Dating during/after weight loss?

26F 5’9 HW: 295 CW: 228 GW: 180

I would say I’m in the middle/ nearing end of my weight loss (not my journey of course that is life long) but now that I’m getting close and closer to onederland I’m considering dating again as I just got promoted in my job, and have become more comfortable with my appearance.

I don’t know when I’ll start “looking” as I’m still definitely obese. I started as a size 20/22 and now I’m a 14/16.

I’ve been overweight since I was 10 so I’m no stranger to dating while plus sized.

Thing is a slightly unexpected result is I have a TON of loose skin. That I can tell by the looks of it isn’t going to get better with more weight loss.

I had a very large lower apron belly, large thighs and big arms with a small waist and chest at my largest.

The stomach is flatter from the side and all around but still hangs a lot, (I mean a lot, it almost touches my thighs) and now it’s very mobile, squishier than my breasts, wrinkly and hangs just as low as before. My belly button is a line. I can pick up my stomach and literally pull it away from my body/hold it under my arms like a ton of pizza dough. My inner thighs are all wrinkly and my arms have very thin skinned hanging bat wings. I have the body of someone who’s lost much more weight than i already have.

It’s weird, my ribs jut out, and stick out farther than everything else when I lay down. with very defined obliques/abs and you can see my hip bones when I’m laying on my back, but the sides of body look like they’ve melted to the ground. I can just like move tons of skin all around on my body. I have a theory that I probably have 10+ lbs of loose skin. And I still got 40lbs to lose.

My measurements are 42-32-47. Like I’m just loose skin hanging on bones.

In some ways my body looked better before. Whilst naked I mean.

I’m really nervous to date because what I look like in clothes is much different than what I look like naked. A coworker once talked to me about her “gut” and how I don’t have one. But I do, I can just tuck it into pants now so it lays flat.

Any advice on “warning” partners? Or waiting until I get skin removal surgery? I’m nervous that I’m “false advertising”

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I'm sick of the "Don't compliment weight loss" culture that has reared its ugly head.

There's been a pretty prevalent push (at least online) where I have read comments from people complimenting a person's weightloss and then replies giving them shit because "what if that person is sick." "What if this" "what if that".

I'm firmly in the camp that I am happy to hear compliments or comments on my weight loss or how "good/thin/skinny/fit" I look. If I've been working my ass off to get in shape it makes my whole life to hear a friend or family member who I havemt seen in a while say something positive about it!

I am a person who likes and appreciates the external validation and its fucking annoying that the social norm corrections train is rolling through Complimentsville.

Complimenting someone's fitness and weight should NOT be a taboo when obesity has become so normalized in society. I'm all for keeping weight compliments around and not shaming them out of existence.

"Have you lost weight? You look fantastic!" shouldn't be met with "You cant say that!". I earnestly believe the only people mad about it probably haven't stepped on a scale lately or are part of the "HAES" fallacy and believe being overweight and obese is normal and not damaging to your health.

Bring back skinny compliments!

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Glad I started lifting from the start!

So, I’ve gotten to a “normal” BMI before, but when I got there, I felt like I was too skinny. Maybe it was body dysmorphia? I don’t know.

Anyway, on my most recent weight loss journey, I emphasized weight lifting. I didn’t follow a program or anything, but mostly doing push-ups, working on a pull-up bar (still can’t do one, but working towards it) and dumbbell exercises.

After 6 months, my jean size and shirt size are on par with where I was when I was at my lightest (29 lbs down from where I’m at). I’m technically overweight, but I fit in a medium shirt! My previous shirt sizes alway started with an X! As a chronic yo yo dieter, I just wanted to share my experiences with you all. I’ve gained and lost weight before, but for the first time in my life, at 28 years old, I’m finally feeling confident in my body!

M 28 5’11” SW 251 CW 203 GW 174

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An interesting and simple strategy for discipline with weight loss or maintenance

A colleague recently told me his strategy for maintaining his weight. He is committed to doing "three hard things" every single day when it comes to food and drink. This could mean 1) passing up a cookie or donut at work, 2) stopping a meal when he is only 80% full, and 3) resisting the urge to have an afternoon snack, for example. This commitment has helped him to maintain a significant weight loss and he noted that he finds it manageable. Do you do anything like this? I thought it was an interesting tactic and would love to hear if you do anything similar. Thanks!

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Weirdly enough... I lost a bunch of weight when I stopped worrying about it so much

Hello to all the wonderful people of loseit, thank you for your camaraderie and can-do spirit, it has helped me a lot on my weight loss journey.

