My best friend of 8+ years cut me off from her life because of my weight loss

So we’ve been friends with each other since middle school. It’s always been me and her. Even though she would get toxic and really competitive with me at times, I accepted her and tried to ignore it. We were both overweight and dealing with eating disorders. She would always start those crazy diets which are not sustainable such as avoiding carbs completely, so she would lose weight for like 2 months and then gain it all back and some. She was always either my size or smaller than me. Since I started my weight loss journey, I didn’t rub my success in her face or anything. She would compliment me and I would just say thank you for noticing and that’s it. But I noticed that she is slowly drifting away, answering dryly to my messages and not initiating anything to do. Basically ghosting me. I haven’t met her in 2 months now and mind you we used to meet up at least twice a week. I asked her twice if something happened or if I did something wrong and she just told me that she’s busy. Also she sent me a really dry happy birthday text and didn’t find time to celebrate it with me, said she’s busy and this was before I realized she’s slowly ghosting me so I believed her. I told my mom about this and she said that it must be bugging her that for the first time in our lives I’m the one who’s smaller, and that she’s always been this competitive with me. I understand her being jealous but ffs, I was her best friend, we travelled the world together, did everything together. I went through a really rough patch last year, had to drop out of college and deal with other personal issues and she did stand by me then but why can’t she do the same when I’m finally doing better and taking care of myself? I just think it’s so unfair to drop our 8+ year old friendship like this. But this is a new era in my life and I need to leave the toxic people behind. If she can’t support me when I’m doing good then she’s not a real friend. I am proud of myself and shouldn’t feel bad for becoming healthier.

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SV: 60 lbs down, 50 to go!

(Photos attached below!)

I’m just over halfway through my weight loss journey and am taking it slow and steady, as I started in January 2022 (just over 1.5 years ago).

I am a busy student so I alternate between periods where weight loss is my top priority and periods where it cannot be my main focus - when it isn’t my main focus, I stick to some of my new habits and always manage to maintain without tracking for a few months until exams/ important events pass and I enter the next weight loss period.

This system has worked a lot better for me personally than attempting to rapidly lose all of the weight over a certain period of time as it allows me to not stress and to enjoy vacations/ focus on school when needed.

I started at 242, which at 5’1”, is about double my ideal body weight. I’m now at 181 and I feel like a different person. The “healthy” BMI for my height is between 98 and 132 lbs - I’m aiming for anything below 132, as I’m more concerned with being healthy than aiming for a particular goal weight. Honestly, 131.9 would be enough for me.

I don’t track exact calories with an app or log everything, but I do keep a general ballpark going in my head throughout the day. For instance, I know the calories of the typical breakfasts I make, so then depending on what I have for breakfast, I can ballpark adjust my lunch/ dinner choices to reflect breakfast. If I know I’m having a larger dinner, might have a healthier lunch, etc etc…

I’m sure as I get smaller I’ll probably have to start exact calorie counting, but right now this method is working for me. I should also say I have a number of new habits that I have consistently formed over the past year and a half that consistently contribute a great deal to my weight loss.

These habits are:

• only drinking water, coffee, and alcohol. I know how that sounds lol. But I love coffee and I am a student who parties a bit, so those are my non-negotiables. Outside of a daily coffee and a couple weekend drinks, I drink water 24/7 and have completely eliminated soda and other sugary drinks that I don’t care about as much. I can count on my hand the exact number of times (4) I’ve had soda since 2021 which is crazy because as a teen I drank it daily.
• Only eating what I love. If someone offers me a cookie, I will take one, because I love cookies. Ice cream is just meh to me, so I’ll usually say no, because I would rather save those calories for a cookie the next time I get offered one. That’s a generalized example but you get the gist; instead of eating everything, I’ve been prioritizing my favorite foods.
• Eating out less. I’ve found that sometimes I can make “unhealthy” meals at home for fewer calories than the “healthier” meals I can buy out. I just cook what I enjoy at home and the lack of added salt makes me feel so much less bloated. I didn’t realize how shitty fast food made me feel until I stopped eating it regularly. Now when I get fast food I feel like crap for a few days.
• Listening to my hunger cues. This one is hard and I’m still learning. I used to stuff myself until I couldn’t stop; now I try to stop eating when I’m full. In the same regard, I try to wait until I feel actual physical hunger to eat, instead of eating whenever I’m bored or just because it’s “time to eat.” This one is a work in progress but I’m much, much better at it than when I started.

I hope this helps some people by showing it’s not about perfection but about realistic habits. I’ve always tried to be as sustainable as possible with my habits and I definitely think it’s working. There have been a few occasions where school got busy and I completely stopped tracking meals or focusing on weight loss for a few months, but never gained anything back because my new habits have become so engrained. I’m not too worried about maintenance at the end because I’ve ended up sort of “testing” maintenance every 20 lbs and haven’t found it difficult to keep the weight off at all.

Hopefully I am able to continue losing and eventually reach a healthy BMI!

Before/ after photos

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Could only dieting 5 days a week result in weight loss even if I binge on weekends?

So to be fair I'm 52kg and my weight goal is a bit under, being 48kg. But it was the happiest I ever been with my body and I wanna be that weight again.

I'm counting calories, but to be honest I'm not being super strict and if I feel more hungry I eat more, so that probably also makes dieting a bit less effective. But here's the deal, I binge a lot when I'm high. Sometimes I count and it amounts to about 2,500 per day on weekends, which is about what 1,100 more than weekdays.

Can I keep going like this and still lose it? Has anyone done this successfully?

Tbf I lost a bit already but I gained 2 kg quite suddenly.

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[25M] First post here, wanted to share progress

Hi all, I wanted to share my weight loss journey with you guys and see if I'm headed the right track.

