Losing weight and looking frayed.. How do I look better? Help!

I looked at pictures of me recently and was a little shocked. I had a wedding, I had no clue what to wear- what my hair looked like at its best, what shoes I needed to wear, how much makeup was too little/much.. I was really stressed. I think I have diet face since I have been on a deficit the past 6 months. Or maybe this is my face below all the fat.

This may not be the appropriate sub for this, but I have been obese/overweight all my life and have dressed to blend in. I didn't care how I looked and I didn't make an effort. But my face looked young and cheerful when I smiled. Now the smile is there, the youth is fading and I don't know what to do!

I am at a healthy BMI and my body suddenly looks good and the awesome grooming and style apparently doesn't magically come with weight loss.

I see people on here dressed so fab and I want basic basic tips.

I only recently started

• plucking my eyebrows
• applying face cream
• picking clothes that fit my shoulder and body right
• Paying more attention to the accessories I wear (I used to wear floaters with everything and the same watch regardless of outfit and time of day)
• wearing some lipstick on super dressy events

So I would like some advice at life. Seems like there are a lot of men's channels that do this. I have taken from them what I can. But a lot of it is not relevant.

• I still don't know anything about makeup. I live in a super humid place, I don't even know how much makeup is a good idea.
• I have one dull orange handbag that I take to work everyday. It was a jansport backpack before that, everyday.
• I alternate dull orangle sandals and black bellies to college.
• I used to wear black hair ties everyday, now I try matching it to the color of my dress.
• I don't do too much with my hair. It is curly. I travel in a scooter, have to wear a helmet 3X a day. It is always in a bun/pony.
• My black hair has started greying and I want to do something about it. Do I dye all of it at home or just some of it? I don't like the idea of having to do this every month or less.

I want a very basic guide at adult life- clothes, grooming, accessories and makeup. If you could direct me to something for teens, that would be good too!

I tend to be more minimal in aesthetic as in I would rather focus on having all the essentials first.

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Tomorrow's THE Day -- Weight in Day: 0

Hello r/loseit community!

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Tomorrow is the first [official] day of my weight loss journey. Since I graduated High School last May, I have lost about 25 lbs after years of struggling with my weight. The heaviest I had ever weighed was 330 lbs, which was around the time of graduation. After two months of experimenting with different foods and meals alike, I have decided that this year, I will be meal prepping the majority of my meals. This will both help with my overall food intake and complement my lack of time brought on by my school and work schedules. Today I cooked and prepped my meals for Monday through Thursday. Just in case you are interested, my meals for the week are;

- Breakfast; Peanut/Cocoa Breakfast Bars

- Lunch; Thai Peanut Chicken

- Dinner; Cod Fillet w/ Broccoli

- Grab-Bag; Baby Carrots and Celery Sticks

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I want to reach my goal weight (or something close to it) this year. I think I can do it... maybe. In May, I am going to China for my first ever solo international trip to cap off my Freshman year of college. I would like to see myself around 280 lbs by then, at least. I think I have the drive needed to accomplish this feat and thus I will be posting here once a week updating you all on my progress. The reason for this? Accountability. Giving weekly updates will help me stay on track and I hope to inspire others as so many people on this sub have inspired me.

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If anyone has any advice that they would like to give me as I begin my journey, don't hesitate to comment below as I will need all of the help and support I can get. Thank you all for reading and wish me luck!

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- O

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I don’t want to be a big fat party animal anymore

This is my Day 1.

I’m 21 years old, Male, 5’10”, 95kg/210lbs.

I’ve just come out of the gym for the first time in a couple of years and I can’t stop smiling. How did I forget how much I used to love this?

However, I need some advice from anyone who has been in a similar position.

When I was a kid I was a fat kid. It didn’t get me down particularly, but I didn’t actively enjoy being a fat kid. I felt like if I wanted to be a popular teenager who could get with girls I would have to lose some weight. So when I was 13 I started going to the gym above my mum’s salon and counting calories. I would eat fairly healthy things (for a 13 year old) like Uncle Ben’s rice and pre packaged prawn salads from Tesco for lunch. Soon I had lost a lot of weight and I wasn’t a fat kid. From age 13 to 16 I not only kept the weight off but started building muscles and playing rugby.

Then at 16 I started going to the pub. And I haven’t really stopped until now. At the time I remember thinking “this is it...you’ve worked hard for three years to be a fit young man...now you can let your hair down.” And I went out partying every weekend, going to the pub whenever I wasn’t partying, eating shit because I was hungover, smoking to look cool. And despite starting to put on a little bit of weight, I got more popular, I was a party animal! I started to think how stupid it was to go to the gym. How I used to think that going to the gym would make people like you when really alcohol made people like you. I got into a relationship with an older girl and got comfortable with this reckless lifestyle. I remember her telling me I was gaining weight and saying “yeah but when lads spend all day at the gym, the bigger dudes are getting off with their girlfriends at a party.” I genuinely believed it.

Anyway then we broke up. I drank, which made me fatter, which made me comfort eat out of anxiety, which made me fat and upset, which made me bad at sport/gym, which made me quit.

And since then I’ve maintained my weight at 95kg. I’ve done no real exercise for about three years. I go to the pub a couple of times a week, go to watch the football almost every weekend and have about 10 pints, and go to parties and uni events regularly. I have a very active social life.

Today I decided enough was enough. I spent all last night browsing this sub. Woke up and downloaded myfitness pal and after uni I went to the gym. I was so out of shape but afterwards I just felt fantastic. I’m about to go to bed having only had 1700kcals and I feel fine.

While I was in the gym I had three people text me saying, “when are we going to the pub?”, “hope you can’t wait to get absolutely battered on my birthday next week ;)”, and “do you want my spare ticket for City away next month? Train beers beckon”.

