discouraged weight loss journey + spousal body shaming

i’ve been working out so much (1 hour a day, 5 days a week at 5:30am) and eating so healthy postpartum for 3 months only to lose 10 pounds.

i’m trying to see a hormone special before the holidays because i think it may be related to why i’ve been so slow to lose weight.

i feel so bad about myself and hate how i look from every angle. today i was sitting slumped on the coach, just resting the day after thanksgiving and my spouse randomly reached out and pushed the fat under my chin deep in my neck as if he was examining me. he said absolutely nothing but it was obvious he was seeing what i looked like without chin fat.

he didn’t have to say any words for me to feel extremely uncomfortable and also really hurt and ashamed of my body.

it’s messed up because I gained almost 70 pounds during my pregnancy and i’m only a few months postpartum. i thought he would be more understanding. honestly no one has made me feel uglier than my husband did during my pregnancy and now postpartum but that’s a story for another day.

it just really sucks for your whole body to change, to struggle to bring your normal body “back”, and for my spouse to constantly make me feel really ugly.

i didn’t even know what to say to him. i think i said something like why are you doing that and his response was “what, i’m you’re partner?”

like wtf? it felt a lot like body shaming and then gaslighting.

i’m so tired of feeling ugly and feeling like my spouse thinks i’m ugly. i looked into “elite body sculpture” mommy makeover and it’s so expensive.

i wish there was just a magic pill to take all the fat out of your body.

anyways i am just venting out but if anyone has tips about how to lose weight fast please lmk :(

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Graph of daily weight loss of 30 lbs over 5 months

When I wanted to lose weight, I've decided to weight myself everyday and write down the number so I can plot it to visualize how my bodyweight fluctuates under a calorie deficit. You can find it here:

https://imgur.com/a/BJq6h2W

The spikes in the data indicate a cheat meal of some sort, and there are certain days I didn't log my weight since I was on vacation and I didn't strictly adhere to my diet (I had a lots of beer, but I ate salads otherwise). You can see that occasional cheat meals only have temporary weight gain due to water.

You can also see the slope starts off steep and over time starts to flatten out, indicating I'm losing weight at a much slower pace. If it slows down more than what's shown towards the end of the graph, I might have to switch from intermittent fasting to a stricter calories in, calories out approach.

Finally, you can see the plateaus and you can get an idea of how long they last. These are frustrating, especially the one starting at day 120.

I hope this gives some people some feel for what to expect regarding daily weight fluctuations and plateaus. I found this exercise very informative. I'll probably post again when I hit my goal weight of 165 lbs.

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Under 180lbs for the first time since I was 17

I (20F, 5'4") been slowly losing weight for about a year and a half now. I've been overweight/obese since I was a kid; the lowest I got since I stopped growing was 155 lbs when I was 14. My highest was 220 lbs, and I've been stuck in the 180-190 lbs range since before this semester started, so since around the beginning of August. School stress, home life, and a medical condition have made it super difficult to stay on track. So just for funsies - as I haven't been actively trying to lose weight for a bit now - I stepped on the scale.

179.4 lbs.

Looking back at my log, the last time I was below 180 lbs was the beginning of 2019. I haven't been this proud of myself in so long. I never really noticed a difference because my clothes fit pretty much the same (minus bras, I had to go down a cup size and a band size over the summer), and I don't take a lot of pictures of myself, but now I'm looking in the mirror and noticing some things, which is super cool!

What's been working for me: Honestly, I don't think about losing weight very often. I just try to eat pretty healthily, only eat when I'm hungry, and stop when I'm full. It's not always easy, but I've found not eating in the morning definitely helps. Every once in a while I'll track what I'm eating just to see where I'm at. Weight loss became so much easier when I stopped obsessing over it!

So yeah. I'm 40 lbs down now. 30 more to go to reach my first goal, 150 lbs. If I lose 3.5 pounds more (146.5 lbs), I'd have lost a third of my original weight. How crazy is that?

It's taken my whole life, but being a healthy weight again finally feels attainable.

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Any tips on losing weight? Desperately needed

Hi! I'm 18 years old and 280 pounds, 5'6. It's humiliating to be my size, because I don't carry the weight too well. I've been bigger my whole life, and I don't really understand why. I gain an average of 20-30 pounds every year with no diet/habit changes, ever since I was around 10 years old. I have no thyroid issues or anything. Only thing I can even say is that I had my gallbladder removed a year ago, but that doesn't really have much to do with my weight. anyways, I eat very mindfully: low fat, low cal, always under 1700 cals usually and sometimes I only eat one meal a day if I'm not hungry. I just don't understand where the weight is coming from. I don't exercise much because I am disabled and work a full time job, but I'm by no means inactive. But I used to exercise almost every day and still, no weight loss. Any advice? I have tried almost everything.

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Help

Hi, I’m (34F 5’5 280lbs) and I’m miserable. I went out with my family yesterday and I saw the pictures and just hated what I saw. I’ve been trying to lose weight for years and I’ll lose for awhile and then it’s like I’ll go back and forth between the same weight over and over again.

Also, my life is suuuper busy and I just don’t know how to fit in trying to really lose weight with a busy schedule.

I’m in school full-time, working part-time in retail like 24hrs over the weekends, and I run an Etsy side business, plus I’m in a serious relationship so I carve out time to spend with my partner, but is there anyone who has a similar situation and has had successful weight loss?

I was telling my friend and she said I just need to work out, but I told her I literally don’t have time for the gym and to be quite honest I can’t afford it right now. I can’t even afford fancy, healthy groceries, I’m literally having to budget everything.

Yeah. Any tips or suggestions on how to get started would be appreciated when you’re super busy and on a tight budget.

Thanks and I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving!!!🦃

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Accountability

I'm a 41 F who was on track with my weight, healthy living in general and excercise. However due to some setbacks in my personal life, I gained some kgs back again, now at 71 where my goal weight was 66 and I almost reached it. So it's those damn last kgs that I want to get rid of, but mainly I also want to get my mojo back. Basically I finally want to be the healthiest and fittest version of myself, along with the positive vibes I lost. Also I never felt like I was good at sports, so I want to feel more comfortable in my skin excercising.

My plan is to excercise daily for 1 hour, combination of walking, cycling, running, yoga and gym. Plus I want to cut out alcohol alltogether and eat healthier food (less snacking / emotional eating). I want to start with a month and check on 31st of December what the results are, then from there on look ahead. My goal is 0,5 kg weight loss per week so maybe 2 kg per month which should be achievable.

Posting here to be accountable to myself, maybe get some advice or have an accountability buddy if anybody would like to. Here's to new years resolutions 1 month early!

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Eating fast food to fix weight loss plateau?

I was consistently losing 2 kg a month until I flatlined at the same kg for one whole month. Then, binged food at an event and 3 days later i was minus 0.7 kg.

I then read about weight plateauing and apparently to fix it you have to eat more to ‘reset’ your metabolism? So you can go back to a defector and start losing?

Is that so? If so, can I say bad food like fried chicken to uo my calories if this is the way forward lol. If so do I just have to eat A LOT of healthy food

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