Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Fiance has asked me to hold him accountable to his weight loss, yet gets upset at me when I do

Hey, guys. I’m not really sure where to post this, but I thought you guys might be able to empathize with him a little better and give me some insight.

So, my fiance (25 yo M) has struggled with his weight his entire life. His parents worked late and so he was usually left to his own devices to make dinner, which generally consisted of Chef Boyardee or Little Caesar’s pizza, and it wasn’t like he learned portion control either, so one can of Chef Boyardee was a side to be followed by a box of Cheese Nibs and two packages of ramen. We dated in high school and he was on the football team and was a much smaller version of himself. Throughout college, however, he wasn’t as active but still had the same eating habits. We broke up after high school to start our adult lives and when we got back together several years later, he was at his heaviest at 280 lbs. He was crushed that “I had to see him that way” and made an awesome effort to get back into shape. He did great for a while, but now the stress of planning a wedding is starting to take a toll and he seems to have lost sight of his goals. We’ve had a lot of conversations about how we would both like to be in better shape, if not for our health, then for the wedding, so we’ve been working on our diets together and trying to be more active.

I was blessed with a pretty health-conscious family growing up and I haven’t really developed unhealthy food habits because I’m pretty careful about what I consume, and so I feel like paying closer attention to what I eat comes fairly naturally for me. He, on the other hand, doesn’t really feel full and will eat until there’s nothing left. We’ve had conversations in the past where he’s asked me to help him understand portion control better because “apparently [his] body is a bottomless pit.” And I try. I really do, but I hate feeling like the bad guy when I say that maybe he should let it rest and see if he’s still hungry. He gets so defensive, but I don’t know what to do. I would love for him to be healthy and feel good about himself, but I don’t want to keep having to figuratively slap his hand away when he starts to overeat.

Also, some important information about me: I’m 4’10” and 115lbs. I eat less than an average size person and I’m sure my perspective is skewed on what an average person should eat, much less a man of 5’11” weighing 260 lbs. I’ve asked him to track his macros and eat for what fits his caloric goals so he knows what works best for him. He gets upset when I ask him as he’s reaching for a second helping of a pretty calorie rich meal if it fits his goals. I just don’t want to be the bad guy but I really want him to reach his goals.

TLDR; Fiancé has asked for my help with portion control but doesn’t receive my help well. How do I support him without hurting his feelings?

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10 Instant Pot Recipes You Need to Try This Instant

If you got an Instant Pot as a holiday gift—or if you went out and bought one for yourself—you’ll be happy to learn that you can make Nutrisystem-friendly meals in a snap using your new kitchen toy. According to the manufacturer, Instant Pot speeds up cooking by two to six times using up to 70 percent less energy.

The Instant Pot is the Swiss Army Knife of kitchen tools. It’s the next generation pressure cooker, but it also sautés, and acts like a slow cooker, rice cooker, steamer, yogurt maker and a food warmer. If there’s ever an attachment that slices and dices or sends your shopping list to a grocery delivery service, you’ll be able to call it your own personal chef.

We’ve developed 10 delicious recipes that make good use of this versatile appliance:

1. Quick & Easy Pot Roast >

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You can have this Sunday night special meal any old time since the Instant Pot makes it ultra easy and quick to prepare. Loaded with flavor from garlic, Italian seasoning, onions and black pepper, it’s equally loaded with nutrients since you’re adding carrots and potatoes to the dish. This recipe calls for two pounds of lean beef, such as rump roast, eye of round or bottom round. The cooking method is what turns these normally tough cuts into tender, juicy morsels luxuriating in a rich tomato-laced gravy. Only 359 calories, this dish counts as one SmartCarb, two PowerFuels, one Vegetable and two Extras on the Nutrisystem program.

2. Simple and Spicy Instant Pot Carnitas >

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Choose your protein—chicken, pork or beef—and add garlic, Mexican spice and fire-roasted tomatoes to your Instant Pot for instant, South-of-the-Border flavor. Avocado adds a dose of monounsatured fat—the one that’s extra good for you—and this dish is garnished with pico de gallo and chopped cilantro. This recipe makes four, two-tortilla servings at just 306 calories per serving. On Nutrisystem, this Instant Pot recipe counts as two PowerFuels, one SmartCarb and one Extra.

3. Tomato Basil Frittata >

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You’ll bounce out of bed to enjoy this egg-based breakfast made with cheddar cheese, tomatoes, spinach and hashbrowns that’s ready in just 20 minutes… And so will your entire family! This recipe makes enough for eight servings. Whatever you don’t eat, you can save for later in the week. One serving is only 115 calories and counts as one PowerFuel and one Extra.

4. Rotisserie Chicken >

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With your Instant Pot, you don’t need a rotisserie, nor do you need to spend extra money to buy a ready-made chicken at the grocery store. All you have to do is use the “sauté” setting on the appliance, add one whole chicken, garlic powder, paprika, dried herbs (your choice) and some low-sodium chicken broth and olive oil. After the skin is golden brown, use your Instant Pot as a pressure cooker. Your “rotisserie” chicken will be done in 25 minutes! One two oz. serving of chicken is 116 calories and counts as one PowerFuel. Pair it with a large salad and a whole grain roll and your Flex meal is complete.

