I had a dream that I reached my ultimate NSV

For reference, 33M, highest weight 449, currently roughly 395. Lots of history of weight loss battles but this experience was a first.

I don't want to push what's working or not working for me, but I recently got put on the medication Topamax for Binge Eating Disorder. It isn't a fix all but it helps me look at food more objectively instead of obsessively.

But about 3 weeks ago I started doing keto, my first real diet since getting my mental health in check, and I noticed I don't live for the next cheat meal. Temptation is def still there, but more manageable.

But last night the biggest and most unexpected motivation came to me. I usually have nightmares if anything at all, but last night I dreamt I was happy with myself. Probably smaller. I don't know how much smaller, definitely not a model, but I have a vivid memory of looking in a mirror and being happy with the progress I saw. It was the greatest feeling ever. And different from most dreams you'd wake up from, the good feeling kept going after I woke up and realized it was a dream.

I wonder if my body just rested well enough after so long that this was it's way of rewarding itself. It was nice to get a little reward along this long ass road that I still have plenty left to cover. I look forward to the next time.

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Making progress, I'm really happy about it?

I think it's been almost 4 months? MAYBE 3? I can't pin point when I started losing weight it was definitely late July and early August so maybe just 3 months.

I'm in the 240's now basically and I'm walking 11-12k steps per day. I've accepted that I have to lose weight slowly, and I KNOW I'll be my goal weight by July of next year at the rate I'm losing weight. So I'm pretty content, Just have to keep pushing forward. And my new diet is pretty sustainable, I really don't enjoy junk food at all I think I just eat when I'm stressed, but now I just walk at 3.5 mph when I'm stressed lol! I still want to go to a gym because at home work out feels ...unproductive but I'm doing my best! I really am looking forward to the future of my weight loss tp be back down to a healthy weight.

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I put the biscuits back in the cupboard

So, these past few months I've really struggled with snacking at night. I had gotten better at it but then I got sick and barely ate for a week or two, so when I was able to eat again I just... wouldn't be reasonable.

I live at my parents' and they have lot of snacks stored in this cupboard downstairs. A bad habit I've desperately been trying to break was taking biscuit packets at night, they're super high in calories and I tend to eat so many even if I'm not hungry. Anyway, I've been doing alright lately by replacing those biscuits with an apple each night. I love apples, so I end up wanting them more than say, biscuits.

But... I finished the apples last night. So tonight I made a stop at the cupboard to take a few biscuit packets. I didn't eat them, but I did take them to my room with the intention to eat them all in one go... But as I went back in my room and put all the biscuit packets on my computer desk, I felt this crushing guilt. I started thinking of my weight loss goals, and how my future self would be disappointed if I binged again tonight... I had promised myself I'd be better from now on. So I started thinking, hey, I could just put those biscuits back in the cupboard?

The thought of that initially made me want to eat them even more. Buuut, thankfully I remembered I have those small rusks stored in my desk specifically for when I'm craving something and want to soothe the cravings. They're my emergency little snacks but I keep forgetting about them. And, well, rusks are not same, but I realized all those biscuits wouldn't be worth it and I know I'd just feel sad about it tomorrow if I ate them. So I took back the biscuit packets and put them all back in the cupboard where I got them.

I know it sounds so simple, but in the past, whenever I'd bring snacks I knew I shouldn't be eating, I'd think to myself "Oh well, they're already here anyway, might as well eat them" when trying to convince myself to bring them back. This time I was able to push my cravings away and do the right thing for myself. I'm so proud!! :D

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Has anyone ever gained or lost weight after starting a relationship?

Ok. To all the couples, I'd love your tips.

I started dating a guy this summer. Although we've only been dating a short time, we recently decided to live together. He had a transformative weight loss journey before we met, but as soon as we started dating and living together he was very excited to do all the couple things he didn't get to do. He took me out to dinner almost every night and between the two of us we gained about 16 lbs in 4 weeks.

I went away for a business trip that kept us apart for 1 week so far. In this week I already lost 5 lbs. No diets or anything. Just literally... being... apart... 😢 and not doing all the date stuff that somehow equals unhealthy stuff.

This is the first time either of us have been in a relationship in 10 years. We're trying to figure out ways to regain the healthy balance we had as single individuals into a shared living environment. I'm still away on business and want to make sure we both have healthy systems in place when I return so we don't fall into the same trend.

I've never struggled with weight per-say, but he lost close to 100lbs over the course of two years. I took a lot of work and I want to be a positive support in this aspect of his life.

How have other people navigated health goals in a partner dynamic?

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Start of my journey

Hey everyone! I just found this community today and recently started my weight loss journey, I tend to be a shy person so this is totally out of my comfort zone but I think it'll be good for me to post here with others who are working toward similar goals.

I am 27F and have struggled with my weight all of my life. I have recently wanted to get to a healthy weight so I could just feel better. A friend of mine is a personal trainer and I am going to school for Engineering and Physics so he and I made a deal. He is training me and I am tutoring him in physics. My starting weight was taken on 9/13 and I was amazed at how much I've lost since then, my current weight was measured about 30 minutes ago.

