Mentality= Reality

Mike Tyson put it best by saying “discipline is doing what you hate to do… but doing it like you love it”. And that couldn’t be closer to the truth. We all have moments in our lives were hitting snooze or skipping the gym is easier. Our society today has become soft, we’re happy with average and anything above average is overachieving. You were not made to be mediocre; God did not design humanity to quit after the least bit of resistance. You were designed to achieve goals, to set the bar high, to go out and get what you want in this life. Don’t let anyone sell you short, never give up on yourself. Push through the pain. Break through.

Discipline is saying no to the voice inside your head, that voice that tells you its best to sit this one out, the voice that tells you you’re fine where you’re at, that voice that tells you Greatness and Excellence is only for the 1%. Don’t ever let good enough get in the way of great. Overcoming limiting beliefs in your own head is what is going to get you where you want to go. You’re responsible for your body, mind and spirit. If you want to improve then DO IT, no one is stopping you but yourself. Make YOU a priority. Improve, grow, learn, excel, lead, transform your mind. Don’t let an opportunity to grow pass you by, future you depends on it.

Take a moment and glance into the metaphorical mirror. How is your life going currently? Many people say, “oh yeah man, I’m doing good.” Let me stop you right there, just by saying that sentence I can already conclude that you’re comfortable with mediocrity. You see, being good or doing fine is what is getting in the way of you becoming great. Many people today decide that instead of facing reality and taking control of their life they’d rather just put a band aid over pain. Whether that band aid is alcohol, drugs, pornography, or even working out. You run away from pain and you use alternative “band aids” to escape reality, even if it’s for just a moment.

This is not sustainable, eventually you’re going to crumble and when you do, all motivation is going to leave with you. Shifting your mindset is paramount to success. Your personal growth is what propels the choices you make for your physical, emotional, and spiritual well- being. Something as simple as changing your thinking can change your life.

Here are 8 action steps:

1) Show up
2) Find an Anchor (Accountability)
3) Discover your Why
4) Step out of your Comfort Zone
5) Envision the End Result
6) Change your Perspective
7) Slow Down
8) Eliminate Excuses and Create Solutions

Your mind can either be your greatest strength or your greatest weakness. Shifting your mindset is essential and will take time. Be patient, make mistakes but LEARN from them. The people who have the most success with weight loss are the one's who never give up no matter how much they fail. They break through and change their lives forever! Good luck everyone, I hope this motivates you :)) God bless

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Can’t believe my weight right now

I (23F) started my weight loss journey last year as a New Year resolution. I had gained nearly 50 pounds during college and topped out about 195 pounds. I was really great for most of the year until the holidays and had lost 10 pounds very quickly. I kind of lost motivation by the start of this year and have only occasionally been keeping track of my calorie counting and weight.

I started stepping on the scale again the past month just to see where I’m at and found myself around 185. The past two out of three times I’ve stepped on the scale I’ve been 180. My tracker says I’m 77% to my goal and I’m so happy but it’s hard to believe I’m really there because I haven’t really done anything besides not eat breakfast (intermittent fasting I guess), try and drink more water, and then just be consistent with my after work activities (martial arts and horse back riding but I’m no hardcore athlete by any means). I just kind of eat whatever I want once lunch time rolls around until I go to bed.

I’m sorry for my rambling, just happy and trying to process I suppose.

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Childhood food scarcity and weight loss

Mods please delete if not appropriate (this is my first post), but this was a huge realization for me.

I grew up poor and overweight and only very recently realized that my disordered eating was the result of food insecurity as a child. Food was either scarce, or the only thing we had access to because of subsidies. My birthday presents growing up were usually a couple of my favorite foods/snacks that were food stamps eligible. It was one of the only ways we had to celebrate anything, and I developed bad habits that lasted well into adulthood.

Coming to terms with this over the last year has had a huge impact on my current attempt to lose weight. I'm 20 pounds down using CICO and it hasn't been difficult because I now understand my relationship with food and have addressed that trauma. Seeing this Bon Appétit article helped me know that I'm not alone, or weird, or broken.

So, as I've seen on this sub time and again as I've lurked: identify and treat your trauma, and know that you're not alone. It makes a huge difference.

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Enough is Enough

This is a very difficult post for me to write - I have never really spoken to anyone about my weight. I am a 35 year old male, and I have battled this for almost all of my adult life. Between the ages of 18 and 22, I floated in weight between 280 lbs and 350 lbs. I'd never really keep a conscious eye on my weight, and I lived a fairly nonchalant life with regards to my health and eating. I didn't have a good relationship with my dad, and he was always fairly critical of my weight and also of my chosen career path (he hated IT and office jobs). I met my future wife around this time, and we'd occasionally fight about weight issues as well - she is constantly talking about the latest diets and weight loss hacks, and sometimes it could be frustrating talking to her about it - especially as she was (and still is today) fairly heavy. The difference between us though, is that I have never been critical towards her regarding her weight and size, whereas she frequently will comment to me about it.

