Sunday, February 12, 2023

How do you fight the self-hatred?

I'm struggling with the mental aspect big time. I've always fueled my weight loss attempts from the point of self-loathing which has just resulted in a sense of urgency and body dysmorphia/fixations and subsequently a past with disordered eating. i want to pursue good nutrition, fitness, strength, and some physique goals, which i know all take time to be sustainable. i want to focus on genuinely improving my relationship with my body and food while coming from a place of love and respect for my body but I can't help but go down the same cycles of turning on myself the second something becomes hard. How have you fought the sense of urgency / the self-loathing / etc?

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A little bit of self reflection. 50 pounds down today.

As of this morning, I’ve lost exactly 50 pounds. I still have another ~35 to go.

I plateaued in the middle for ~7 months which was frustrating, but not debilitating. I think it was a good test for me actually. I fluctuated in an 8-pound window pretty consistently, just depending on the time of month, how hydrated I was, etc. Overall I had to celebrate that I didn’t gain weight and I was able to maintain, but of course I was disappointed that I wasn’t losing more.

Anyway, I finally started losing again and I’m so relieved! I’ve lost about 8 pounds over the last 3 weeks, and I am blown away. Suffice to say… just stick with it. Your body will catch up if you plateau! I always heard to just keep going and it was so true.

Throughout the last few months I’ve done a lot of reflection. In particular I’ve noticed how much my appetite and tastes have changed since I started my weight loss journey.

For example, I got Chipotle for dinner tonight. Same exact order as always, but I am 1/3 through my burrito bowl and chips and…. So full. I might nibble throughout the next hour but no way can I finish more than half of it.

Also, I will make a borderline-neurotic effort to drink water the rest of this evening and tomorrow to flush out the sodium. Never would have done more than drink an extra 16 oz bottle in the past, but now I’m so aware of how much BETTER I feel when I’m hydrated and not lugging around water weight or Chipotle bloat.

Another example: A burger place in town has a salad that I used to order for the sole purpose of getting something low calorie, low carb. It was always good but I’d have taken something else, if I weren’t trying to lose weight. It’s grown on me and I actively crave this specific salad sometimes, now! In general I’ve developed a renewed appreciation for fruits and vegetables. But a good salad, fluffy crisp leaves… so yummy.

Generally, I only ever eat about half my meal when I’m out to eat. Sometimes maybe 2/3 if I’m really hungry. That is a huge change. It feels so natural and effortless. I’ve truly retrained my body and I’m still not used to it!

There are a few things I’m still working on, like around 9:45 or 11:00 every night I get hungry. I have read that is a hormone signal and I can essentially re-wire my hormones, so I’m working on that one evening at a time. It’s tied to cortisol levels, sleep quality, and my general meal patterns.

It goes without saying that the NSVs are the most rewarding. Expressing myself with clothing, physical comfort, my smile feeling less tight, easier time curling up in the passenger seat, the quality of my sex life… all fantastic life improvements. I am finally feeling like myself again. No longer lost under 10 layers of fat and skin.

All of the NSVs contribute to a healthier, more motivating mindset that I m positive helps my overall trajectory. It helps me maintain a “hot girl” mindset, and make “hot girl” choices. Lmao

5’ 3”, 27F, SW: 224, CW: 174, GW: 140

Edit: I had a rocking body before I was diagnosed with CPTSD, developed an eating disorder, and gained 100+ pounds. Throughout all of this I’ve had - perhaps most of all - to learn to love myself. It’s so cliche but it’s the truth. Before I gained weight, I relied on my appearance (subconsciously) to do a lot of the heavy lifting for me in relationships and in life. After gaining weight, life got noticeably more difficult. I was forced to reckon with how much I hid from other people, or didn’t “show up,” just riding the perks of pretty privilege. People got a lot meaner, or they stopped noticing me at all. I had to look inward and study myself for things I loved. I’m very content now with who I am. I like that I’m funny, smart, thoughtful, strong, opinionated. What I look like is not the point. And I’m sure that’s helped me lose weight. Positive.

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A teenager asking for help

Hi everyone, i'm a 19 years (1,65 cm | ~95kg) old student who's been struggling to lose weight for the past years.

I've gone through what I consider a lot; a big depression and anxiety diagnostic which it has been the worst thing I have fought in my life.

