The more weight I lose, the worse people are treating me.

One of the common things I see people comment about large weight loss is that people start treating them better and how it's a shame. I agree that it's a shame; you should be treated like a human no matter what your size is. While I wasn't banking on everyone treating me better as the weight came off, I will admit I was a little excited to see how this would change for me. Unfortunately, I'm getting treated worse now than I ever have before.

I've gone from 220lbs down below 180lbs in four-ish months. I am not on any weight loss medications (saying this because it comes up a lot, I don't have any issue with people taking them). My goal I've set is 160lbs, but the middle weight for my height is around 150lbs for a healthy BMI, so anywhere around there will really make me feel like I've "made it". I don't think that 40lbs is such an accomplishment or a drastic change and I'm honestly surprised that people are noticing it as much as they are.

At first things were fine. I would get the "are you losing weight" and "what are you doing" questions. I'd talk about moving more, eating healthy, just usual weight loss stuff. Then people would ask what my goal is and I'd say 160lbs. Half of the people who asked would say something to the effect of "oh my god that's too much". I would explain how it's a little over smack dab in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height but I stopped because it just led to more questions about things like I was in the wrong.

As I get closer the remarks are getting more harsh. To the point where I don't even talk about anything relating to weight loss, exercise, food, etc. "You don't need to lose any more weight, you'll look like a twig!" "You know, when you lose so much weight it makes you look older." "Your face is going to be too thin." "Oh look at you, Mr. Good Genes." "Men lose weight easier than women so it's not a big deal." "What do you do, live on salads?" "Not all of us can afford GLP-1s." "What's for lunch today, bland chicken and rice?" "There's no way you've lost that much without taking drugs."

Not all of them are terrible. I think some people think they're actually giving out compliments. I just smile and try to brush it off. But it's becoming non-stop and it's starting to make me feel alienated by everyone. My family stopped being supportive and started asking me when I'll stop. At work if I have an opinion on something I've heard remarks about how I'm "a new person" because the old "me" wouldn't have this opinion. My friends are nice (I don't know how to type this without sounding mean but I don't mean it like that) but it feels like some of them resent me because I've been successful in losing weight when they haven't.

Now I don't really talk to anyone. I don't eat near anyone, I stay out of any conversation regarding food or exercise or being active; I basically just sit by myself avoiding everyone. It's funny, when I was heavier I thought that's all people saw me as. But now it seems like people only see me as the guy who lost weight.

Don't get me wrong, not everyone is mean. I'm glad I've gone this far and I'm going to keep going. But there are days I just wish I gained it all back. I feel like if I keep going it's just going to get worse and worse. Thanks for reading, just needed to vent.

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Starting again, again - and it feels great!

Starting Weight: 205lbs
Current Weight: 201lbs
Goal Weight: 150lbs

Hello dear Loseit community. Back again. Again.

In 2020, I lost 40lbs, reaching 160lbs. Then lockdown lifted and it turned out my new lifestyle required extreme and precise control over my food intake, to the gram. I couldn’t cope well with the grey area of eating at friends, work, etc again and just let nature take its course - I was back to 200lbs within six months.

In 2023 I lost 40lbs, reaching 160lbs, again with strict calorie control, this time incorporating exercise with C25K. This time it really transformed my life. I started running, kept the weight off for a year, ran 2 marathons, and felt incredible. I was like this whole new healthy, outdoorsy person.

Then I got labyrinthitis, for over a month. Everything just went back to old ways.

I stopped running, and just started eating (I didn’t cope with the not running very well mentally!). It turned out that running, not eating well, was how the weight was staying off. Eight months, a stressful (but very happy) wedding and moving cities later, I’m back to 200lbs and I haven’t run properly in a while, because its so much harder with all this extra weight on me and I just can’t face how slow and out of shape I must be.

I’ve been really down about it for the past month as I’ve slowly realised that I am cycling through about four outfits that still fit me. Then, last week I just had this epiphany: I can just do it again, and do it slowly. Time will pass either way and I may as well get moving in the right direction.

I don’t need to crash diet, eat 1200cals a day, lock in and refuse social invitations for months like I did last time. I can just eat well, mindfully, try to move more again, and keep a good handle on my TDEE and calorie intake. I just need to be going in the right direction.

So for the last week, I have just been eating 2 meals a day (intermittent fasting has always worked well for me to manage my appetite), I haven’t started logging anything again yet, because as I said - I think the watertight grip I had on exact calories was part of the reason I couldn’t keep it stable afterwards - I just got tired of it after a while.

I think the aim now is to lose it again over the course of a year, estimating daily calories and adjusting accordingly, and really focus on re-forming my relationship with food. I want to be to running again (safely), less for weight loss; more because it just fantastic for my mental health. I have tried to limit ultra-processed hyper palatable foods and I’ve already lost 4lbs in a week (admittedly likely mostly water weight).

It’s really hard, being back at the starting line. But I already feel so much more full of energy and pep (hello, no afternoon sugar crashes), and am enjoying the fun of creative cooking again - it’s always exciting to me to cook tasty, healthy meals as its like a challenge! I know I can do this, and each set back is a chance to learn. This is the time where it sticks.

I’ll see how it goes. If you’re in the same boat as me, have faith - we can do this!

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I am stuck in a plateau at 80.2 kg :(

About 2 years ago I opened this thread detailing my weight loss from about 127 kg and getting stuck at 93 kg. Since then I haven't fundamentally changed anything about my lifestyle, I keep going to the pool 2-3 times a week and (to the best of my ability) eat healthy foods.

