I’ve gotten to the point where my mom is sabotaging my weight loss.

My mom has been overweight since giving birth to me. She’s crash dieted several times throughout her life never with success. She’s at least 230-250lbs I’d guess but she claims she’s 195.

I’ve always had issues with food and body image because of how she raised me to fear fat but also yelling at me that it’s my fault that I’m fat and I just need to have more self control and exercise more (she’s projecting big time). She moralizes food and fatness all the time without realizing it. She has zero understanding of nutrition and her idea of a “diet” is the Atkins low-carb bacon-only diet which she only sticks with for 2 weeks before giving up. Her idea of a workout is a 20 minute aerobics video which would do NIL for me. I could eat those calories back with half a cookie. She thinks calories don’t matter and it’s all about cutting out all carbs.

So suffice to say I know that she is not a reliable source of information and I should actually celebrate her criticisms because if she disagrees it probably means I’m doing something right lol.

Anyways I lost a lot of weight at 18 from taking up biking as a hobby. She celebrated me getting skinny but also pressured me to eat ice cream and cookie dough and hamburgers and fries every time I see her (she still does this EVERY TIME). Major cognitive dissonance. I think she subconsciously hates the idea of me not struggling with weight anymore because it means we won’t have that in common. Plus it means she can’t blame genetics.

Over the years I slowly put the weight back on and then some from food delivery during the pandemic plus a series of sedentary jobs. Finally I hit the peak last year when I was 215lbs (at 5’2” that’s morbidly obese). So I started walking 15k steps daily for several months, intermittent fasting and lost about 20lbs on my own before I decided to start semaglutide (not the same formulation as ozempic fyi). Since then I’ve gotten down to 155 but my goal weight is 130-140, and I would still be in the upper end of healthy at that weight. Even now at 155 (still overweight) my mom says I’m “skinny” and need to stop losing weight (she also doesn’t know about the semaglutide). She continues to sabotage me every time I visit. Luckily she’s moving away soon so I won’t have to deal with it for long.

Also I’m going to start lifting and eating more protein so I can also be fit and toned. Right now I’m definitely flabby.

She thinks going to the gym and building muscle is “unnatural” for women and the goal should simply be to stay skinny and small (gotta love the 1950s boomer mentality 🙄)

Just wanted to share this unconventional non-scale victory— losing the support of our closest family because they’re threatened when they see us making positive changes. Yay!

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Ive lost 4lbs in my first week!!!

So essentially I want to ask what has caused such a massive drop in weight? is this all just water weight or is this genuine fast loss? as I do look slightly slimer around the face but I dont know if that was just like water or what. Also can I expect to keep losing 4lbs every week?

I Would also like to add that Ive always been on the larger side most of my life so even just losing 4lbs has made me so happy. Say I did loose 4lbs every week is this that a healthy weight to loose every week or could this cause some health issues?

Any advice on that would be much appricated. Just to add Im going to slimming world (UK) and its essentially a weight loss group and ive been following their diet rules and its been working for me pretty well so far

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How to know when to stop losing weight?

Hi everyone!

I've been a silent lurker in this sub for a while. All the posts about weight loss success have been so inspiring and I love reading how people achieved their own happier, healthier lives.

But a question that has been on my mind for a while now is this:

How do you know when to stop losing weight? When is it enough? And when does the pursuit of health turn into vanity?

One step back - let's put my question into relation to my own experience.

Around the start of 2020, I had lost a total of ca. 25 kg. I started at 102 kg as my highest weight in late 2018 and then steadily lost weight down to 76 kg. Currently, I weight 78 kg at 178 cm height, and this has been stable for the past 3 years. (For reference, I am now 29F.)

Losing weight changed my life, confidence, health, and social relationships for nothing but the better. I started exercising, got a bit into weight lifting and recently I've even begun running. I finally feel at home in the physical form I inhabit. I can wear the cute clothes, exercise, I can go hike and walk without being out of breath!

But I also still struggle with my weight and body image.

I was very happy with how I looked for a while.

Around half a year ago, I for some reason began looking more critically at myself. I've been trying to lose more weight ever since my weight has stagnated, ultimately aiming for a goal weight between 70-75 kg. This has been unsuccessful. I simply cannot stick to a calorie deficit for long enough and exercise makes me hungrier. But despite weight lifting, my measurements haven't changed. My waist has been a consistent 79-81 cm for years now, my hips 105-106 cm (narrowest and widest point respectively). I seem to be unable to shift these measurements at all. I don't measure my legs but it looks as if I put on muscle there, I'm unsure about this.