I am 25M, 6'-3" (~190 cm) and SW: 247 lb (112 kg) CW: 217 lb (98) GW: 190 lb (86)

I started my weight loss journey back in april doing a keto/low carb diet while also incorporating strength training at the gym. I just started doing the 5x5 workout found on r/ketogains and I feel great.

I didn't take a picture when I was at my starting weight, but I did at 237 lb and below is a link that compares then and now:

https://imgur.com/a/uiZTmf3

So far I've lost 30 pounds in 4 months, ~1.8 pounds per week. Pretty good right?

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Anxiety and family is not a good combination

Hello, I don't really know how this is going, I have never published anything, but what does it matter.

For as long as I can remember, more or less, I have been a little overweight, even so in my childhood and adolescence I was not much more than a few extra pounds, even so I always had my parents and my family telling me that I was gaining weight, which caused me terrible anxiety, it hurts to admit it but I developed an anxiety problem because of which I ate when I felt like this, in fact I remember in my last years of adolescence waking up at night with a panic and going to eat something. I admit that in the In the last four years the problem has increased, and it has gotten out of hand.

Because of this, I have a hard time remembering a time when I wasn't on a diet or watched by my parents as to what I ate. About six years ago, I started going to nutritionists and doctors, despite the fact that this caused me more anxiety, my parents ignored it and kept taking me to these places.

I can understand that it is difficult for my parents to know how to deal with my anxiety, as much as I tried to make them understand that things were not going to go well like this, they kept pushing with the weight loss.

Three years ago I started university a little far from them, about 30 minutes by plane, at the same time I experienced a toxic relationship for two years, with bullying and psychological abuse included, the death of my paternal grandfather and my sister sick with something that We didn't even know what it was, to this day it's not clear what it is exactly but they keep her stable and we have treatment, all this away from my family, as if that wasn't enough with the anxiety, I ended up not being able to leave the student residence and without attending class because of agoraphobia.

This last year, I have begun to improve, I can now go to classes almost without any problem, I left the one who is now my ex-boyfriend (even though after leaving him he harassed me for six months) in terms of weight, after all the ups and downs it was bad, I am overweight and I know it is a serious problem that I have to solve, in two months I have lost 11 pounds, it is useless for my mother, it is nothing, I still remember the first thing she told me the first time I came to visit her since college : "you are like a cow"

comments like this no longer affect me, I've heard each one... in a way I appreciate it, now I'm bulletproof, that your family makes comments like this makes you this.

My family is not as bad as it seems, they have given me a roof, food, love and affection...

I think the only thing they've done wrong is the weight issue, and getting to the point where I wanted to get to, I've been under threat from my mother all summer that if I don't lose at least 22 pounds I won't go back to university.

I understand that I have to do something but I am coming out of the recent bad streak, for a long time I have accepted being injected with weight loss drugs, extreme diets, intermittent fasting... even though I have tried to stop eating, which is not correct, I am unable because anxiety makes me eat instinctively whether or not I'm hungry.

I really don't know what I expect by posting this, I don't want to make you think that my family is bad, it's not, they have supported me many times, I usually keep quiet about my things, I tend to think that mine doesn't matter and more since my sister's, But I don't know how to act, or what to do to be able to leave.

One thing is clear to me, I know that if I stay and do not go to university, it is most likely that I will develop a deep depression and that they want to lock me up somewhere so that I can lose weight.

In short, I don't know what I should do or how to manage things…

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Freaking out 😱

Had my physical two weeks ago. Totally routine, was going to ask the doctor to check my hormones and thyroid, as my weight loss has completely stopped. I was thinking maybe perimenopause (I’m 43) It’s the opposite actually. I’m freaking pregnant. My youngest is 22, I had my tubes tied. Im numb. I haven’t told my husband yet. I know he’ll say it’s my decision what to do. We’re pro choice, but I don’t know if I’m comfortable making that choice for myself. Im 10 weeks already, so I’ll need to decide soon. We’re old, our kids are grown, he’s about to retire, after 25 years, we’re finally moving back to our home state, but all I can think about is how hard I worked on my body. I know it’s shallow, but I really don’t want to get fat. (I wouldn’t terminate for that reason, but it just bugs me) Whatever I decide to do, I know I just need to keep eating right and exercising. On the plus side, I’m not sick at all this time (was sick as a dog with the others) Im now off my adhd meds, so that’s fun. Im too old for this shit. My doctor said it was only a 5% chance. Fuck. Fuckity fuck. Thanks for reading my rant. If anyone has any stories of having babies at my age, I’d like to hear them. How was it on your body? Was it harder to bounce back?

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Seeking Advice: Hypothyroidism and Weight Loss - Medicine vs. Natural Approach?

I hope you're all doing well on your weight loss journeys. I'm facing a bit of a conundrum and could really use your insights. Over the past year, I've noticed some weight gain, which has me thinking about the possibility of having hypothyroidism. While I haven't been diagnosed yet, the idea of relying on lifelong medication is a bit daunting to me.

I've heard that once you start taking medication for hypothyroidism, you're committed to it for life, with dosage adjustments as your life changes. This has led me to wonder if it's possible to manage weight loss through other means, such as a strict and healthy diet combined with consistent cardio training and daily weigh-ins.

I'm really torn between wanting to take control of my health naturally and the potential need for medication. So, I wanted to reach out to this supportive community to gather some advice and experiences. Has anyone successfully managed their weight loss without relying solely on thyroid medication? Are there specific diet and exercise strategies that have worked for you, even with a potential underlying condition like hypothyroidism?

Of course, I understand that individual experiences can vary greatly, but I believe in the power of shared wisdom and encouragement. If anyone has faced a similar situation or has insights to share, I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you.

Thank you in advance for your time and support!

Edit: I speculate hypothyroidism because in my family few people have it.

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