5. Instant Pot Pasta e Fagioli Soup >

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This soup is a hearty, satisfying, nutritious meal, bursting with flavor and warm comfort on a cold day. Don’t let the lengthy ingredients list daunt you. Once you get your veggies diced—or you get your already prepared vegetables out of the fridge—it takes no time to make. Imagine yourself sitting down to tuck into this steaming tomato-chicken broth-based soup rich with vegetables, beans, ditalini pasta and chicken, spiced with red pepper flakes, Italian seasoning, pepper, thyme, bay leaves and rosemary. The recipe makes six servings, each 303 calories. On Nutrisystem, a serving counts as one PowerFuel, one Smart Carb, one Vegetable and one Extra.

6. Instant Pot Chicken Creole >

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It’s easy to whip up this traditional dish from Louisiana’s Big Easy using the slow cooker setting of your Instant Pot. Six hours before you plan to eat, place one pound of boneless chicken breast in the pot with onions, minced garlic, bell peppers, carrots, tomato, Creole seasoning, some broth and cayenne pepper for a real bayou flavor. When it’s done, shred the chicken and serve over cooked brown rice. This recipe serves six. Each serving is 262 calories and counts as one SmartCarb, one PowerFuel, one Vegetable and one Extra.

7. Instant Pot Salmon with Chili-Lime Sauce >

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You’re going to wonder how anything that tastes this good can be good for you, but it is. Salmon is rich in heart-healthy omega-3 fatty acids that help douse dangerous inflammation in your body, which can contribute to heart disease, cancer, Alzheimer’s and arthritis. Salmon is also an excellent source of lean protein, as is the cup of chickpeas in this recipe, which are blended with raw vegetables such as zucchini, asparagus, bell peppers or broccoli. And did we mention Chili-Lime Sauce? That mix of chili powder, garlic, honey, lime juice and other flavorful ingredients makes the meal. The recipe makes two servings, and each clocks in at just 342 calories. One serving counts as one SmartCarb, one PowerFuel, half a Vegetable and three Extras.

8. Easy Instant Pot Herb Roasted Potatoes >

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In the world of side dishes, this delicious Instant Pot recipe reigns supreme. Imagine roasted potatoes done to perfection in seven minutes! You’ll need three cups of baby potatoes and a mix of herbs like thyme, rosemary, marjoram, oregano, some garlic powder and water. After sautéing briefly, use the pressure cooker setting to finish. Three cups of potatoes make six servings at 99 calories each. On Nutrisystem, this side counts as one SmartCarb and one Extra.

9. Instant Pot Key Lime Cheesecake >

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This isn’t the only cheesecake on the Nutrisystem diet, but it might become your favorite. It’s a satisfying cream cheese-ricotta style cake with a kicked-up lime flavor thanks to two whole limes zested and juiced, and sweetened with stevia, an all-nautural plant-based sweetener. You’ll need a mixer or a fork to work the ingredients together, but the rest is all Instant Pot. Best of all, this Instant Pot recipe is only 157 calories a serving and the recipe makes five servings, which each count as one PowerFuel and three Extras.

10. Instant Pot Rice Pudding >

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It’s up to you what you want to call this. It could be breakfast, dessert or your afternoon snack. Made with brown rice, raw cranberries, skim milk, light coconut milk, with a sprinkle of cinnamon and stevia, this 152-calorie bowl of comfort counts as one SmartCarb and one Extra.

11. Instant Pot Buffalo Chicken Lettuce Wraps >

buffalo chicken

Buffalo chicken lover? You need to bookmark this recipe. Shredded buffalo chicken is cooked to perfection with this help of an instant pot and served atop a lettuce wrap for a spicy and hearty meal. Complete with a homemade blue cheese dressing, this diet-friendly instant pot recipe has all the flavors of your favorite buffalo chicken dish without the added calories!

Check out the rules for our instant pot giveaway here >

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The Fool-Proof Way to Cook a Delicious Turkey

Few things instill as much anxiety in the hearts of home cooks as does cooking the traditional Thanksgiving bird. And in recent years, there’s been a lot of talk about different, supposedly better, ways of cooking Tom. Deep-frying, brine, smoking, barbecuing. Whatever. When it comes to Thanksgiving, we don’t mess with tradition, and that means roasting.

Here’s a super-simple way to roast a turkey. It will leave everyone satisfied. Especially you.