So here’s where I need the advice. How do you balance social life with weight loss?

I don’t want to be a big fat party animal anymore, I don’t even want to be a party animal with a healthy bmi. But it seems that all my friendships are based around going out and drinking. Does anyone have any experience of this? And how they managed to not lose all their friends with their weight? Has anyone lost weight while still going to the pub regularly? Would appreciate any advice from anyone, but especially from UK redditors. The drinking culture is so ingrained in this country and I really don’t think the solution is as easy as saying “just stop drinking altogether”, especially as a student.

Thanks in advance! Excited to be starting my journey 😎

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Weight loss and dating as a man

I'm a 29 year old man, soon to be 30. I have pretty much zero experience with women because I've always been the fat guy with no self esteem. Lately I've been trying to improve myself and lose weight, but the more I read online I'm just terrified that even after losing the weight I want to (near 100 pounds) I'm still gonna be the gross dude with saggy skin that nobody will touch.

Guess I'm just looking for success stories of dudes who went through that and improved their prospects with dating. But please be honest, don't tell me what you think I want to hear. If it's actually hopeless, just say that.

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Weight loss/loose skin - for the ladies

Hi, About me: I’ve been losing weight + gaining weight back + losing weight for the last few years. I lost 100 pounds and then had a baby, and gained back 150. Then lost around 100 again , gained back about 20 of those. I’m working on starting my journey again, going to be happy with losing another 50 or so.

With all my weight loss/weight gain/loss again, I have a lot of loose skin. There’s a lot of areas of my body that will never look the same again (unless I someday able to afford surgery).

For me, the issue is the skin.

I’m in a great relationship, he’s very supportive of my weight loss and my goals. But he hasn’t really seen my loose skin. I won’t let him. I have problems showing him most of my body without clothes. I struggle to fathom how much more my skin will sag once I’m finished.

I struggle to find confidence in my own skin, when I’ve lost so much weight and can’t be fully happy as I don’t like the way that looks.

Guess I was just posting this as for some sort of advice/support. My boyfriend tells me it doesn’t matter and says all the nice and right things but I just don’t know that I’ll ever be able to afford skin removal surgery. This just may be how my body looks going forward.

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(Vent) My mother discussing my weight with her friends in support is making me even more insecure

I have lost almost 20kg / 44lbs since May (yay!), starting at 66kg/145lbs and I’m currently 47kg/103lbs

Anyway, for the past couple of months, I have for once in my life felt somewhat happy with my body!! My clavicle is to die for if I do say so myself, my tummy is quite squishy but not too bad. Once I drop the last 10lbs I’ll start trying to gain muscle if income allows it, replacing my walking with training.

My legs have always been my biggest insecurity. Its currently summer here in Australia, aka shorts and skirts. For the first time I felt comfortable wearing shorts outdoors. Yeah, I have cellulite, yeah my knees and inner thighs are a bit loose, but theyre not too bad!!! I figured its the last of the subcutaneous fat to go anyway since I thought loose skin is supposed to be paper thin? And I’m 19, I moisturise, loose skin shouldn’t be something to worry about.

My mum has been very proud of me and supportive during this whole journey. She has struggled with her weight her whole life. She will talk to her friends or anyone who will listen for hours about me. She goes into extreme detail about all my routines, though I think she does tend to over exaggerate tbh...

It honestly does bother me, but a part of me is thinking “wow finally I did something to be proud of”. She never talks about things she wouldnt want me to overhear, so she knows I know shes talking about these things. I don’t try to stop her. Maybe I should though...

While I was washing up in the bathroom, she was on the phone to her best friend aka someone who knows more about my weight loss journey than I do. Based on what I overheard, they’ve been discussing loose skin. My loose skin. Specifically on my legs. About how much I needed wanted to start toning.

I started sobbing immediately, all my insecurities suddenly being confirmed and once I was fit to leave the bathroom I ran to my bedroom to change into my winter pj’s to cover my shameful legs. Now all I see are gross old lady knees and wrinkly legs and cottage cheese skin. Everything else grosses me out, my stomach is all lumpy, my arms are baggy, my boobs have deflated, my cheeks are chubby. I dont look like how women under 50kg are supposed to look.

I don’t know what to do now. I already do as much bodyweight exercise as I can without burning myself out to the point I can’t function in other areas of my life. I feel so uncomfortable and insecure about having my body being discussed in so much detail, even when they’re being positive and complimenting me its still making me feel awful. am I overreacting? Shouldn’t I be happy about having supportive family, even if they’re talking about my body in such depth?

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Confession:. I am scared of maintenance

Hi everyone,

I have been doing CICO since May and am currently down 65 lbs, with about 25 lbs to go until I hit my current goal weight of 140.

My starting goal weight was 160, so as I get to that benchmark, I am starting to imagine what life is like at maintenance, and to be honest, it scares the shit out of me.

I have been eating in the 1200-1400 calorie range since August (1500 before that), and I am so comfortable with it. Meals are predictable and my weight loss of 1-2 lbs a week is predictable, even when my activity might be less so. I want that same predictability at maintenance - that my weight won't go up, that I know what to eat, and that things balance out even if I slack on exercise for a few days. I am just so terrified of gaining again, or getting comfortable eating at too high of a calorie count. When I punch in my new goal weight of 140, my maintenance calories are about 1575, which is basically a whole other meal. If I punch in the fact that I exercise 3-5 days a week, that number jumps to over 2000! I can't imagine being at 2000 calories a day!

So for those of you who have made the jump from eating at a deficit to maintenance, what was it like for you? How did you find your number/range?

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