This post is yet another reminder that each one of you is deserving of love, respect, and admiration. We all have our battles, we fight on so many fronts, and we are answerable to so many people. Simply exisiting can be a tough challenge. It takes immense energy, willpower, and effort to keep doing our routines day in and day out.

You are worthy of love. You are deserving of love. You are enough. You don't need to prove anything to anybody.

The moment I stopped being so hard on myself the weight just melted away. I think it is important to let habits form and then have them move to the subconscious, after a certain point, worrying simply becomes a net loss.

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10 Healthy Dinner Party Ideas and Tips

When good food and great people come together, memorable moments tend to happen. Hosting a dinner party can be stressful, especially when you’re trying to lose weight yourself. We put together this list of ideas to help you create a great night for your guests that’s good for you, too.

1. Choose your vibe.

Set up your party for fun by planning it with a theme in mind. The theme can be subtle and known only to you, but it will help guide decisions about the kinds of food you have and how you serve it. The best themes are clear and simple, like casual elegance, fiesta night, bohemian, vintage or beach party. You can even make your theme based on the season, such as spring or fall.

2. Guest check.

So many people today have special food preferences and concerns. Before you plan the menu for your dinner party, send out a message asking your guests to let you know if they have allergies or intolerance to certain ingredients, if they are vegan, or have faith-based dietary guidelines. You don’t want to find out on the night of your party!

3. Signature drink.

Many hosts like to offer a pre-made cocktail along with the usual wine and beer. We like to mix up mocktails, such as Must-Have Mojitos, Skinny White Sangria or Sparkling Pomegranate Punch. They can be served with or without alcohol so everyone can choose for themselves. If you’re on Nutrisystem, you can enjoy one alcoholic drink at a dinner party.

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4. Mediterranean style.

A “mezze” platter is an easy, sophisticated and healthy appetizer to serve or bring along when you’re a guest. This “grazing board” includes pita bread, hummus and other dips, cheeses, olives, nuts, and fresh or dried fruit. The ingredients are arranged on a platter or cutting board, so each guest can take what they like. You can balance your plate with PowerFuels, such as cheese, nuts or olives, and SmartCarbs like whole grain crackers and fruit. Charcuterie boards are also a great idea for your healthy dinner party.

5. Build it yourself.

A customizable entrée can be a simple solution to pleasing lots of different palates. It also lets you stick to your healthy diet! Set up a baked potato bar with all the fixings, including light sour cream, low-fat cheese, turkey bacon bits, chopped chives and balsamic vinegar. Tacos, fajitas and salads are also easy to turn into a DIY bar, making them great options for diverse tastes.

6. Prep and freeze.

Make the day of the dinner party easier for yourself by cooking some of the dishes in advance and freezing them. Our Twice Baked Cauliflower Casserole is an indulgent yet healthy side that can be reheated while you mingle.

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7. Stop the pick.

Sampling food before serving it is always a good idea but beware of munching all day as you cook. It’s easy to eat a whole meal’s worth of calories while picking from each dish as you’re preparing it.

8. Set up to clean up.

Your after-party will be much easier if you think beforehand about cleaning up. Make trash cans accessible to guests. Decide where you want dirty dishes and let guests know with a simple sign. Plan for guests who offer to help with clearly defined tasks that help you.

9. Distribute leftovers.

Avoid the temptation of eating party food for several days by offering leftovers to guests. Be prepared with disposable containers so you can pack them up and hand them off easily.

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10. Plan for fun.

If your guests all know each other, chances are the conversation will flow naturally. But if you have people meeting for the first time, think of a couple simple games and conversation starters to get the evening flowing. “Two Truths and One Lie” is a fun way to learn about people—it can even be revealing about those you already know. A guest will share three facts about themselves, but one of them isn’t true. Take turns guessing which is the falsehood. Ask everyone to talk about their first job. Binge-worthy movies and TV shows, favorite music and best trips are other good, non-controversial topics. The connections made with other people are the real nourishment we all get from dinner parties.

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Working on a cruise ship, don't know how to measure calories

Hello all, I am starting my weight loss journey but am having a few challenges. I'm currently working on a cruise ship where I have no control of how the food is prepared. This means that I don't know how many calories I am consuming when I eat a particular dish. I am trying to do CICO but cannot weigh my food. I am thinking that portion control may be my best option here but I'm still trying to get the hang of it. The point of my post is to get tips and ideas from fellow loseit members, on how to go about this. Thank you in advance for all the answers

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