Italian restaurant date on a diet

Hey everyone! 25F here, 5’9” SW: 250 CW: 242 GW: TBD

I’ve been working for the past few weeks on my weight and what I eat, with a focus this time on slow, sustainable weight loss and emphasizing a holistic approach to bettering my life - focusing on weight, food, calorie counting, and movement but also on mental health, social connections, fun life experiences, and so on. I’ve had really unhealthy and dangerous weight loss and weight gain situations in the past, and this current approach is working well for me. I have been limiting my personal restaurant eating by pretty much cutting out takeout (used to order several times a week) except for one Taco Bell run which I made another post about. However, I have been to restaurants a few times for work and social events and have focused on enjoying smaller portions of things I love, loading up on veggies, and tracking an estimated calorie count even if I knew it wasn’t perfect. This has been working well as I’ve continued to lose weight and haven’t been isolating myself away from meals with family, friends, and dates, and from important work events, like I have in previous weight loss attempts.

However, I’m not quite sure how to handle a nice Italian restaurant. A guy I’ve seen a few times wants to go to one tomorrow night. I feel pretty hesitant because Italian food seems to be a difficult cuisine to work into a calorie deficit. This restaurant doesn’t have a lot of salads or lighter options. I don’t want to be difficult and hurt his feelings by refusing to go, and I’m also not really interested in discussing with him that I am working on losing weight - I’ve only seen him a couple times. Anyone have thoughts on how to handle this??? We’re planning to hang out after to watch a movie so its also not like I can just not eat much and box up my food, because I don’t want my stomach grumbling all evening while I’m with him either. Thoughts on what you would order?

I’m not against eating somewhat above my deficit limit for one night but I want to avoid having a 2000 calorie dinner, you know?

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How to shut down conversations about weight/diet

For many reasons (which I started to write out but then thought I'd bore everyone) I don't like talking to friends, acquaintances, colleagues etc about weight, diets, food. It's incredibly triggering for me - the judgment, the (incorrect) assumptions about me/my lifestyle, the unsolicited and often unhelpful advice.

I see my weight loss journey as an entirely personal journey (with support from my nearest and dearest). It's no one else's business.

I am looking for advice on how to shut down two types of conversations. I'm an inherent people pleaser and I always fail, breach my own boundaries and then get upset with myself later.

1. I'm at that stage where my weight loss is getting noticeable. Cue the comments asking "Have you lost weight?" Etc.

I know these types of comments are meant to be well-meaning and complimentary most of the time. I know some people would love to have people notice their loss. For me, I would rather not have these conversations. How do I shut them down without being rude?

1. The interfering comments/questions/"advice"

   I still have weight to lose. I went to get acupuncture for a leg injury this week. The lady kept asking me about my diet. And whilst I was laying face down on the bed having the needles go in, all vulnerable and half naked, she was like "so what do you eat for breakfast then? Hmm. How about lunch?" Like, I'm sorry but I came here for acupuncture not diet advice, stay in your lane. I get that it can be all "holistic" and all that, but I am not interested in unsolicited diet advice. I got all flustered and didn't really know how to shut it down politely.

Any advice please?

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I think building muscle has made me more confident after weight loss

I didn’t take care of my skin on my body properly when I was overweight. I had a bunch of stretch marks and my skin wasn’t the best due to being overweight. I had a lot of acne and dark spots. Losing weight made me really insecure about it because it was obvious. I just hated all of the stretch marks and acne scars and ingrown hairs.

I built a lot of muscle and my skin has tightened nicely. I was very insecure about my skin before. I didn’t want to look at my skin. But after becoming more muscular and having a nice physique I think it outweighs everything that I am insecure about my skin. I feel more confident without my shirt. I think it’s because being muscular makes me look more attractive and it’s a focal point of my body.

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Weight loss tips

I am 25yr old female 5’5 and weigh about 191 lbs. In the last year, I have gained about 33 lbs. I work mostly from home and try to get some steps in. I am trying to build a healthier lifestyle and loose weight in a sustainable way.

I have recently joined f45 and it seems to put me in a better mood(endorphins 😊) but I feel like I am not loosing weight at all.

Any help/tips would be greatly appreciated.

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Do I need the scale?

I'm 21, 5'3", and last I checked (so this is around three months ago) I was around 180 pounds. I've struggled all my life to lose weight, but have also struggled with obsessive and borderline disordered habits with counting calories and weighing myself, which have been exacerbated by anxiety and body dysmorphia. (Three years ago I was 150 pounds, obsessed with my diet and just all around dysfunctional.) About three months ago I threw out my scale as I just couldn't ever seem to use it without triggering some overwhelmingly negative emotions.

I want to try losing weight again, I walk around 7K steps every day, I go to the gym at least once per week (it's not much, but it's a start), and have recently begun keeping a food diary, but I feel like I should be doing more to keep track of things. From what I can tell, measurements are a huge part of the process, but I'm really afraid of relapsing into some bad habits if I start paying attention to the numbers. That is to say, how essential are scales in weight loss?

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If you've pleateaued, consider increasing your calorie count to maintenance

Here me out. I thought it was crazy when I first heard it because it's counterintuitive and seems to defy math and science.

A few years ago I lost 40 lbs in a year and plateaued about 5 lbs from my goal weight. I was really frustrated. A personal trainer I was working with told me to increase my calorie count by 200 cals/day for a week or so and then drop back down. I thought he was nuts and of course I didn't try it. But after that I heard or read this from some other people and reputable -- stop trying to lose, maintain for a bit, then resume your prior calorie deficit. Some said your body goes into starvation mode which slows down your metabolism, others said your body gets used to the lower calorie intake and adapts.

Fast forward 7 years. I regained all the weight and then some. In part due to injury, illness, depression, 4 pregnancies, only 2 to term. I was at my highest weight ever.

I've lost 35 lbs since the beginning of the year and stalled out at 170. I was eating 1200 calories/day, exercising and on those days eating back less than half my calories burned, and still I could not get below 170. I hit 170.1 a few times and still never got below 170. I had a health scare (everything's ok now!) and spent 2 months maintaining. This week I resumed my weight loss journey just with calorie counting and no exercise and it feels like the weight is falling off me again. I've lost almost 3 lbs this week and finally came under 170.

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Why don't I lose any weight when I exercise and diet?

Male, 5'10, 210lbs, 28%bf, 19yrs old

So basically I took up a new hobby (boxing) and the workouts are usually pretty intense. They're about an hour long, and I go 4-6 times a week. I'm guessing I lose about 600-800 calories per workout session, and I am in a calorie deficit.

I have been going for about 3 weeks now, and I lost the usual 6lbs of water weight in the first two days. But ever since that initial 6lbs of water weight loss, I haven't lost any more weight. I got to 208.8lbs like a week and a half ago, and right now I am at like 209-211 but only on mornings. Does anyone know why this is?

I diet along with boxing as well, and if I were to only diet without any form of exercise, I probably would be at like 204lbs right now. Seeing my weight stay the same for this long is really discouraging, but so far I am still going, but I really want to know what's going on.

By the way, I do have a lot of experience with weight loss, I have constantly been losing 30-40 pounds since the 9th grade (I'm 19 now). And last year I was 248, and dropped to my current weight.

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