When I was 23, I made a very concerted effort to change. I joined Slimming World, learned about healthy eating and managed to get my weight all the way down to 220 lbs. This also coincided with a time where I moved away from my family/partner/friends for work (about 300 miles away), so I had a lot of free time to cook/exercise etc. My dad then passed away, and as a result of this I made the decision to move back home and be near the family.

When I moved home, I found that I had literally lost all motivation to train/diet. Without my dad being there to criticise, it was easy to be lazy and fall back into old habits. I've even developed worse habits than before - like stopping for fast food before going home and then eating again at home. Secret snacking more than I have ever in the past and not keeping a log of what I've eaten. It genuinely feels to me like food has become an addiction. I've been slowly gaining weight since then, trying the occasional diet on and off but not sticking to anything religiously. And then over lock-down, I felt worse in myself, even though I wasn't training. I struggle to maintain my sex life with my wife (which was already ropey, even at my healthiest weight), and basic tasks such as showering feel like a chore. We have a 2 year old daughter now, who I feel like i'm failing by not being able to be as energetic with her as i'd like.

I'm now 35, and earlier this year, I felt ill and more lethargic than usual (I've never felt great, but this was acute). I was diagnosed with Heart failure, and my body had built up a huge mass of fluid. Thankfully I've been medicated for this now, but during the process the doctor discussed things with me and took my weight again. I was absolutely crushed to see that i'd gone up to 444 lbs. That was a very tough pill for me to swallow. It's completely my own fault, and there's no one to blame but myself.

So - to get to the point of this post - I've decided that enough is enough, and I need to do better. I've been researching, and I don't want to over-complicate things. I will be sticking to a Calories In < Calories Out approach, and trying to find the willpower to avoid some of my old bad habits. I'm going to try and maintain this for as long as I can, and improve my long term health.

If you've made it this far, thanks for reading - I wanted to write this to create some sort of impartial accountability for myself, and hopefully I can continue to provide progress reports on how things are going. Here's hoping they will be good updates.

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I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to gain anymore weight

Pre-pandemic I was on track with my weight loss journey, found something i enjoy and was very motivated. However, this all went down the trash when pandemic started. Without getting into depressing details, my personal situation changed Drastically, i am stuck in this small room, i have no control over what i eat, either eat what im given or starve. I can go for walks, but thats as far as it gets. Because of this I have gained all my hard work and more. I’m disgusted with myself and i just want to at least get back to my pre-pandemic weight. I have no idea how to do that with my current situation. Any tips?

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Finally at my college weight

Hi all, I think I may have posted in here once before and I’ve got a thread I update mainly for accountability and encouragement of myself.

I know I’m privileged in not starting at too high of a weight, but it was my personal all time highest. In the fall I had a bunch of doctors appointments because I broke two fingers and finally got allergy testing done (turns out I’m allergic to all grass, some severely!). I consistently weighed in at over or well over 150lbs (even 157) but I was also wearing lots of clothes and shoes since I biked to my apts and it was cold. I’m 5’2”. My college non-exercise weight was 126, and my light exercise weight in college was 123. My high school weight was ~118 and I was very very strong (diver and track disc). Well the fall numbers shocked me, but the end of a 4.5 year relationship in January helped spur me to make some changes, but I didn’t really start until March because I was finishing my master’s. I’m now at 122.6lbs, a ~30lb loss!

I don’t think my weight loss method has been super typical so I thought I’d share. I didn’t count calories at all; I didn’t do any diets. I also didn’t do any exercise until this week (yoga twice, I’m going to continue).

I basically stopped buying all the “bad” stuff I was binging on and eating more of the “good” stuff that was already part of my normal diet! I used to eat a whole pint of talenti multiple times per week; I basically fully stopped that. I can’t have it in the house or I’ll eat it (I did buy 4 pints the other month and ate 3 of them in 3 days though, haha). I stopped buying bags of lindor chocolates and instead buy a couple balls at the gas station. More expensive monetarily but not a savings health wise. I already loved carrots and salsa and pickles, so I just started eating a shit ton more of those every day. I already ate mostly plant-based, so I just stopped the sausage to be even more that. I already loved sunflower seed butter and almonds, so I just made those my snacks throughout the day. I already loved avocado, so i eat it by itself instead of with chips.

I love to eat until I’ve extremely full, so I still do that, just on cauliflower and other veggies instead of talenti and tortilla chips. I don’t plan my meals or food at all; I just keep staples on hand because I know I’ll eat whatever I have access to.

I weigh myself randomly. I only weigh myself if I “feel” lighter and I see a loss or maintenance almost every time. I still eat out a ton. I’ve done all you can eat sushi several times. I order hot wings regularly (near weekly). I’ve gotten take out Thai and Vietnamese and Ethiopian and I still revel in remembering those delicious meals. I’ve had crispy chicken sandwiches and enchiladas at sit down outdoor restaurants. I drink alcohol. I’ve eaten half a frozen pizza in one go. My “secret” is I just balance the day or day and a half after those giant meals will very low calorie (I assume, since I don’t track) days, of mainly juices and veggies and I skip protein and fats those days since I got so much the night before.

