Started my weight loss journey

Hi everyone,

I found this subreddit, and I'm posting here for supprt. Give this a read if you have the time.

So, this is my story

I have struggled with my weight since childhood, but as I was quite active, I never really felt it much. The way i dealt with being obese was by developing a defense mechanism of being extremely good at making fun of someone whenever anyone called me fat. As I got older, I realized that me being mean was just driving people away from me, and it was a deflection from the real problem, i.e., how I felt about myself.

I was around 100 kg (220 lbs) by 16, and by 21, I was around 138 kg (305 lbs). After which I remained a bit steady but I was really tired of being fat and I developed some insecurities. I realized that I couldn't hide behind my defenses forever. During that time, I was really disgusted by myself. I hated who I was, and I was frankly tired of myself.

I felt insecure about doing anything, I felt that I would be judged for anything I do. I was also scared asking girls out. In my mind, no one would want to go out with me because I felt like I deserved no one.

When I was 22, I finally reached a point where i was just tired and disgusted by myself, and I made up my mind to start losing weight. I lost weight at a steady state, and in 6 months, I lost around 20 kgs (44 lbs), which reached around 118kg (260 lbs). I was finally happy.

I finally felt good for the first time in my life. I was losing weight. I put on significant muscle mass. I got a girlfriend. I had just graduated with my bachelor's, and I had incredible offers from elite universities as well as quite high paying job offers. I was finally happy.

But my happiness did not last long, I had to move abroad to pursue my masters. I had chosen a Canadian university to continue my studies, and when I was about to leave, my gf broke up with me at the same time I was extremely stressed out and anxious about the move as well.

Once I moved to another country, I felt really alone. Because of a number of factors and loneliness after 6 months abroad, I was diagnosed as clinically depressed. During this time, I started binge eating, and I started putting on a lot of weight. After 2.5 years, I reached 144 kgs (318 lbs). I lost all the progress I made in the past. Luckily, I got out of my depression with some therapy.

Recently, I restarted my weight loss journey, and I've only done it for a week. With just diet, I lost 1.5 kgs, I'm around around 142 kgs (314 lbs).

Today was a really hard day, I felt incredibly sad that I got this fat. I felt really bad about who I was as well. I really wanted to give up, but I got through it. But I really don't have the confidence that I'll continue, and I will be consistent. I have no idea why I am even posting this or what I even expect from this. I just feel like shit and I thought I would share it here.

Thanks for reading till the end.

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The 10k steps goal

Yesterday I made a post about starting my weight loss journey and right after I made the post I immediately went out my front door and started walking. My goal was simple: I couldn’t come back into my house until I reached 10k steps.

I ended up raking in about 11k steps.

Today I did the same thing. The moment I woke up, I went out, and came back home with about 12k steps on my step counter.

I took someone’s advice on the previous post that said something like, “make sure you do your steps WHILE you’re running errands and going about your day” which is exactly what I did. If I needed to get something to eat, I walked. If I needed to do grocery shopping, I walked there too.

Huge game changer and will definitely go about my walking with that mentality.

I’m getting more of a workout than I initially thought I was going to get too. When I get home, it literally feels like I just did Calf exercises. It’s insane.

Planning on doing the same thing tomorrow.

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I WAS feeling good about my twenty pound weight loss

For context I take a medication that causes hunger and weight gain. I’ve been bigger my whole life but at the beginning of this year I was at my heaviest. 308 pounds. I was wearing a 3xl shirt and size 42 jeans. So, I quit drinking alcohol, and soda. Almost never go out to eat, and gave up processed sugar altogether. In June I started working with a health coach through my medical insurance. Now I measure all my food and track calories in and out. I’ve started walking three times a week as well.

Well as of last Saturday I was at 287. I can fit my 2xl shirts again. My jeans are loose on me. I’ve been feeling really good and also feeling inspired to keep going.

