Wednesday, June 11, 2025

Losing 1lb per week but Personal Trainer wants more and I feel defeated

I, 27 F (5’7”), have gained about 30 lbs, reaching my heaviest at 260 lbs over the past 2 years. I've struggled with weight and body image most of my life but this year I’ve had enough. The last couple of years were especially stressful, and I coped with food (more than usual), which led to the increased weight gain and lack of motivation.

Three months ago, I decided to put my health as a priority. I hired an online personal trainer to help me build structure and stay accountable. When I started, I wasn't going to the gym, barely hit 3,000 steps a day, and ate without much thought. Now, I go to the gym 3-5 times a week, walk 7,000-9,000 steps a day, do cardio 2-4 times a week, and track calories/macros almost daily.

Program Overview: Started at: 1968 calories | P: 172g | F: 60g | C: 250g Steps: 9k/day Cardio: 3x/week, 15 mins @ HR >135 Strength: 4x/week

Now: 1826 calories | P: 145g | F: 55g | C: 190g Steps: 10k/day Cardio: 4x/week, 25 mins Strength: 5x/week

What I Actually Average: Food: On track with current macros Steps: 7k–9k/day Cardio: 2–4 times/week Strength: 3–5 times/week

I’m doing a lot better with food and consistency, but I struggle to hit all movement goals. I work a full-time desk job and try to stay active, but a lot of the time, I feel like there just isn’t enough time to accomplish everything.

For the first 1.5-2 months, I didn’t lose scale weight, but I noticed fat loss and muscle gain from progress pictures. My trainer said I was likely doing a body recomposition and losing fat/gaining muscle at the same time. Over the past month, I’ve consistently lost about 1 lb per week (about 6 lbs total now) and I feel so much better. My clothes fit better, I’ve gone down a belt notch, and I’ve only used food to cope once, which is a huge win for me.

The Issue: Lately, my trainer has said things like “If you’re not hitting cardio, the least you can do is walk,” and “You get the results from the work you put in, if your happy with where you’re at we can just maintain. If you want to lose more, you need to put in more effort” This has made me feel kind of defeated. I was feeling proud of how far I have come, but now I’m second-guessing everything. Like, why am I spending all my free time in the gym if it’s never enough? Evey week I still am losing weight (1lb) but for some reason, my trainer keeps upping my cardio keeps and decreasing my food…. I already was having trouble meeting initial goals but now I’m expected to do more.

I always thought 1–2 lbs/week was healthy weight loss. To clarify: I don’t necessarily have a goal weight or timeline. I just want to feel healthier and build sustainable habits, but it seems like my trainer expects faster progress and burnout.

To clarify, I work a full-time desk job and try to be intentional about moving throughout the day but it doesn’t always happen as much as I would like. After work, I am usually slammed by meal prepping, going on a walk, going to the gym or normal household chores.

Question: Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I suck it up and meet every single goal? Or what would you do?

Thank you for taking the time to read this!!

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