Help Getting out of a Downward Spiral

I used to be fat - almost 200lbs at 5'3"... I told myself I 'carried it well' and it was 'because I had big boobs' but really.. I was fat.

6 years ago I decided to not be fat anymore. I started increasing my activity. I stopped putting so much food in my mouth. I got on to keto. I lost close to 60lbs over about 3 years.

5 years ago we moved overseas to Singapore. I was able to keep my weight loss up for a while, and then I plateaued. Then my weight started creeping back up a little. Life was stressful, but I was really amping up my workouts and putting on muscle. I still looked pretty good even though the scale was moving in the opposite direction I wanted to. I plateaued at about 40lbs lost and despite my efforts to get closer to my ideal weight.

We've moved overseas again (to Sydney), and back (to Singapore). I've continued to work out hard and put on muscle but in the past year there's been a lot of stress and I'll have small periods of backsliding but overall my BF% has been trending downwards and muscle gain is trending upwards.

4 months ago I was made redundant from the job that transferred us back to Singapore. 3 weeks ago my husband was let go. We both have until January to find new work or we'll be deported. I've found a short term contract (until Jan) to pay the rent, but the work is not ideal and I dread going in to work every day. I'm continuing to push myself at the gym, but in my efforts to control *one* aspect of my life I find myself going overboard and have hurt myself a few times (nothing serious, tendonitis in my shoulder, currently have strained my hip flexor)... which benches me and makes me feel even worse. Our relationship is starting to feel some tension over the stress we're both feeling. All in all life feels pretty shitty at the moment.

I lost it over halloween - I binged on chocolate and all sorts of bad shit all day. I told myself "it's just one day, I'll get back on it tomorrow" ... but if I'm honest I've been 'cheating' for weeks, and today has been another bad day. I can feel myself heading in to a downward spiral of binging and poor food choices - I've been thinking and acting like the 'fat' girl I used to be, which is just making me even more depressed and it becomes a self-fulfilling cycle of shit.

Have any of you been in this place? How do you get out of it?

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26M, 6'1, 310LBS, hopeless.

So, my situation. As the title says, I'm (just a few days ago) 26, 6'1ish, and hovering around 310. I can't keep living like this, the city I live in has way too many stairs for that. When I was in high school, I was around 250, playing football and doing downhill ski racing. Thats not my goal, I want to use it as an example of where my hopelessness for weight loss comes from. During those years, I was doing intense physical exercise 6 days a week, while still doing moderate exercise on the 7th. I was still severely overweight.

I've come to the conclusion "I can't live like this" many times in the past, but every time I do, I don't see results month to month, and then I think back to how physically active I was in high school without being "in shape," and then I binge.

What would other people who have been in this situation before recommend to get past this mental block? What has worked for you when you've had trouble dropping weight?

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NEVER SAY NEVER

I’ve been big my whole life, I was chubby as a kid just got larger as I got older, got pretty big in high school and popped over 400 in my brief stint in college, at my biggest I was 425. I always thought “This is just how my life is, I’ll always be fat, I could NEVER change anyway” and though most of the time I just thought it pointless, I did try on occasion. I went to the biggest loser adult fat camp, went on countless extreme diets, exercise regiments but I always ended up falling back into “I’ll NEVER make it all the way” I wish I could tell you that my weight loss began with some life changing epiphany or a some sort of dramatic wake up call but in all honesty, I got depressed, the food that I was eating to keep the bad feelings away wasn’t working anymore, no amount of delicious cheese burgers could cover up what I was feeling anymore and I fell into it pretty hard. I just started eating less and less till I was hardly eating at all, eating only to keep the hunger pains away. I went from feeling bloated, overstuffed and disgusting most days to feeling weak, empty and as if I was barely still being held together. I can’t tell you when the change came, it just kind of happened, I just got tired of feeling hungry and weak all the time so I made the decision to at least properly feed myself, with good old chicken, rice and green beans mostly. I didn’t really care for the taste in food anymore and just started seeing it as a way to fuel my body, that’s about it, I started meal prepping because I hate cooking and would rather get it all done in one go. I hike regularly but besides that no other exercise. I always thought to lose weight I would need to bust my ass in the gym every day but hell to this day I still haven’t set foot in a gym. I didn’t keep track of the days because this wasn’t another weight loss plan or diet that I was putting myself on, losing weight had honestly never entered my mind, then one day I went to the doctor for a check up, I hadn’t been to him in like more than half a year at this point and needed to get my blood taken and looked at, as per the usual once I got into the little room I stepped on the scale for the lady that takes my blood pressure, I stopped looking at the numbers a long time ago but when I heard the numbers that came out of her mouth I almost told her to shut the fuck up. “350”. I couldn’t believe my ears, was she fucking with me? Was the scale broken? When my doctor came in he had a beaming smile on his face, I’ve been seeing this guy since I stopped going to the pediatrician, I asked him so many times for different weight loss advice and recommendations and each time he saw me fall off and get bigger. “Lost quite a bit of weight haven’t we?” It was real, I didn’t just lose 10-20 pounds, the number I usually got to before giving up, I’d lost more than I had ever lost before. Here I am now at 280, officially on a path of weight loss and at a point I always said I would NEVER get to, my goal for the time being 200. Pretty much doing the same thing I’ve been doing, hiking and eating steamed vegetables, rice and some meat protein, I ain’t gonna tell you that losing weight is gonna make you feel amazing in every aspect of life, as I’m still dealing with depression, it definitely ain’t gonna solve all your problems, it’ll definitely solve a couple though. all I’m saying is.