But my weight loss I something i have never been able to forget since I judge myself everytime I'm in front of a mirror. I tried a lot or things:

• Fasting • Counting calories • LoseIt guide • Going to the gym • Exercise at home • Trying to find a sport i really like • Walking

I don't think any of these thinks has really helped me with my goal. These days I'm finding myself more sad and frustrated than ever. Thanks.

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Controlling Binge Eating

I think one of the key ways I'm gonna lose weight is by controlling my bingeing (however you spell it). I'm alright at exercising and the normal meals I eat are fine, but holy crap I can pound down like 3000 calories in a sitting on crap, and it kind of gets to the point where I feel the need to do this like every day. If I don't have junk food on hand I feel the need to go out and get more.

One of the strategies I'm thinking I'm gonna try is to not just swear off binge eating forever or whatever. Just saying "I'm gonna stop doing this now and forever" is rewly hard. Instead I'm gonna allow myself to binge as much as I want on the weekend, but then on weekdays I'm not gonna allow myself to binge. Healthy snacks and no buying junk food. So on the week days I do my absolute best to only eat "good" and maybe count calories, but then on the weekends I can do whatever the hell I want and won't let myself stress about it. This is the alternative to the current model, where I kind of just eat whatever the hell I want every day and just try not to think about it.

I don't know if this would work as a long term weight loss strategy, but im thinking this might help me get binge eating under control and might help me get to a point where I can maybe do something a little more ambitious in the future (like not binging at all).

My question is, has anyone else ever tried this? Does anyone have any suggestions? Does this sound like a good idea, or should I try something else?

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Saturday, February 11, 2023

I hate being complimented.. is anyone else like this..

So I’ve been on my weight loss journey for about a month now and so far I’ve lost 16lbs. I started at 200lbs and now I’m 184lbs. My mother sees that I’m trying to eat healthy and go to the gym and now won’t shut up about diets and working out. Every time she compliments me because I’ve lost some weight it irks me so much. It makes me not want to do anything. Today I was at the point of tears because she wouldn’t shut up and then she told my dad who lives in a another country so he called me to congratulate me and I told him that I hate being complimented. Like all I want to do is reach my goals without anyone telling me anything. I really hate it. Is anyone else like this?

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Confidence while overweight

I just made a comment about this topic in another sub, and it gave me the idea to post about it here. I find it very difficult to still feel attractive even though I need to lose a good 30 lbs (maybe more). Growing up, it was always pounded into my head to NEVER “get fat” as if my life would be over if I did. I am 42F and that perfectionistic attitude still haunts me. The worst thing is the depression and self-sabotage that ensues. I am not as bad as I used to be in that department, but still need to improve a little.

What are your tips for still feeling attractive before you hit your weight loss goal, and not letting the extra weight bring you down?

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Lost 4 pounds in a week!

I know losing 4 pounds is not much, but for the first time I have been eating things I enjoy and found alternatives for my weight loss. Having my colleague who is also losing weight and discussing better snacks and motivating each other has motivated me. As well as the advice people have been giving on here. And I feel a lot less doubtful of making this lifestyle change. I also love veggies, so I try to include veggies in my diet with something I like. I hate tracking calories, but that has for sure helped me know what or how much of something I am entering in to my meals. When I originally lost weight, I ate nothing and did a lot of fasting, worked out 4 days a week, and was just so unhappy. The only time I would eat junk was when I would go out with friends. I loved how I looked, but it came at a huge price. I realized how unhappy that made me during the pandemic and stopped working out. Everything I hate had no taste in it and I thought that was how weight loss worked. And I actually feel happier. Seeing that I lost 4 pounds this week really motivates me to keep doin it. I wanted to share with everyone what I am doing. Right now I am not actively working out, but I plan to start right now doing walks and when I feel like it, going to the gym. Because I am not really used to going to the gym at this time. Right now I am just focusing on fixing my diet, so I can keep it consistent for when I hit the gym. Right now I am currently consuming 1,500 calories. That is where I feel most comfortable, I am 5"2" and it feels attainable and not as extreme.

Snacks I eat when I have that sugar itch that I love:

Trader Joes: Anabar Fruity Cereal Crunch

Whole Foods NUGO Peanut Cluster Stronger

Made Good Krispy Treat Bar

Kind Chewy Granola Bars -Don't eat this too much or at all, but have it as a go to for lower calorie since the bars are only 100 calories per bar.

Amazon- Keto Cheese Cake flavored powder for my shakes

When I have coffee in the morning

Whole Foods Collagen Creamer Mocha Powder

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