As of the last measurement I weight ~80.2 kg and my weight loss again has been stagnant for the past few months, and I am again back to ask for advice. Maybe something is wrong with my eating perception but I genuinely don't see how much can I drastically decrease my portions. I eat twice a day as is, my food is usually home-cooked and the portions are rarely very large. Is there even a need to change anything? Could this weight-loss stagnation just end on it's own?

Thanks in advance

Edit, info about myself:
Male, 27 year old, 165.5 cm height

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Reminder that going on holiday doesn’t ruin your progress

Hi everyone. So I, like most people, have tried to lose weight many times and probably like a lot of people I start trying to lose weight because I have a holiday coming up. And then the holiday comes and then when I get home I just can’t get back on track. I feel that for a lot of people it’s because we feel like we’ve ruined our progress by eating whatever we wanted and drinking a lot of alcohol.

I just went on holiday to an all-inclusive resort for 6 days and I promised myself before I went that:

- I’d enjoy myself and allow myself to eat/drink what I want
- When I come back I will restart my healthy eating the very next day
- To do that, I’d make sure I have everything I need in the house so that I have no excuses
- I’d weigh myself the day after I come home and I’d expect the scale to be up but won’t let it demoralise me

So I came home two days ago. I ate so much on holiday and drank a LOT of wine. My flight landed at 5pm on Friday. I even had a doner kebab when I got home.

Next day I weighed myself. I was 2.2lb up from the day before my holiday. That was actually surprising because I was expecting the WORST. 2.2lb really wasn’t too bad. And I went straight back to what I was doing before my holiday on Saturday. That’s 1400 calories per day including at least 100g protein and 30g fibre.

Anyway I stepped on the scale today and I’m now lower than my pre-holiday weight.

As long as you get right back on track you can have a great time on holiday AND continue your weight loss journey. And that’s something I’m really glad I finally learned ☺️

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Frustrated with lack of progress

I’ve been in a calorie deficit for around 2 weeks (give or take a couple of days) and I haven’t observed any progress… I understand that I should wait more than a couple of weeks to see significant changes but I literally look the same as when I started and the number on the scale almost hasn’t budged. The last time I ate in the same deficit consistently (several months ago), I had already noticed visual changes in the mirror, my clothes fitting looser etc. by this point. I don’t have underlying health problems and I doubt that I’m logging calories inaccurately.

I’ve been really agitated about this over the past few days and have been wrestling with the urge to binge because of it. I really don’t want to ruin my progress because I have seldom made it past the 2 week mark without going over my deficit at least once, but I feel like I’ve spent all this time and energy on losing weight for nothing.

I am 20F and currently 133 lbs at 5’3. I want to reach 115 lbs (or at least get below 125 lbs) by September. At the rate I’m going, I won’t even reach 130 lbs. I don’t have access to a gym but I’ve considered committing to 10k steps a day to try and accelerate my weight loss.

I have a lot of junk food here at I really don’t want to give in to the temptation to binge. I know what the aftermath will feel like but it’s hard to resist. Any advice is appreciated.

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Trying to consume media to help me with the weight loss journey

One new tactic im trying when it comes to weight loss is consuming podcasts/tiktoks/clips that build motivation/are about weight loss. Trying to basically make my mind more obsessed with it and minimize other types of media consumption that aren’t about my top goal right now.

Does anyone have any podcasts (looking for episodes specifically but if it’s an overall channel that’s great that works too) TikTok videos/clips (or accounts) or general pieces of content they like to go back to again and again for nailing in the important stuff.

I like the higherup podcast with Michael Smoak (specifically his #2 podcast episode about 5 levers to pull for losing weight) and Paul Bryson is great too on TikTok for me. Both pretty no nonsense/get after it vibes. Appreciate any help!

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First Time Weight Loss Concerns

Hello all!

I have some concerns about how much weight I’m losing and what I think is a loss of appetite.

Background: I went to the Doctor about a month ago? I’m unsure the timeline but it was at most four weeks ago; and when they weighed me I was 247.6 Ib (sorry i don’t know kg), and so that concerned me. The most I’ve ever weighed was 245. And on top of that I was under the impression that I lost weight since graduating from high school. Also before I forget, I'm AMAB, 18, 5'4.

So since then, I’ve thought to try to lose weight. I’ve started tracking my calories and eating under the calorie budget consistently but I’m starting to get a bit concerned. I’m unsure if I’m sick or what but food has no appeal to me at the moment. And it kinda sucks, no I don’t miss it but my thing is I’m scared I’m not eating enough and so I’ll lose to much weight to fast. I heard that it’s ok to lose 1/2-2 pounds a week is healthy. The following are my weigh ins for when I started tracking:

(before the 21st, I wasn’t tracking weight yet): 243

6-21: 234.4

6-22: 234.4

6-23: 237.6

6-25: 235

6-26: 234.4

Now that I look at it; it’s not much but I’m honestly still concerned. This is the first time I want to take this seriously and want to do this right; no half measures.

So now for questions:

* What’s with the erratic weight? Well looking back it’s not as erratic as I first thought then still.

* What the disinterest of food? Sick or what could be wrong with me?

I also have two more questions which are:

* What else can I do to lose weight safely besides a calorie deficit? I’ve been walking around inside the house when I can because I’m unable to go out much but what else is there?

* I heard it’s good to measure yourself because that can be more accurate than weight on its own but I’m unsure where so, where should I measure?

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