I celebrate and feel happy if I’ve maintained. I didn’t lose for a month because I had my sister and a friend visit and we ate out a ton at bar food places, but was very happy to find that I had largely maintained.

I feel so much lighter, I can jump around off the ground! I can chase my dog around the yard! I can land a few flips on the trampoline! I can have a shit ton of sex for hours!

Thinking about things not as day by day but in chunks of time has helped sooooo much. It lets me have massive, presumably very high calories meals without stressing, cuz I know I just won’t do the same again for a few days. It’s honestly freeing. It means I don’t have to stress about not going out with friends or not enjoying an amazing dinner out (good food is one of the top 3 reasons I enjoy being alive, it honestly might be the top reason). I can still eat fucking amazing food and even a lot of it and not stress.

I’m really really excited and now I’m finally at a place to start exercising more intentionally. I would like to be able to do some push ups and such, but I have no interest in having the gym be my life. I want to just feel good and feel like I’m me, and I do feel that way and want to continue to feel that way.

Everyone’s journey is so different. I’ve only purposefully lost weight once before in my life and it was in a very toxic manner 9 years ago. I was counting every single calorie and doing miles and miles on the elliptical every day. It was so bad for my mental health to be so restrictive and hated myself at night if I had “fucked up.” I only got down to 114 because that was my body, I was already pretty healthy! And when I stopped all that crazy shit, I rebounded and got up to my (at the time) all time high of 142 (I thankfully lost that naturally in college over time without realizing; walking campus and eating plant based). This time around I am not hating myself, I am loving myself. I just ate like 25 boneless wings tonight and a bunch of ranch and I don’t give a fuck. I just probably won’t get on the scale for a few days, and I’ll go balance it tomorrow with juices and nuts and probably some margaritas (and maybe even yoga again!).

Anyways, I hope for someone scared to “start” or scared to count calories that this helps. You don’t have to count calories, and you don’t have to see yourself as starting anything; and you don’t have to give up anything. For me at least, I just had to change my eating habits to not eat giant, probably high calorie meals every night, but instead eat them every few days. I had to change my thinking to look at 3+ days at a time instead of 1 day at a time.

Best of luck to everyone else! I think my new ultimate goal will be my high school weight of 118, but I don’t care when I get there. I’m happy continuing on this slow path to adjust my habits.

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A few random thoughts about my weight loss so far...

Hello! I don't really know how to start this post but I just want to put some thoughts together regarding my weight loss so far. :)

I started finally losing weight in December 2019 after spending my entire 20's, depressed, anxious and just don't caring about myself at all. I hated myself. I finally woke up some how and decided that enough was enough. I could barely walk 1km. I couldn't stand on my feet without my back, legs and body aching. I couldn't do it anymore and I was sick of not living.

I'm currently 30 years old, 177cm/5'10 and my starting weight was 163kg/359lbs.

I started my journey by cutting out all soft drink. I would drink soft drink usually every day with dinner (mostly Coke) and I haven't drunk it again since I stopped. It actually tastes awful now!!

I then started by gradually eating less. I didn't count calories at all.

I then started by walking on the spot in my room. I was too anxious to even go out for a walk because I stupidly thought people would judge me.

That was great for a week or so, and then I eventually made it outside and started going for walks. I could barely walk far without having to go home and now I am hitting 10,000 steps or more on most days! I can finally walk without nearly dying and without my body aching to death.

Walking has become a habit. I need to go for my walk or I feel terrible and guilty for the rest of the day! It is so nice to get out and look up at the sky, walking along and pumping some music in my airpods or listening to podcasts.

By January 2020 I had lost 37kg. Great!!

But weight loss started to slow down even though I knew I was doing everything right.

I started casually counting calories in January and I lost 7kg this year so far.

Cue my weight loss slowing down again.

I have been bouncing between 119-120kg for a while now.

I started getting discouraged and feeling depressed when I weighed myself.

I also stopped counting my calories because it was making me feel like crap when I had to do it.

But something happened today that made me want to write this post.

I measured my stomach and waist for the first time since January/February and I have lost 3 to 4 inches even though my weight hasn't been dropping recently.

When I saw this I was on the moon.

I won't let the scale make me depressed anymore. No more weighing myself every single day and then feeling deflated when I see my weight fluctuate.

There were also a few other moments that made me realise just how far I have come.

Today we were at the hardware store purchasing a shelf which weighed 40kg. I've lost around 44kg. I could hardly lift it at all!!! It made me realise just how much I have lost.

I sometimes dwell on the fact that I still have a lot of weight to lose... probably at least 40 more kilos. I worry about how much time it is taking.

But you know what? Today is the day where I start appreciating all of the hard effort and work that I have put in.

If you are reading my post up to this point (no matter how all over the place it is..) - thank you!!! And I just want to tell you that you are also doing great and to continue what you are doing. ☺

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