Venting About COVID and starting over

Hello all I'm a long time lurker here and I'm just writing here because I don't have anyone else to talk to this about here. This story started long ago in Feburary 2020 a couple months before everything started shutting down for my college. I was at 275 lb and quite sad. I ate a whole pizza that day then decided to weigh myself. After I saw my weight I knew I had to change something. I wrestled in high school with a weight cap at 220, so I was still large (I'm 5'9 5'10 depending on what time of day it is) but not so overweight as I was at 275.

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So I started working on eating less and it worked. Less sweets and smaller portions got me all the way down to about 240. Then COVID lockdown happened and I had to leave school for my parents house. My parents are where I think I get some of my bad eating habits, as I was always told to eat my entire plate for dessert, and of course I got dessert more often than not as my parents were (are still in my moms case) quite overweight as well.

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I was focusing on eating less carbs as well, and walking. Once I got to my parents house however that changed, as I basically couldn't eat low carb meals anymore and walking was hard to do in my neighborhood. Along with the stress of learning how to do online classes I started to gain weight. Then I started to eat to make me feel better which is a vicious cycle. Over that spring and summer I untaught myself all the good habits I had.

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Now I live alone in my college town. I no longer had access to a dishwasher, and sadly I hate washing dishes, so cooking in my apartment became less common as well as still adapting to mostly online classes, I started eating out more. So here I am a year and a half later hitting a new peak at 285, just stepping off the scale.

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I guess I get to start this journey all again, I'm just frustrated at myself and my body. Luckily I have more knowledge than most people my age about healthy weight loss from wrestling, but as I'm sure lots of people here can relate to, knowing the knowledge is now the hard part. So hopefully I'll be able to make an update post in another year and a half with some weight loss progress. Thanks for listening to me vent everyone.

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Officially Down 40lb!

After about 4 months I am down 40lbs through hard work! Getting a summer job where I was forced to work outside and exercise helped me immensely jump start my journey. The one tip I can give is to not set too harsh of food rules. At the beginning I set way too unrealistic calorie goals and refused to allow myself "junk" food. All this did was blow up in my face in the form of pints of icecream and bags of chips. By allowing myself to satiate my cravings I never get that ravenous desire to stuff my face with all the food I was not allowing myself. I am so happy and am nearly at 50% of my weight loss goal (100lb total). I don't have anyone in my life who would understand just how happy I am so I wanted to share it with you guys. Hopefully soon you will all see a 50lb post from me!

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I'm tired of socialising being so food-focused and isk how to turn people down

I'm at a point in my weight loss journey where I have to pay very careful attention to my calories in order to lose fat without really depriving myself. I have to stick to my calorie goal but I can afford one day a week going over as long as I'm consistent with my workouts and get a good amount of walking in.

I do also deal with an eating disorder, so I have a terrible amount of food-related anxiety. A big reason for sticking to my calorie goals is to help mitigate these feelings. The one over-budget day a week is a mental break.

But no one else sees my struggle or really cares. And y'know, they shouldn't have to, but I'm getting to the end of my tether with having to go out and eat so much. I don't want to do it, but if I don't go then I'm letting people down or missing opportunities to see people.

But every single outing comes with anxiety and guilt and self-flagellation. I've just had over a month solid of birthday celebrations at least once per week and I NEED downtime. Now I'm getting invited to my mother-in-law's every week and my partner still expects weekend takeout and I can't handle it. That's 2 days where I'll definitely be over my goal, and I have no buffer room for any other unplanned bad days.

I guess I'm venting. I've got no doubt other people have been in a similar situation! I'm not sure if I can face lowering my daily calorie goal even further to compensate so I don't know what to do. I finally got control over my own habits and now I'm getting all of these setbacks I can't control :(

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Am I justified in being upset by my weight obsessed family members?

23year old girl at 83KG. I've been trying really really hard to consistently lose weight. It's an uphill battle already because I deal with horrible binge eating and it's taken me a year to get a little better at it.

My family and my surroundings have started to really frustrate me because all they talk about is food. I went out with my cousins to get a pedicure and the entire way there and the way back (I was with them for 5 hours) they talked about food, dieting, more food, more dieting. When they say dieting they mean not eating anything at all and walking 12k steps a day and weight training. I try not to talk to them much because I can't manage to exercise that much and if I eat too little I trigger myself into a binge eating episode.

Unfortunately I have to spend a lot of time with them because they're getting married. I've been dealing with my other cousins talking about weight loss too, but I don't mind a simple "yeah I've been trying to lose weight, I eat this and I try to exercise." It's just that these cousins talk about it all the time and I don't want to think about food all day. I don't want to hyper focus on dieting every few minutes because it would be too stressful for me.

A few examples:

When we went to get pedicures we got the wrong building so we were walking upstairs but then we realised we had to go somewhere else. As we're going downstairs my cousin says "I love how we're complaining about walking upstairs as though we all don't need to exercise." This genuinely upset me because I don't look at myself as someone that needs to exercise. I want to exercise. It helps me cope with my depression and it makes me feel good about myself. I dont want to see myself as someone that needs to exercise because that would make me despise myself and my body.

Another factor is that these cousins want to be stick thin. One of them only ate 300-500 calories daily so that she would lose weight. When I told her that I'm glad she doesn't do that anymore because it's disordered eating she just laughed it off and said "I'd still do it if I could, I wish I could starve myself now." She said she fat shamed herself into being thin and she wants to be thinner than she is now.

To add to this, I can't tell them I have BED because they'll say yeah we all have that.

