How do I start safely as a morbidly obese man.

I’m finally deciding to start my weight loss journey but I’m scared of hurting myself. I’m 6’6 and 400 pounds. My healthy weight is around 210 so I’m about 200 over right now. I know a lot about nutrition and how to handle that. I was told losing weight when your as big as I am is 80% diet and 20% exercise. How frequently should I exercise and for how long and what exercises should I do ? I don’t want to lose the weight real quick than put it back on I’m wanting to make a life style change. What is a work out schedule that I’m going to be able to maintain without hurting myself. I’m scared if I hurt myself and can’t go to the gym that’ll ruin the routine of it. Thank you so much for any help.

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how do you get past the guilt of losing weight?

I (20f) have been on my weight loss journey since early 2021. I have had my moments of inconsistency but recently have been finding myself really motivated. Since I have gotten to college and been living by myself I have seen drastic positive changes in my progress and the way I treat myself. I feel like it is because I am able to regulate my own diet and go to the gym more often. However, my family members are all overweight and I struggle whenever as go home to see them. I feel almost guilty for the progress that I have made and the weight I have lost because I know they wish they were losing weight as well. I also feel guilty eating differently or less consistently than they do because I do not want them to feel as though I think they did a bad job raising me. It may sound dramatic but I am really just looking if anyone has advice as to how to not feel guilty?

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How do you get past the beginning stages of losing weight when you want it all gone NOW?

I’m not sure if this title makes sense but I’m trying to describe the way I feel right now. I weigh more than I ever have in my life and after stepping on the scale today I’m honestly disgusted. I know I shouldn’t be because I need to love my body and myself no matter what and give myself grace, but I just feel so totally repulsive. It makes me want to go nuclear somehow and get the weight gone immediately. My problem is I feel hopeless with the amount of time it would take me to lose the amount of weight I want to lose. Realistically, I need to lose like 60 pounds to even be at the top range of “healthy”. I’ve never lost more than like 10 pounds and when I did that, it was because I was depressed and not eating. I’m sitting here considering how I can force myself into an eating disorder or somehow get prescribed weight loss pills when really, I do not want to do either of those things. I just feel desperate to not be fat anymore. Does anyone relate to this?? I almost feel like I can’t start because I’m already so far gone it’s like I have to climb a whole mountain and I feel so overwhelmed. How can I stop freaking out and just… start? I need some words of wisdom if you’ve got ‘em!

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Anyone’s sex drive decrease with weight loss?

Out of the things i expect to deal with after losing weight, this is the last thing i expect tbh i searched around and a lot of people said their sex drive went up. Im a woman, and it went down, and is causing a strain on my relationship with my SO…

I started losing weight 3 months ago and lost 15lbs so far (5’3, SW: 148, CW: 133lb, GW: 120) i felt great and work out 4-5 days a week after work. Before this, my SO and I’s sex drive are generally the same and on the higher side. It’s great. But both of us notice mine decrease a lot after i started to lose weight. I would leave work at 4PM, then work out for 1-1.5 hrs ,i fast at 4PM too and dont eat dinner. By the time im home, im exhausted and just want to lay in bed, thus im not in the mood. My SO has been very frustrated and i’m not as wet either, and i dont know why. But if i try to go along he will notice and get upset too.

I reduced my # of workout to go home early. After a few fights, we decided to go with scheduling specific days for sex. It works great but if either of us are sick, dont feel like it then it throws off the entire schedule, and we fight again.

Im losing weight for our wedding in June and my SO has been very understanding and supportive, sometimes a bit worried that im too hard on myself, but this is the biggest problem for us right now. Did anyone go through this and resolve it? Im still not at my GW yet and im worried if i relax my routine, i wont get there, gain my weight back and will not look good for my wedding. At the same time i feel for my SO and understand how going from having high sex drive to lower one can be very frustrating. Why did my sex drive go down? Any suggestion? :(

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I hate how much I constantly self sabotage my weight loss (vent)

Just a short little vent/rant, I'm mad at myself lol.

