I’ve been trying to lose weight for 17 years. Something clicked the other day for me- I am so hesitant to add more things (bf, more friendships, any added potential stressor) into my life in fear of:
A) it taking away my “focus” (17 years…how focused am I really lol).
B) it not going right, then gaining even more weight.
Would love to see if anyone has some healthy mindsets for this or if anyone is in the same boat
I'm a 5'4 woman that started losing weight at around 200 pounds. I've since gotten down to around 180 over the course of the last 2 years. Sadly, most of this happened over the first 6 months, and since then, I've struggled to make any progress. It's so depressing and disheartening, and I feel lost. I feel fat, like I'll never lose weight, and I don't know what to do. I started working out for an hour, 2-3 times a week, I've been trying to eat healthy. I feel like a failure.
It's so hard to have a consistent meal schedule in grad school because my classes are different times everyday. I'm not struggling to maintain my weight, but it feels impossible to lose anything.
Finding my way back to this sub as I think once again about losing weight. I’m a 25F at 5’9” with SW of 250 and a CW of 247.
I have gained and lost weight many times over the past 5 years (started gaining after going to college, was a high school athlete), but am back now at one of my highest weights ever. If I’m honest with myself, my most “successful” runs at weight loss have been through self punishment, self hate, and disordered eating which was never sustainable. Then, I went through some very difficult family trauma last year, along with leaving college and being in a demanding sedentary job, which has got me up to this high weight that I have maintained for about 12 months
In the 12 months I’ve maintained (which is a positive, at least I didnt keep gaining), I started therapy, got on an anxiety med, moved into an apartment I love, and have been generally working on myself. My health is thankfully good though my doc wants me smaller.
Now that I am through a busy season at work, I have a craving to just work on living a better life, and part of that is weight loss. But this time, I don’t want to weigh myself every single day, obsess over every single calorie, or starve myself. I want to be happy and focus on things that make me feel good and focus on living a good life in the hopes that weight loss comes with it over time.
Eating home cooked meals with a focus on vegetables and whole foods, with some calorie counted treats and yummy additions makes me feel good. Eating 1100 a day and crying over a tbsp of butter makes me feel bad. Going on a walk around my neighborhood feels good. Forcing myself to run when I hate it is bad. Spending a Saturday out and about at a museum or the farmers market or with a friend feels good. Staying in because I hate how my body looks in that shirt and I need to isolate to have the time to count every calorie to perfection feels bad.
So, I am going to focus on joy. Sometimes that may not be the quickest route to getting skinny as fast as possible. Maybe that means my realistic goal weight is 170-180 rather than my high school weight of 150. Maybe some days I skip the exercise to focus on a new book I’m stoked about or maybe I eat at maintenance today because my friend wants to check out a new ice cream spot. But I also practice self love by healing my tendency to binge, rewarding myself with things other than food, and weighing myself every couple weeks to stay on track. I think this is a way for me to work towards living a life where I am happy, healthy, and yes smaller, but at a level where I am at peace. I want to built habits I can sustain for a life I am excited to live
Feel free to share your story or any tips, encouragement or ideas!!
i was 94 kilos this time last year
i lost 10 kilos this year and have gained it all back, some due to inactivity from injury, some for diabetes issues causing constant hunger.
am so depressed.
I feel helpless and hate the way i look
i guess the only way forward for me is to just do walking every now and then and try and lose weight that way.
Since that seems to be the only exercise i can do without causing injuries that set me back.
I hate this so much i am so depressed about it.
Can anyone tell me also because i need to track weight loss to see see if my diet is working
Do you count the morning weight loss or the weight during the day?
I have gone up two sizes in clothing and that is generally how i tend to evaluate my weight loss.
STOP DMING ME TO SELL YOUR WEIGHT LOSS PRODUCTS OR FITNESS TRAINER PACKAGES OR TRY TO STOP MAKING ME LOSE WEIGHT BECAUSE YOU FANTASIZE ABOUT OBESE WOMEN JUST STOP DMING ME
okay this might be more complicated than the title implies but i'm not really sure where else to ask these questions. Here's the thing I'm a competitive grappling athlete and i've decided to cut a little weight for some competitions i have coming up I've been on a bit of a weight loss journey for about 1.5 months now and i'm close to the weight i need to be at for competition i'm not worried about that. so far I've lost about 6 lbs by simply increasing cardio and ensuring i'm eating enough protein. CW is 133.2 ( im also 5'2") here's the thing though I am happy to cut a little bit to make a competition weight and give myself an advantage, but personally i would rlly love to see myself w a lower body fat percentage and just generally at a lower weight ( in my head that's around 122-125) i suppose im just nervous that if i achieve that weight i won't be able to maintain it and some of the muscle i've built over the past 2 years. (side note it is typically hard for me to lose weight and bf but no problem for me to gain muscle so i just look kinda big for my size most of the time which is rlly why i want to go down in weight and size) i realize i'm kind of rampblng but i suppose what i really want to know is has anyone who has a similar body type ig done this and been able to maintain their goal weight once achieved ?
Hey guys! 3 days ago I posted as my day 1 accountability post. I was 285 and I’ve really been working on myself. However today I learned I have minor scoliosis and back arthritis which is the cause of my back pain.
Hoewever, with yesterday being Halloween, I usually buy a bunch of chocolate and sour candies for ‘trick or treaters’ and then eat it all throughout the night. And although I did buy a huge bag of candy (500 dum dums from Costco) and we got a handful of candy from our neighbors after taking our 1yo trick or treating, I only ate 2 dum dums throughout the night and that was it. I was so proud of myself!
Today I weighed in at 281.4. So about a 4.6 lbs weight loss so far (probably all water weight but I’ll take it. My first goal is 270! Right now, until I get in touch about next steps for my back, I’m really only going to be changing my diet, going for walks with my son, and I’m going to be adding in some stretches I found online. I’ve been using the ‘lose it’ food log to track calories and I feel like I’m in the right track.
I am 16F and 5’3 and 243 lbs. where do I even start to lose weight?? I have a workout plan and workout 4 times a week (cardio and weights) I just don’t know how to stick to this and where to start…. I have always been struggling with my weight and also not to mention I always try these diets and lose a few pounds then gain like 20 more. I guess my trouble is sticking to it and bagging self discipline. I also wanna hear what is working for everyone else concerning all aspects of weight loss, dieting and etc.
