SW: 325 CW 235 GW 160 (I have PCOS as well!)

I made this alt account with the cheeky name in January (started my journey 1/17/20) and it's strange how time has flown. In January I was seriously depressed, had symptoms of pre-diabetes/diabetes from the thick grey skin on my feet, itchy extremities such as the ankles, some acanthosis nigricans, frequent stinky urination, and constant exhaustion. My feet and back hurt when I washed the dishes for a few minutes. When I weighed in on the 17th, I saw exactly 325.0 lbs on the scale I felt the perfectness of the number was a call to action to start.

So yes, it was imperative to reverse potential diabetes and I feel that was what helped me really focus.

Before you ask about progress pics, I do have a starting one. BUT, the screen of my phone (iPhone) broke a few months ago. The phone works, but the screen doesn't, so I don't know if I can get my starting pics off of it unless I fix it (have a new phone) and since I don't think I backed photos up. If you have any tips, do let me know. I probably will just have to fix the phone.

Then when COVID hit, I got even more serious. I live in the Northeast US which had a lot of cases. When it was surging, I was waking up at 6 am and going for 2 hour walks before most people got up. It felt like everyday would be the last day I could go out (fearing a total shutdown) so it focused me even more for the next couple months. I was also really focused on eating healthy despite everything (froze meat, eggs, cheese, yogurt, fruit, frozen vegetables). I knew the risks of obesity and COVID and I was laser focused to get the weight off due to the increase mortality rates for morbidly obese people like me.

But I want to remark it's impossible to be perfect and it's something that ended up costing me a lot of time looking back. I have come to realize I struggle with binge eating. I am not really a spontaneous overeater and don't really have trouble with portion control, but I crave the out of control feeling of binges. I actually had two cheat days that turned into a 3 week binge and a 3.5 week binge (second binge was definitely a oh, you've bounced back from a 3 week binge fast, you can keep going). That's 6.5 weeks out of these 6 months + the collective 2.5 weeks it took me to re-lose the weight. That's when I realized being perfect rarely ever works out. Adding more balance has really helped me :)

But yeah, I have nobody I want to share this with. I'm extremely private and haven't told my friends about it. Would rather love to surprise them in person when all this blows over. And I don't talk to my mother about my weight since she can be overbearing and I just love having this journey be for me completely. I am not sure I will tell anybody that I've lost 165 lbs maybe except doctors.

Before I get asked a million times what I do. I just do a low carb diet with walking especially to help my PCOS. I learned about the whole blood sugar theory/insulin before keto became mainstream. I focus on whole foods that are minimally process and low sugar. That's it. I generally eat two meals a day with no snacks so I mostly fall into an IF window. But don't see my diet as an IF thing. Identifying with strict diets doesn't help me. I started with a goal at around 100g of carbs and have slowly wound my down intuitively. In the beginning, ate three meals a day and snacks if I was hungry. As my appetite mellowed out, I'm down to two meals. I don't track calories or macros anymore since I don't like tracking and it's kind of a disordered "race to the bottom kind of thing."

I probably am somewhere near keto (have done it in the past semi-successfully, but hate the GI issues), but I don't particularly care to follow it (love 2% greek yogurt and dried cranberries too much) and it's not sustainable for ME. In the first month I didn't do any exercise, then started walking like 20-30 mins, and upped it to 2 hours a day. I also do a lot of walking, pacing, dancing in my house which can sometimes amount to 10,000+ steps. This is either by itself if I don't go out to walk or much less in addition to the two hours outside I do . I'd recommend if you are starting out, start gradually. I think that's a huge reason why this time feels so good. In the past it would be New Years and I'd bust my ass at the gym and then burn out. While being super strict with a diet. This time I took it slow, and somehow it's been fast. I like to tell people enjoy the initial water weight woosh. It will come off even if you don't feel you are going crazy.

I don't want to make this post too long, but maybe later I'll share some tips at 100 lbs lost or something. It's crazy that I could be in the 220s by the end of the month.

But yeah, I just wanted to celebrate.

I still have a chunk of weight to go (75 lbs), but I'm still shocked about how I was able to tackle a huge chunk of it. If there was any doubt that I can lose the next 75 lbs, well, I've already done it!

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Weight Loss on Psych Meds

SW: 414 CW: 398 GW: 150

About a year ago, I was put on psych meds. I gained 60 pounds, maxing out at around 414. I’ve always struggled with my weight and this felt like a huge blow and I just refused to tell anyone about it. After a few months, I opened up to my doctor about my inability to lose weight while on my medications, and she didn’t shame me like I thought she would. She made sure I didn’t have an underlying issue and worked with me to come up with a plan to lose weight. I’m now down about 15 pounds, and feeling better about myself than I ever have. I finally feel like I’m capable of controlling my life.

