Sunday, March 1, 2020

Weight loss when you don't like being the centre of attention?

I've got a lot of weight to lose, I'm 305 lbs, 5'8" F. I joined a weight loss group a couple of years ago and got down to around 230, but I gave up and weigh more now than I did before I started.

When I was losing the weight I found the attention it drew from my co-workers in particular quite difficult to deal with. I'm an introvert by nature and prefer to fade into the background, plus I work with a lot of immature, rude and quite unpleasant people whose company I would never choose to be in, I have to tolerate them because I work with them.

I don't want to go into detail about my job, but it's quite unique in the fact that it's quite informal and social and there's a lot of downtime in which there's nothing to do but talk to one another.

I'm a very private person and don't like to reveal much about my life and my problems to anybody except the few people I trust, but weightloss by its very nature is not something which can be hidden.

I grew to dread the cry of "WOW, YOU'VE LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT!" when I walked into a room full of people at work because it immediately led to the cessation of all other conversations as everyone turned and stared at my body.

I found the ensuing "HOW MUCH HAVE YOU LOST?!" very difficult to deal with as well, to me this is a very intrusive and rude question which I would never dream of asking anyone else. I suppose people mean well, but I can't help but wonder if they were absent the day tact and consideration were handed out.

I've even had someone announce that I'd really lost a lot from my stomach in particular! Yes, I carry a lot of weight in my stomach, thanks for pointing it out and drawing everyone's attention to it! Again, I would never, ever think of saying this to anyone else.

I've had people get very offended when I've refused cake etc at work, we often have a cooked breakfast at weekends and refusing it always leads to a discussion of the fact that I'm losing weight, I look so much better now than I did before (thanks?) and of course my favourite "SO HOW'S THE DIET GOING?! :D" What is the answer to this question? What answer are people expecting? Does anyone in the world still think before they speak?

Has anyone else dealt with anything similar? I want to start losing weight again but to be honest due to the above I'm dreading it.

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IBS completely taking away my quality of life, I need help

Disclaimer: This is about Irritable Bowel Syndrome, if you don't want to hear about such things, don't continue reading please!

For those who are reading, already a big thanks to you!

Let's start from the beginning: For as long as I can remember, I have always had a very slow digestion. Maybe one bowel movement every two days, sometimes more, most of the times less. According to my mom, as a baby I would have maybe one bowel movement a week.

By some miracle, even though for most of my life I have been eating literal tons of food, for a few years eating fast food at least two times a day and in quantities that I find absolutely repulsive nowadays, I never even dipped into an overweight BMI. My mom puts it down to me being a bad food converter, which might be true, I really don't know.

However, I have always felt that maybe losing a few pounds would do me some good when it comes to aesthetics and so I have started to just eat more mindfully. I used to count calories, but it only led me into a binge cycle so I have found that eating mindfully still leads to weight loss for me without the binging and restricting part.

The big problem is: I eat when I am anxious and for a few months now, my bowel movements have pretty much gone down to 0. Absolutely nothing, nada. I don't feel like I am constipated, but not having any bowel movements is obviously not healthy and its a constant thought on my mind that causes me a lot of stress and anxiety. My doctor just gave me a bunch of strong laxatives that I use whenever I don't experience a bowel movement in more than 3 or 4 days. For the past few weeks, the only way I could have any sort of bowel movement was through laxatives, but I can feel my body adjusting and I don't want to up the dosage at all, as it causes a lot of pain and discomfort.

It's horrible. I have to plan my days around using laxatives, I am constantly anxious which drives me to eat and so on, it's a vicious cycle. I have tried to adjust my diet, it's a lot healthier now and includes at least one veggie at every meal (except breakfast), my portions are really big in volume and I eat until I feel full.

