One of the common things I see people comment about large weight loss is that people start treating them better and how it's a shame. I agree that it's a shame; you should be treated like a human no matter what your size is. While I wasn't banking on everyone treating me better as the weight came off, I will admit I was a little excited to see how this would change for me. Unfortunately, I'm getting treated worse now than I ever have before.
I've gone from 220lbs down below 180lbs in four-ish months. I am not on any weight loss medications (saying this because it comes up a lot, I don't have any issue with people taking them). My goal I've set is 160lbs, but the middle weight for my height is around 150lbs for a healthy BMI, so anywhere around there will really make me feel like I've "made it". I don't think that 40lbs is such an accomplishment or a drastic change and I'm honestly surprised that people are noticing it as much as they are.
At first things were fine. I would get the "are you losing weight" and "what are you doing" questions. I'd talk about moving more, eating healthy, just usual weight loss stuff. Then people would ask what my goal is and I'd say 160lbs. Half of the people who asked would say something to the effect of "oh my god that's too much". I would explain how it's a little over smack dab in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height but I stopped because it just led to more questions about things like I was in the wrong.
As I get closer the remarks are getting more harsh. To the point where I don't even talk about anything relating to weight loss, exercise, food, etc. "You don't need to lose any more weight, you'll look like a twig!" "You know, when you lose so much weight it makes you look older." "Your face is going to be too thin." "Oh look at you, Mr. Good Genes." "Men lose weight easier than women so it's not a big deal." "What do you do, live on salads?" "Not all of us can afford GLP-1s." "What's for lunch today, bland chicken and rice?" "There's no way you've lost that much without taking drugs."
Not all of them are terrible. I think some people think they're actually giving out compliments. I just smile and try to brush it off. But it's becoming non-stop and it's starting to make me feel alienated by everyone. My family stopped being supportive and started asking me when I'll stop. At work if I have an opinion on something I've heard remarks about how I'm "a new person" because the old "me" wouldn't have this opinion. My friends are nice (I don't know how to type this without sounding mean but I don't mean it like that) but it feels like some of them resent me because I've been successful in losing weight when they haven't.
Now I don't really talk to anyone. I don't eat near anyone, I stay out of any conversation regarding food or exercise or being active; I basically just sit by myself avoiding everyone. It's funny, when I was heavier I thought that's all people saw me as. But now it seems like people only see me as the guy who lost weight.
Don't get me wrong, not everyone is mean. I'm glad I've gone this far and I'm going to keep going. But there are days I just wish I gained it all back. I feel like if I keep going it's just going to get worse and worse. Thanks for reading, just needed to vent.
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