Then, we were at a dinner and the entire time my cousins were joking about how the food was so good they were afraid it would finish soon. Then they all kept talking about "skinny girls" and about how they wanna know "how these skinny girls do it." I distanced myself from the conversation because I didn't want to think about food and weight that much. To add to this, another one of my cousins comes up to me when I'm about to leave and asks if I'm going to join a gym again. I tell her no I'm exercising at home and I have the equipment I need at home. This was the same cousin who a few months ago told me "I'm so glad my weight hasn't gotten so bad that I have back rolls" right after I told her I want to lose weight off my back because I have back rolls.

I also understand that I might be overly sensitive, it's just that I feel extremely uncomfortable around these women now. I was really close to them for a long time but now I dread meeting them because I don't want to talk about weight loss every minute of every day. I know really well that I have to lose weight, I dont want to be reminded of it vicariously. And that's the thing that upsets me even more; they talk about weight referencing all of us, as though I'm not even there.

When I tell them I'm calorie counting, they want to know exactly how many calories, which times of the day I eat during and when my last meal is. I try to avoid the topic of weight but they keep bringing it up.

Another very very irritating fact is that whatever I do with them has to involve food. I can't just meet them over coffee, it has to be over lunch, or a hi-tea with deep fried food, of homemade food with a lot of calories.

Am I being too sensitive in this regard? How do I not let any of this affect me? I've been controlling my binge eating even though being around them has made me want to binge. It's like after they're gone I feel like an overgrown whale

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Is my goal possible without exercise?

I’m trying to lose as much weight as possible, within a year. No set numbers (those just stress me out), I’m just trying to become the smallest version of myself by this time next year.

What I wonder is, is it possible to do some serious damage without exercise? I’ve heard that weight loss is mostly diet anyway, but is not exercising going to seriously impede my ability to lose a massive mount of weight? For the record.... I could stand to lose 150lbs and I’m not that tall...

I’ve tried many many times to lose the weight.... and had a few serious attempts that lasted for a few months. But I’ve noticed a trigger for me is exercising. When I start to add that in, I get insatiable hunger. I’m also very scheduled-based with my approach to life, so adding that my schedule just stresses me out because I can’t skip it and it makes me stressed and additional stress related to dieting makes me not want to do it anymore and give up on all my efforts.

I’d like to try this round without exercising being a factor (if I feel like adding it later I can, but I’m not going to go into this time telling myself I have to exercise). I’ll basically be sedentary because I work a desk job where I work long hours.

I guess my question is, am I doing myself a massive disservice if I don’t exercise? Like will exercising make me lose a significant amount of weight more than just diet alone over the course of a year?

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Clarification: I do at-home exercise. I have a treadmill and a stationary bike. When I exercised during previous attempts I’d push myself to do about 45 mins of exercise where I’m working my hardest possible during those sessions.

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Plateau, then Gained 14lb weight after 45lb weight loss.

F/5’6”/SW: 195, LW: 148, CW:169. GW: 135 UGW:125

College student, started college at 144lbs and gained until I weighed 195lbs at the end of freshman year despite watching weight, calorie tracking, doing cardio at the gym 2-3 times per week, etc.

(Side note: Sophomore year the college updated their menus to include calorie/nutrition info and found out the salads, broccoli, “healthy” options I was eating had 500-1500cal per what was in the portion sizes. How they could be that caloric dense is crazy to me)

Sophomore year, moved off campus, lost nearly all the weight over the course of the year and went down to 148lb. Did this through CICO, 1,000-1,200 calories per day, still exercised 2-3 times per day.

Junior year I start birth control and my weight went from 148-155 but maintained at 155lb for the course of the year. Still consuming 1,200 calories and exercising 2-4 times per week.

I am now a senior, I exercise at least once per day for one hour doing cardio and weights. I go for a walk or hike at least once per day. I hit between 10,000-17,000 steps per day according to my phone. I am still doing CICO 1,200 cal per day and I mainly eat vegetables and fruit and protein yogurt/shake. I sometimes eat chicken, and no dairy, rarely eat bread or pasta. No fast food, no juice, no soda. Mostly drink water and sometimes almond/cashew milk. I rarely drink coffee.

In the last month, I’ve went from 155lbs to 169lbs. I don’t know how. I’m very upset and I feel like a failure, I’m honestly scared to eat and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’ve talked to Drs and personal trainers about my weight gain, as sometimes if I exercise too much I lose my period, but they don’t address anything and it doesn’t lead anywhere.

Can anyone recommend a course of action, or at least share your story? I’m down in the dumps, and would like some hope or advice.

Thanks in advance.

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Keeping disciplined while on vacation in Italy

Hey,

So I've been having some success lately with weight loss (dropped about 8.5 pounds in 5 weeks). Been working out consistently. I'm a male, 29, 5'10 and weigh around 185 pounds.

I'm going to go to Italy for around two weeks (maybe 2.5) and for me a big part of traveling is food. I'll be going in about 2 weeks, so I should be down to 183ish pounds by the time of the trip.

I'm fine not drinking so much, but if I'm going to Italy I want to eat.

My RMR is ~1700 calories and I've been able to consistently run 30 mins (burning about 700 cals at a time).

My plan was to

1. Skip breakfast (so effectively intermittent fast)
2. Work up to 35 to 40 minute runs so I can burn more calories and try and run 4 times a week.
3. Set my expectations to keep my weight, rather than lose any weight.
4. I am debating about whether I should weigh my food. I've been having some success since I started to weight my food last week, but a part of me wants to just not do it because I want to try all the solid Italian food.

My concern is that we will definitely be doing some house parties (I'm going with two musician friends of mine who know how to have a good time)...and there will be drinking (as well as hopefully other stuff).

Drinking is like calorific dynamite - how can I limit this on this trip? Further - how can I ensure I don't over eat while on this trip?

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