SW: 279.6 lbs/~126 kg GW: 150 lbs/~68 kg

CW: 260.3 lbs/~118 kg

I know it seems like fast weight loss but I swear I'm not starving myself or anything like that. I just used to eat so badly that when I cut out all of my bad foods, it kicked things into over drive I guess. I literally had sugar withdrawals but I am so proud of myself for sticking with it, and I'm starting to feel healthier.

My typical day in meals: 1. Breakfast: usually an apple and a protein bar or 2 eggs and toast (not white bread, it's low carb bread) 2. Lunch: usually a veggie soup of sorts (my fav is split pea) or a salad 3. Snack: usually a protein shake with fruits like Bananas and Strawberries mixed in 4. Dinner: chicken breast, veggies (varies) and sometimes a little rice (only when I feel a little extra hungry)

I am addicted to soda (sugar in general but its also something about soda specifically, even caffeine and sugar free ones will satisfy the craving) so if I am craving it badly enough, instead of breaking the diet I just let myself have a diet coke. It helps because I don't really like diet coke but it's been helping me not cave on drinking non diet soda (it also is only once every week that I do this and I drink it with a meal). Other than that all I drink is water.

My work out routine is more weight training based than cardio, my trainer advised that it is better for women typically to lose weight this way than through pure cardio. I also do cardio days but it's not the main focus. I do a lot of squats, burpees, planks, etc.

I also have realized that part of this change needs to be hormonal so I am working on getting to my primary care physician to get blood work and tests to get a better picture of my health. Specifically looking for hormonal imbalances, this is something I never explored until recently and it seems it could fit the bill too.

Sorry for the long post, I am just excited to be starting this journey and to now have a community to share with! If you made it this far, thanks for reading and feel free to share your own story or some tips. Thanks 😊

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Intense session with my therapist today

I have been going to therapy for several months as I felt I had several mental blocks that were preventing me from losing weight again. I had a a very intense session with my therapist today related to weight loss and body image issues.

He stated his view how the gym should not be a “punishment.” How the gym should not be about me going and killing myself but to help relieve stress and break a sweat. He then made the statement that the gym will not help me lose weight, the kitchen is where you go to lose weight.

I told him I understood that it was still up to me to make sure my calories are under control, but the gym would help me with that by reducing my calorie total. He then stated that I could never work out enough at the gym to make for any amount of calories.

He also mentioned “starvation brain” and “starvation mode.” At this point I decided to take his views on calories with a grain of salt.

I continued nonetheless and stated how I disagreed that the gym should not be a “punishment.” I then let loose how I felt I needed to suffer as I felt it was only through perfection and suffering that I would get the ripped body I want.

I told him about how I lost 70 pounds in college and how unhappy I was because even though I could wear smaller clothes and looked skinny my “skinny fat” pouch of muffin top fat I still had around my stomach still made me feel disgusting and I felt I needed a more perfect body.

It is during this time that I discovered that even though my calorie counting did help me lose body mass, because I had not lifted weights and because I ate processed food that is why I was left with that gross pouch of fat.

Or at least that is what I understood after reading several fitness forums. It was at this time that I commented about how when it came to getting a good body there were so many different opinions and I just felt utterly lost.

I then commented about why I felt that any attempt at weight loss had to be perfect (as in a perfect diet, no cheats ever, hitting calories correctly always, and killing myself at the gym) because it was the only way to get the body that I felt I needed to truly get the happiness and relationship that I want. (I am a gay man)

I then commented about how this notion of “its the inside that matters” is a bunch of bullshit in my view because my online profiles where I try to showcase my personality are ignored. Even when I lost the weight, that never led to any more attention. That is why I am convinced that only six pack abs will get me what I want, but I am not sure if I have willpower to ever get there and that puts me in a never-ending spiral of resentment, regret, failure and shame.

I acknowledged that these thoughts were probably not healthy, but that is truly how I felt. We then ran out of time and he said we could discuss this more at our next session. It was distressing because I ranted about everything I hated dating and fitness, but I didn’t get to process it with my therapist and I won’t be able to until next week.

And now I have to come back to work and pretend nothing is wrong. I’m hoping writing this out will make me feel better

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Overeating for 2 back to back days

Hi everyone, i started my journey on september 15th. I'm on keto and I am a 5'1 female, 21 y old. September 15th I started at 170lb and today I am at 163. I was 163 3 days ago, and over the weekend (both weekends) one of the days of the weekend I was on keto but went wayy over my calorie budget because I went out to eat and wings were caloric (i chose a 25 calorie dry rub for it) and a side salad with ranch. I felt super guilty. Then on the other day, I ate a little bit of rice because i was at a cultural event and I felt super guilty. When i weighed myself, it looks like my weight didn't go up but i am a little worried the rice may have kicked me out of ketosis. Do you think these 2 days will throw off my weight loss journey?

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