I never thought I'd be here and don't know where to start

I'm a 33 year old female and was around 115 my entire life even after having kids. I never had a problem with my weight. I had even quit smoking and several years ago and gained 15 pounds the first six months and had gone away on their own by the 12th month with no effort on my part. .

Fast forward to 2019 and my husband of 10 years just walked out with no explanation I was on my own and devastated. Single mother with kids. Then the pandemic happened and I got laid off for 6months and then contracted Covid and because we all tested positive at different times we I needed up being quarantined for a total of 6 weeks. I noticed my oldest had gained a lot of weight. Only doing online school and not being able to do sports, etc because he was in the at risk category.

It wasn't until I came out after having covid at the beginning of this year that my friends saw me and absolutely shamed me on how did I let myself and my kids get like this and omg I almost didn't recognize you, etc. We hadn't really eaten anything different than what we had before just more of it and we couldn't really go out and do anything.. Just stay at home on a computer working from home.I had also started smoking cigarettes again during that time due to stress. Everyone says it helps you lose weight and when you quit you gain weight but that's not how my body worked.

My son went to the pediatrician for a follow up after covid and referred us to a weight loss specialist who said my son had fatty liver disease. She told me to use the MyPlate thing. I got weighed at my doctor and I'm a hair under 5'5 and weight 158. I was devastated. What happened? How did I not realize we were gaining so much? How did I suddenly put on weight after years of never worrying about it. How was I so stupid to think Oh my son is eating a lot because he's 14 and is about to hit a growth spurt? How do I help my son?

I can't cook well but I do it. I know little about nutrition and get confused when I read bout diets there are so many and macros this and protein that. I made some of the meals his specialist suggested and he straight up won't eat them and will literally starve till the next meal.

I don't know how to help him or myself. I've never been to a gym or worked out or anything and when we tried going for a walk we were both winded. He is 5'6 and 245. He was 165 before the lock down. I just don't know what to do or how to help or where to start and a friend of mine told me to come here. Please help me. Anything you could say would be helpful.

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Consistency is great, but perseverance is where it's at

This is something that has been on my mind for some time. Why do we put so much emphasis on consistency in weight loss, while so many other areas in our lives are about perseverance?

If you take a marriage. A long streak of perfect days doesn't make a good marriage. It goes with ups and downs and hanging in there. It's about choosing over and over to invest and learn in a relationship. If you have a fight with your partner, you don't think. To hell with it I'll just throw the whole relationship out! You work on it.

A career is not build on consecutive days of high productivity. It's about learning, adapting and sometimes you find yourself not matching with your environment. So you change it up.

Another thing is your financial situation. You might treat yourself from time to time. But you don't think, oh as I've indulged myself to tap into my savings account I might as well just clear it out. No, you enjoy the purchase and keep on saving after that.

Just some examples on how most of us understand that although we might "screw up" here and there, the next day, or week, or month we just keep going. Working towards our goals.

Consistency is great. And if you're able to do that, all the better for you. But if you (like me) screw up here and there, just keep going. Like you would in other areas in your life.

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No weight loss in 5 weeks?

I’m in need of a little bit of advice.

To preface I’ve gone through the whole notion of losing weight prior, however with quarantine I gained it back, unfortunately.

I’m 200lb, 5’10, male, 20

TDEE : ~2300 cals

Deficit : ~800 cals

Tracking : 1500 cals

( no working out or tracking macros, just tracking 1500 )

I’m literally doing the same thing I’ve done the first time around.

Lastly, I’m not sure of its full impact, however My eating habit hasn’t been the best. Though I’m still at the deficit and tracking 1500, for the past 5 weeks ( since started ) I have been eating very late at night ( most of those days ), at 12am - 4am window and usually it’s the entire 1500 calories and the rest of the day I don’t consume any extra calories.

I think I’m pretty meticulous at tracking my calories and even if were slightly over eat at ~800 I still should Lose weight if I consumed say an extra 300 calories which would lead me tracking ~1800 calories instead which would still warrant weight loss.

Not sure where the issue lies ( which may be overconsumption, but I want to doubt that possibility )

Edit :

BMR : 1924 cals

I also use a food scale. And supplement to that I use weight scale to track my weight EVERY DAY.

SOME ATTRIBUTING FACTORS

And sleeping habit has not been well, maybe insomnia? Hence why I ate 12am - 3am

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Holy Moly, I can see my neck muscles!

Good day fellow losers. I was wanting to wait until I lost 1 more pound and reached my halfway point (50 lbs) before I made my first post in this subreddit but something amazing happened today that put the biggest smile on my face. I noticed how defined my neck is!

I was having a "zoned out" moment in the bathroom thinking about something exciting to which I came back to reality and proceeded to do a "LETS GOOO!" with fist pumps into the mirror when I stopped in awe to see how visible my neck muscles were now! For the next couple minutes I just kept tensing and relaxing my neck to admire how noticeable the weight loss has been in my neck. This is the first time since I started my weight loss that I've noticed something that was a real shocker to myself and it feels amazing.

But since I don't want to post 2 days in a row, I will piggyback my own post to say, Halfway there!!!!!!! 49 lbs down since January 20th and 51 lbs to go. CICO has been a real game changer and I cannot wait to post when I have finally reach the goal of a triple digit weight loss.

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I LOST 30-50 lbs!!!