  • Preheat the oven to 450°F Position an oven rack in the bottom third of the oven and preheat to 450°F. Remove your turkey from the fridge and remove all the packaging, being sure to check the chest cavity for giblets and the neck. Rub the turkey with some salt and pepper, and pour two cups of broth or water into the roasting pan. Place it breast-side up on a roasting rack in a large pan.
  • Place the turkey in the oven and turn down the heat to 350°F.
  • Roast the turkey Plan on 13 minutes per pound, but start checking the temperature about halfway through the scheduled cooking time to see how it’s cooking.
  • Baste the turkey every 45 minutes Remove the turkey from the oven, close the door and completely baste the turkey. Tilt the pan and use a turkey baster or spoon to scoop up the pan liquids and drizzle them on top of the turkey. You can also baste the turkey with melted butter or oil in the last 45 minutes or so of cooking to brown and crisp the skin.
  • Take Tom’s temperature Begin checking the turkey’s temperature about halfway through your estimated cooking time. Put the thermometer in three places: the breast, outer thigh, and inside thigh; the meat should be at least 165°F in all locations when the turkey has finished cooking. If not, put the turkey back in the oven for 20 minutes. Shield the breast meat with foil to keep it from drying out.
  • Rest before carving Grab one side of the roasting rack with an oven mitt and tilt the whole pan so the liquids inside the turkey cavity run out into the pan. Lift the whole turkey (still on the rack) and move it to a cutting board. Cover the turkey with aluminum foil and let stand for at least half an hour. This allows the meat to firm up and the juices to be re-absorbed into the muscle tissue, making the turkey easier to carve and juicier to eat.

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The Long Walk: Burning off Holiday Calories

As a rule of weight loss, it’s better to control what you eat in the first place than to try to burn it off later with exercise. Why? Simple: eating is easy and exercising, for most of us, is hard. Plus, the amount of time it takes to eat a calorie bomb is usually a mere fraction of the amount of time it takes to burn it off. That’s a bad return on your time investment.

This is important to keep in mind, especially during this week of feasting. In order to motivate you to be mindful about what you’re eating, we’ve done the math for you. What follows is a list of a standard serving of a Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings, and how many calories they contain, followed by the amount of time you’ll need to spend walking at three miles per hour in order to burn the same number of calories. Keep in mind, that’s just the amount of exercise you need to break even. And if you’re on a weight loss program, you don’t want to break even—you want to move ahead.

A 150-pound woman burns about 230 calories walking three miles per hour, the pace of an average walker on pavement, on level ground. At that rate, here’s how long it will take you to burn off your Thanksgiving meal:

  • 8 ounces of dark meat turkey with skin: 424 calorie—1.8 hours (1 hour, 48 minutes) of walking
  • 1 cup of stuffing: 320 calories—1.4 hours (1:24)
  • 1 slice canned cranberry sauce: 86 calories—.4 hours (24 minutes)
  • 1 piece of cornbread: 173 calories—.75 hours (45 minutes)
  • 1 cup of green bean casserole: 160 calories—.7 hours (42 minutes)
  • 1 cup of mashed potatoes and ¼ cup of gravy: 443 calories—1.9 hours (1:54)
  • 1 heaping serving spoon of sweet potatoes and marshmallows: 609 calories—2.7 hours (2:42)
  • 1 glass of white wine: 122 calories—.5 hours (30 minutes)
  • 1 slice of pecan pie: 503 calories—2.2 hours (2:12)
  • 1 slice of pumpkin pie: 316 calories—1.4 hours (1:24)

Total: 3,157 calories—13.7 hours (13:42, 41 miles)

If you have seconds: 6,314—27.4 hours (27:24, 82 miles)

Lesson: Choose wisely.

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At my biggest I was 178 lbs. One year ago (in December) I was the heaviest of my life, but it's finally dropping!

I have been through a lot of anxiety and depression. I hate eating. I've grieved a lot of death. Instead of overeating I would just fill up on whatever was around (cheap calories, soda) and not really even have a single meal during the day. It wrecked my health. Last December I looked at the scale and it was 178lbs. I cried, a lot. I'm only 5'0 so this is a lot of weight. I can't really say how I lost the weight these past 3 months. I've been happier (but still have rough patches). I've been going outside. Eating when I can. Less sugar. Instead of focusing on weight loss, I've been focusing on my mental health and taking care of ME. It's working! But, there's also an unhealthy reason I've been losing weight a bit quicker - gallstones. They were a wakeup call because now I get sick eating any bad foods. Crap, right? Taking this day by day! I'm currently at 154.4. It goes down every day and I'm so thankful because my mental health is improving too.

Progress pics here

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Goal Event!

Does anyone else use events as goals for their weight loss? I’ve never done this before and I feel like it’s really going to help me get motivated. Yesterday Thomas Rhett announced his tour dates this summer and he’ll be in my neck of the woods August 8th! I’m SOOO EXCITED, and I thought up the idea to use that as my goal date. Like I want to be at my goal weight by then, so I can go to the country concert in my boots & shorts and a tank top & feel the most confident I can be🙌🏻 I already feel so motivated knowing that when I’m tempted to break and fall off the wagon, I can think about what I’m doing it for! THOMAS RHETT lmao😂

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Tuesday, 20 November 2018? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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