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Working on not being eating disorder-y

Hello everyone,

So my weight has been an insane journey. I was on SSRIs and ADD meds for years and I was super underweight and had an insane “”perfect”” body. I had been off the ADD meds for awhile after but the SSRIs and general anxiety killed my appetite and I was still very skinny for a long time, and then switched meds, along with birth control. I gained a lot of weight (like from about 115 to literally 165) and it’s been really hard on me. I have an EDNOS thing going on and this sub has helped me to be reasonable about CICO instead of just eating disordered habits to be skinny again. It sucks after being skinny my whole life, especially when medication is sabotaging it, but knowing I’m not a teen anymore helps to keep myself honest and not just treat my body like a trash can anymore. It’s so hard not being the ideal and distorted body anymore considering my hourglass natural figure and people noticing my stomach and body in general are much bigger. It’s hard, but I truly am working on eating a decent amount of calories a day, cutting down on my liquid cals (esp when attending a party school) and working out to literally just be healthy and strong. I want to thank you all for promoting healthy weight loss and encouraging the best.

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Proud of who I am becoming

I am a little scared to write this but I figure why the heck not. Actually pretty scared. I am on mobile, sorry.

I am 30F who started at 189lbs. Life is not the easiest for me. I have quite a lot of health issues including anklosying spondylitis and psoriatic arthritis being my two main problems. Add depression, stress and anxiety plus dependency on marijuana to the mix and I got to my lowest point in May.

I have always hated myself and tried to cope in different ways or over do it when I did have motivation, but never succeeded for more than a few days before laying down in bed, in pain and very depressed.

Something happened in May where I just couldn't take it anymore. I didn't even want to be alive. It was becoming more of a reality than a once-in-a-while thought. I had the hardest night of my life, but I faced some fears and I told people around me, I became honest with myself and others about my demons.

Something clicked the next morning. I quit smoking marijuana, and I started my "journey". With that, the anxiety went down and my head became more clear. From there, I started looking in the mirror and telling myself I loved myself even through the tears and the voice in my brain telling me I didn't. I pushed through. I started caring.

Slowly but surely, I am learning to pace rather than expect an overnight change. In the past few weeks after doing some research have switched to mainly a Mediterranean diet for inflammation, I follow an app for weight loss and I am walking over 10000 steps daily, doing aqua fit, and biking. I make my lunch every night for work, I am cooking almost all meals at home and my choice of snack is now fruit rather than ice cream or candy. My relationships are better and the toxic people who were in it are weeding their way out.

I'm just proud. I am down just over 10 pounds and looking forward to another 25. I cried seeing the scale at 178 today. I am trying so hard and I feel so good doing stuff that I need to for my body, no one else's.

It isn't just about losing weight. It is about facing your fears, your demons, your mind and creating better habits for yourself.

Just wanted to write this incase anyone else is struggling with mental health, physical health, disabilities and doubts. Love every inch of yourself. You can do this and I will always be proud of you from afar. This is my journey.

Thank you for listening.

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My weird NSV

I started my weight loss journey about 2 months ago and I’ve been mainly focused on CICO. However, I do exercise everyday which is just walking for a few miles. I walked 4 miles this afternoon on very steep inclines and I had chipotle for dinner. I didn’t feel too good because I was stressed and scared I overate so I decided to go walk around a track and neighborhood. I don’t know where the courage came from, but I just started to run. I was slow, but I still made it around the track 1.5 times without stopping which for me is a HUGE victory because I used to not be able to run for more than 10 seconds. I have really bad anxiety and hate that people look at me while they drive past (I know they don’t it’s just my anxiety). For 5 min on the walk back to my house, I kept looking back and forth back and forth to see if any cars were coming so I could give another go at running. Eventually, I said fuck it and just ran even if there were cars coming towards me. The distance I ran wasn’t a lot, but its just so nice to just run and not think or care about anything. I know to many it doesn’t seem like a lot, but to me it is because this subreddit has been somewhere I come to every night when I’m in bed because I look forward to all your encouragements and support for one another. I know it sounds stupid, but that’s my NSV. I might hate running tomorrow, but I’m really glad I was finally able to try. Didn’t think I’d ever say this, but I’m really excited to get my life back on the right track even if it takes a while.

I know that a lot of you are in the same place as me and are prob lurkers, but I hope that you guys too are able to take weight loss easy and find your NSVs!

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Tired of Beating Myself over my weight

Hello Reddit, I am a 19 year old college student that has tried weight loss dozens of time in my life. I have failed time and time again. But I have realized that food enjoyment does not compensate for the years of Fear that surround any social situation I am in. I am always afraid to be made fun of in all the groups that I am in. For years, I continue to compensate for that irrational phobia by being extremely self conscious and and direct my energy towards being funny or academics. Today is a new day however, I am going to change my life and finally be comfortable with who I am. I wish to see the day in which I can truly experience a wholesomeness in my identity. No more fear. Day one starts now!

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