Now I've been wondering... when is wanting to lose more weight just pure vanity? I've been chubby or fat all my life and I don't know what I'd even look like at a lower BMI as this (BMI currently around 24.7) is the lowest one I've ever had.

I still don't like how big my stomach is and I'm also worried about the possibility of it being visceral fat.

Can someone help me evaluate how much of this is valid as genuine health concerns and how much is pure vanity? Would it be beneficial to have a BMI of 22-24 to stay "firmly" in the healthy area as I age and weight becomes harder to manage? Do I have to work unreasonably hard to lose the rest of this weight or am I doing something wrong? (I do 10k steps a day, will run twice a week now, lift weights irregularly 1-2 x full body a week) I know that food has an emotional component for me but even when I prioritise protein at 125-160g per day, I am simply starving.

Is it time to accept myself as I am, or can I push harder for my current and future health?

I hope the question makes sense and I'm so excited to hear any shared experience or opinion :)

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Work makes it so hard.

I just don’t think people realise how hard work makes weight loss - my job entails attending a lot of events, which may involve a three course meal and alcohol. That, alongside big events in the summer, have really made it hard. Thankfully I can feel my clothes getting looser but I really wish work wasn’t making things so hard. I’ve spoken to my PT about it, who has been so supportive and said it’s ok to enjoy yourself and you don’t have to be permanently ‘good’. This post is simply to vent a bit.

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Skinny fat 5’3 130lb female looking for weight loss / strength training advice

So I’ve been in a weird weight loss journey for a few years now where when I was in college, I took adhd medication and was more skinny than I realized because it reduced my appetite. I got off the medication a few years ago because it wasn’t doing well for my anxiety and I went from 115 to 130 lbs. I never had body dysmorphia issues until that happened and there were even people that commented on my weight gain which is what made me notice it in the first place. I learned more about calories and started a 1200 calorie deficit which helped me lose about 5 lbs, but I couldn’t maintain eating 1200 calories and I don’t find that sustainable for me. I’m back at the same weight of 130lbs I wanted to ask what has helped those of you in a similar situation to lose those 10 lbs? My body just doesn’t seem to budge, and even though it’s a healthy weight, I notice a difference in my face even when I lose 5 lbs. For context I do HIIT 1-2 times a week, strength training 1-2 times a week, Pilates once a week, and try to get 10k steps the days I’m not working out. It seems like a lot of activity to be maintaining the same weight which is discouraging.

I also read a lot about doing a body recomp which I’ve tried to do the past few months and maybe need to improve on. But I haven’t really noticed a difference which frustrates me. I know I’ll never have the body I did a few years ago, but I wish I could find a routine that would get me to my goals sustainably.

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Been gaining 1kg a month since I got long covid

IT'S BEEN HELL!!! I just weighted myself today and saw I was weighting 97kg... I got covid in Dec 22 and before that I was on my weight loss and fitness journey and managed to lose 15kg!! And I finally fell in love with exercise for the first time in my life.

Since I was born I was in the "overweight" section, dad side of family has always been "hunk-ish" and mom skinny. Since that once I tried to be in a "normal" weight when I was a teen but got sick so easily doc said "your normal weight should be around 75-82kg".

Dec 22 I was at 89kg!! I was so close to that normal weight but covid hit me and my health has been in decline since then and been bed bound for a while (and the gaining weight happened)

The thing is that I recently injured my leg and now I can't walk for a big while. Got other cardiac complications and doc said I have to eat 5 meals a day bc any type of physical stressors triggers the pain and symptoms

The thing is, how the hell do I lose weight now?!?!? Diet and exercise helped a lot back then bc it helped not feel hunger and distracted overall. But now that just when I could handle exercise, I injured myself. I don't even know how to change this, it's hard to think ...

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Carbs aren’t all bad

I’m making this post as a little rant. My dad just got home from a 2 week business trip and I am a week and a half into my journey. I’ve been eating in a calorie deficit, walking 30 mins every day and losing weight consistently. I don’t restrict myself from anything but whether I find alternatives. I’ve made a lower calorie-high protein pizza, healthy no sugar pancakes and a high protein Turkey wrap. All carbs I’ve eaten are wholemeal and/or grains. Well my dad got home and I was so excited to tell him how much weight I’ve already lost. He wasn’t happy. He told me that i am eating too many carbs and that what I’ve been eating is unhealthy. I argued that the carbs are wholemeal and aren’t processed but he kept going. I left crying. I see it a lot on social media too but carbs aren’t all bad, it’s only the processed ones and eating too much. Weight loss doesn’t have to be all salads and vegetables, you can still enjoy what you love but just find healthier alternatives or eat it in moderation. I just wish people knew this.

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