NEVER SAY NEVER WHAT EVER YOU DO NEVER SAY NEVER, MY FRIEND!

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Looking for an accountability partner

Hi everyone,

I’ve been going through a bit of a hard time and have gained about 8 pounds from where I was a few years ago. I know this is relatively a small number but I am quite short and have been dealing with some depression that has made achieving this weight loss difficult.

That being said, I am trying my hardest to do better. I am motivating myself and have been exercising for heart health, and am trying my best to stay positive. I want to lose this weight so that I can be more comfortable in my own skin, more capable of going on long difficult hikes, and generally being healthy, especially when it comes to cardiovascular health.

I also know that I feel so much better when I eat clean so that’s also a goal of mine.

I would love to find an accountability partner to motivate each other with eating healthy, exercising regularly, staying positive, and generally being happy at any weight. My goal is 8 pounds down but would love to partner with anyone regardless of if your goal is 5 or 80 pounds, or more. Please let me know!

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Has anyone here done VLCD here successfully or unsuccessfully? What was your experience with it?

Before anyone attacks me, I know about the health risks associated with eating at a severe calorie deficit. But. Hear me out. As a short 5'2" girl who has weighs about 132 lbs right now and wants to get to 110, weight loss eating 1200 calories has been excruciatingly slow for me. My BMR is around 1350 and my TDEE is not much more than that. Basically, I want to make progress faster.

What if I consistently ate 800 cals of nutritionally dense foods (dark green veggies, egg whites, lean meats, avocados, milk, etc) for, say, a month. Boring...I know, but I don't care and so much of what we eat is empty filler calories anyway. And I don't have much of an appetite anymore because of school stress and keto (I also do omad) so calorie restriction really isn't too hard anymore.

I also want to mention that I plan to do this for a month max and then transition over to eating at maintenance and exercising more since I'll have more time later on. I know that a deficit like this is hard to sustain long term but surely there's a healthy way to go about it if it's done in a controlled and consistent way? I would just like to hear other people's experience with it, especially petite girls.

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Does it REALLY get easier??

Hi r/loseit!

First post! As many of us, I’ve struggled with weight loss for a few years. I was never a fat kid, I got depression at university and put on 20kg. Lost it, got gallbladder taken out (genetics), and eventually put it all back on.

Worked in fitness and lost about 10kg, put it all back on again.

I’m now once again counting calories and being more mindful on what I eat, etc. I’m struggling to get back into fitness (I LOVE exercise, just have so little motivation/no discipline) so getting those extra calories isn’t happening right now.

I know it’s a long road, ups and downs, have to take it one day at a time, etc. but does it ever really get easier??

I’m hungry all the time, constantly thinking about food and hate having to restrict myself so much.

I’m making sure I’m eating enough protein, around 1400-1500 calories, have been eating fairly clean, And I’m sitting here thinking about how much it’ll slow down my progress if I have another hundred calories (had 1600 today).

How do others deal with this? (Other than complain on the internet) Any advice will be appreciated!

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