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Man, I know what to do, what to eat, what I shouldn't eat, and yet almost every damn day I find myself caving into my cravings, often using a half-assed excuse to try and make myself feel better, but it doesn't work. I am so addicted to sugar it drives me insane, I only feel good in the moment, but as soon as it's gone so is that sugar high, and then the guilt and gut ache sets in, and my face gets red and itchy every time I eat sugar too. I just want to open up my skull and pull out my brain and yell at it like the dumb lump of flesh it is.

I've lost 60 pounds, gone from 250 to 190, but every time I hit 190 I self sabotage and find myself bouncing between 190-195 for nearly a year now, I haven't seen under 190 since I was like 10. I want to see the numbers drop lower, I want to see my stomach shrink and the chub in my cheeks vanish, but I just can't stop eating the crap, and I can't stop with the crap excuses either. "I had a bad day, I'm tired, it's my birthday month, ect." Blah blah blah it's all bullshit, but I just don't know how to stop it.

It's not like it's all junk though, I'd say about 80% of the time I eat healthy, home made meals, but that 20% junk hits hard and hits heavy. I have a donut shop, a café, and multiple fast food joints and restaurants all within a 20 minute walk from my home, and the temptation is so strong even when my budget is so tight, I've spent nearly 200 on takeout already and I hate myself for it. It doesn't help that I'm currently extra exhausted lately as transit hasn't been running for about 3 weeks now with no signs of returning anytime soon, so I've added more walking to my day to save money on my rides to and from work, which have been killing both my knees and my wallet.

Just today I ate like shit, I had a stupid donut for breakfast, a large coffee from starbucks, a large plate of chinese food at the mall, an ice cream shake from baskins, and a scone from the donut place. I didn't even enjoy the shake, I was already so full from the chinese food, but for some dumb reason I spent 9 bucks on that damn shake that made me feel like crap. Why did I do that? I didn't need it, but I got it anyway, been beating myself up since.

I wish I had more self control, more will power, I just want to be healthy, I just want to stop being fat, I hate being fat so damn much, makes me look too much like my mother, I hate hate hate it. I want to look like the me I know I am, I'm tired of being compared to her. I will never, ever be her.

I wanna be happy with what I see in the mirror, I can't accept myself like this.

Rant/vent over.

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People’s attitudes towards food and me.

I think I need to vent a bit and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing.

At my heaviest, when I would visit friends and families homes I noticed that I would be offered no food or asked if I was hungry if I was there for a considerable portion of the day. That was fine. I never expected it.

Now I’m 45lbs into my weight loss journey, omg everyone wants to put food in my mouth. ‘Are you hungry? Do you want something to eat?’ No. No I don’t. I have much more control over what I choose to put in my face and my calorie-counted meals are already pre-planned.

It really gets on my nerves how now I’m getting myself together, people seem to want to test or sabotage me. I say no to most things I haven’t planned for, but people want to feed me now? You could have fed me when I was fatter! And hungrier! Not when I’m doing well in getting rid of the extra flabbage!

Anyway, rant over. Phew.

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I’m down 29 pounds and one pound away from being 30 pounds lighter than when my mom saw me last

Which is important because I need her to see my progress. Not only because she’ll be happy for me, but also because maybe she’ll start to see me as someone who she can learn from in this regard. I see her on Monday, and I will more than likely have lost a solid 30 pounds or slightly more since I got serious three months ago. She goes back and forth about if she needs to lose weight but she acknowledges her lifestyle is too sedentary.

I hope my success will inspire her to change. I think it already is - she joined a club today that has a pool and nice shady tiki huts so she’ll have somewhere to go and get out of the house and do something fun and physical. Anyway, I have a way to go on this weight loss marathon, but I’m so happy my positive changes are causing my loved ones to start to make their own.

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