What more could I do? At first, overeating at least had the pleasant side effect of inducing a bowel movement, but not anymore. I have a doctors appointment as soon as I am back home in a few weeks, but what could I do until then? I really don't want to visit a doctor in the country I live in right now, because of the hassle with international insurance and the fact that I don't yet 100% speak the language and I don't want to drag my boyfriend around as a translator for such things.

Any tips, own experiences or whatever would be greatly appreciated!

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Sunday, 01 March 2020? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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Half way to my goal weight!!!!

Hi everybody!

Bit of background: 5'4", 24 F. CW: 158.0, SW: 186.6, GW: 130. I started a lil over three months ago. I've been overweight my entire life. My whole family is overweight, so I've never really had a good example of healthy lifestyle.

I don't really like discussing my weight loss, because it feels self-indulgent and braggy. And, if I'm honest, the superstitious part of me doesn't want to jinx it.

But!

I am actually super proud of myself and wanted to share with someone!!!!! I always find the stories on this subreddit to be motivating, so I wanted to contribute a bit of my own experience.

So far it's been almost exclusively due to diet changes, but meditation and therapy have also helped immensely. I've been very hard on myself my whole life and was the most depressed I've ever been from ~Aug 2019 - Dec 2019, but the therapy/meditation have helped me take things slow and not freak out or give up when I don't eat particularly well.

Anyway, good luck to all of you! Keep doing what you're doing and remember to be kind to yourselves. Y'all are killin' it.

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Saturday, February 29, 2020

When I tell people how much weight I want to lose they ask me where I’m going to lose it.

So people say I wear my weight well. It might just be how I dress. I’m naturally very muscular, and I don’t look obese but I am. I may look slightly overweight but people don’t know I’m 50lbs over my healthy BMI. My goal is to lose 70lbs. When I tell them that’s my goal they are shocked. I honestly don’t look good skinny. I was skinny most of my life. I hate the way I looked back then. I don’t wear “thin” well at all.

I look at photos back when I was at my “ideal” weight and that’s when I looked the best. I looked healthy. I looked in shape. I didn’t look all that unhealthy although when I was thin I was a anorexic so I was sick. Now that I’m recovered I want to be between 130lbs-140lbs. Not 110lbs. Which is the lowest I can be for my height.

I want this weight loss to be slower. I don’t want it to be shocking. People know I’m a recovering anorexic and I don’t want to the weight loss to be drastic and not manageable. I want to do it right. I don’t want anyone to think that I want to lose 70lbs and I somehow lost it in 6 months.

I’m not saying those who can lose that amount of weight in that time are unhealthy. I just know it takes some extreme dieting and extreme diets can trigger my eating disorder and I don’t want that.

So wish me luck. I want to lose 70lbs in about a year. I believe that if I stick to my current diet. Workout 5 days a week and just enjoy life and enjoy the journey I can lose the weight, not alarm anyone or make them worried I relapsed but also not actually trigger a relapse and maintain the weight loss I achieve.

I believe if I go a little slower and take my time I’m adopting new habits versus just dieting to lose weight. I want this to be a lifestyle change. This isn’t just about losing weight. This is about my mental health, my physical health for the future. Being healthy for my son. Being able to have more energy to achieve all the goals I have. This is about no longer being the old me I’ve worked so hard to change and the next step in evolving is changing the outside to match the way I feel inside.

Thanks y’all.

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My weight loss

So I’m 19 and I hate how much I weigh (315) I started working out and cutting back on food and sugars in January, right now I’ve gone 2 months without soda and it feels amazing. The working out part was a struggle for me, I started out strong going 4 times a week for like 2 to 3 hrs. After the second week I needed a break and that day off turned into 3 days and then a week, and then finally 2 weeks. I found this subreddit and it started giving me the motivation to go but I’m starting out slow only going for a hr or so and I’m really enjoying it. I feel more active now and wanting to do more stuff and I don’t feel so lazy anymore. I started this weight loss at 315 and I’m currently at 294, I feel so proud of myself and I just want to thank you guys for it. I just had to post this because it was in my mind thanks for listening

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