So I'm a 16 year old female and I've always been heavy. It started when I was about 7 and the weight gain just continued. It got really bad when I was around 14. I remember that December when I was 14, I weighed in at 230 lbs. I felt so down about it and convinced myself not to care. I honestly felt like I was just going to keep gaining for the rest of my life and I just naturally had a harder time losing weight than others. So then I started eating again and I didn't dare step back on the scale. I know I gained weight during this time and I'm not sure how much but it's probably between 10-20 lbs. Then the panoramic hit and I was stuck in my home for school. My mom took control of my diet for about 2 weeks and that was all I needed to start my weight loss. It wasn't bad control. It made me realize how much I actually ate. I ate so much food that I didn't even need to eat. I would binge almost every other day. If I didn't eat breakfast for the morning, I would eat a lot more later in the day because "it was a treat" and "I deserved it". This time really gifted me a different mindset and I will be forever grateful for that. I think the only thing that will allow you to lose weight and keep it off is adopting a healthy mindset and wanting to lose weight more than anything. I hardly did any exercise but counting calories and eating less did the trick. I did this consistently for about 4 months and then after, I was just very mindful of what I ate and I noticed my jeans fit better, my dresses more loose, and my face had way less fat on it. And my collar bone appeared. Keep in mind I'm 5'10. I felt awesome but always thought I lost some weight. The new year rolled around and I've just been feeling unmotivated and down. Yesterday I decided I should just eat whatever I wanted again. I decided to weigh myself first to see what I weighed and expected near the same weight last time I weighed myself but I lost at least 31 pounds and then some. I thought the scale was broken. I have not been under 200 since I was in middle school. I'm just really proud of myself because never could I have imagined that I would lose the weight of a small child. So yeah. If you see this, thank you for listening to my rant. I'm going to try to get my weight in the 170s

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300lbs to 199lbs in just under a year!

I'm a Male (20) 5'8 and started my weight loss journey on June 15th of 2020. For the first time in almost a decade I'm finally under 200 pounds. I've been a big dude for as long as I could remember and I wanted to change that. I was always at a constant 240/250 range for most of my life until my senior year in high school where I gained about 60 pounds from eating out everyday and sitting at my desk 24/7 putting me at my highest weight of 310. My diet consisted of large helpings of eggs, pancakes topped with loads of syrup, lots of bacon for breakfast, a ham and cheese sandwich and an entire bag of family size Doritos and maybe some cookies I bought from the store, and 2nd helpings or 3rd helpings of whatever my mom made for dinner. Looking back at it now, I can't believe I used to down that stuff on a regular basis. I lost about 10 pounds due to having Gastritis and being put on a strict diet as to not worsen the condition. In that time I self reflected and realized how bad I had become. I stepped on the scale and got to work.

The first workout was absolute hell! I couldn't comprehend how out of shape I was. I was gassed out by the 3rd exercise. I would watch these YouTube videos of cardio and weight training for dumbbells and they would look so happy and encouraging while I was on the floor dying half way through. I stuck with it however and managed to consistently workout and stick with a plan. Next came the ever dreaded diet...

At first I would starve myself going so far as to down only 1000 calories a day! I even went to this subreddit and asked if that was okay to do. I then changed it to about 1200-1500 and as of this current moment I am eating about 1400-1500 a day which is a lot healthier for me. The diet consisted of the usual whole foods like wheat bread, whole grain pasta, chicken breast, turkey meat, vegetables, and fruits with some plain Greek yogurt. I would even use some whey protein powder for that extra protein intake. Added sugar is the absolute king of destroying a diet. Cokes, candy, and ice cream were kicked out of my diet almost completely with ice cream appearing every once in awhile (sorry I just love ice cream) I actually have stuck to this diet fairly well considering I thought it would almost impossible for me to continually eat this way for more than a month when I first started. I would be lying however if I said I didn't have the urge to want to eat something that would surely throw my diet for a loop. There were the bad days where I'd go out with my friends and I'd splurge on a meaty burger and fries or get double scooped ice cream with a brownie from Baskin-Robbins. Even still, I kept my diet going and it payed off.

I've been on this subreddit for a few months now watching everyone post about their weight losses of 100+ pounds and it encouraged me to keep going and reach my goal. Thank you everyone here, I really appreciate it. See you when I hit my goal of 160 pounds!

https://imgur.com/gallery/ILtOArr <----- Progress pics (NSFW)

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Weight loss mainly through exercise?

I know the common adage is that “weight loss is made in the kitchen”, but I have a lot of issues with impulsively eating and everything I have tried thus far (eating at set times, using meal replacements, cico) hasn’t helped at all. Probably worth adding here that I’m waiting for an ADHD diagnosis (the whole process takes super long where I live) and in general have a hard time resisting impulses and cravings.

However, I do love going to the gym. I’ve been going regularly the past month (waited for my parents to get vaccinated). The endorphins and mental benefits are fantastic and make a big difference in my life and I look forward to going as soon as I have time and am not sore from the previous session. I’ve noticed that some of the muscle I’m building is at least helping me look slimmer, even if my weight is the same. I’ve also been able to introduce a healthy breakfast into my days the past month or so which probably has helped (at least in not gaining muscle weight?). But I am curious to see if there is anyone else who has managed to lose at least some weight via exercise?

I guess I will have to overhaul my diet eventually, but I’ve been trying for two years now and not been seeing progress. So, is there anyone else here who got into exercise first, lost some weight, and then fixed their diet? How did it go for you?

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