So today I was walking to the store to get a sparkling water as a treat on my break at work. As I’m crossing the street a car drives by and the passenger yells “hey fat ass!”. Let me tell you my high on life feeling came crashing down. I got my water and slowly walked back to work. I dwelled on it for a while, feeling bad.

About an hour later I decided not to let it get to me. I knew I had to get stuff for meals for my family and myself for the next couple days, so I made out a list. When I left work I stopped by the store and got only things on the list. When I got home I weighed and portioned my snack for the next few days and made a big instant pot of steel cut outs to meal prep breakfast for the next week.

I stopped feeling sorry for my self and I feel empowered, at least at this moment. I’m not sure of the purpose of this post. It’s my first one here but I’ve been lurking for a while. I hope I can encourage someone else to keep doing good as well.

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How long does water weight affect the rate of weight loss?

F22, 5'6", SW160, CW147, GW13X

I am an experienced weight-loser (previously did 200->150 in 2020) but I am not good at being healthy about it.

When I follow the steps to calculate TDEE, I usually get ballpark 1700 to 2000. I have a boring desk job, I do 30mins of cardio 3x a week, and I get 15-20k steps a day. To give myself a decent margin of error on underreporting calories, I stick to 1200 calories a day and I am very good at it. Over the past 23 days of data, my calorie average has been 1246. Perfect, right?

Except I have been losing weight wayyyy too fast. In 23 days, I have lost 8.2 pounds. Much above 1% per week. Based on my calculations, this puts my TDEE at around 2400.

2400 sounds insane to me. That's the "heavy exercise" category on TDEE calculators for my height. It doesn't make sense, IMO.

I'm wondering if water weight is coming into play. I lost a few lbs "casually" before this 23 day logging stint (160->155) which I think could have been most of my water weight. My weight loss in this 23 day stint has been fairly consistent (I weigh every day).

I know I need to increase my calories, but going up to 1900 just seems nonsensical to me. Even though it's what the data implies. What confounding factors could be throwing off my calculations?

(I am a mathmatician, I have a spread sheet, I know at the bare minimum my arithmetic is correct)

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135lbs, 5'6, 23 Female. A bit confused about what course of action to take in the case of being "Skinny fat"

I probably have a few misconceptions about weight loss since all this information is new to me. So feel free to correct me.

Most of my teen and some of my adult years I have been 115 lbs and have been told im too skinny and I was. Around the pandemic i gained weight but I did not notice till people said it. I did not really monitor my weight because I have been the same weight forever so it has never been an important aspect I guess. I never tried to gain or lose weight purposely so i never monitored too hard once I realized I was the same weight forever (or so I thought lol)

Now I am noticing the weight but it is only in my stomach and face. My legs and arms are still as skinny as ever. My neck is still skinny, it’s weird because i still have a defined hourglass shape but the stomach is just fat and lumpy. I look very disproportionate because its only my stomach and love handles that is large.

So I understand I need to burn more calories than I am taking in. And the calories should be healthy and not straight sugar. My main confusion are these things

1. I do not know what my weight goal should be because I have only ever been super skinny or the weight I am now. If I lose weight I will be closer to being underweight but the weight I have now just simply does not sit the way I want it lol (this leads to my second confusion). Should I lose weight even if that means im closer to being underweight? I feel like if I lose a small amount of fat then I’ll still look the same but if I lose too much then then I’ll be underweight.

2. I was thinking perhaps I need to workout and the fat will just simply convert to muscle (not quite literally but moving from fat to muscle in that general area is the idea) but i read that it does not really work like that since you cant spot reduce fat and I would need to lose weight in general. So doing sit ups or planks or whatever, it wouldn’t make me lose weight even if I built muscle, and if anything I’d risk looking bigger

Soooo I am just confused. Should I be focused on losing weight and not be worried about being closer to be underweight or do I workout for the purpose of muscle and lose weight from that? Idk what I should be doing really

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Has anyone else lost weight but not clothing size?

I’m down m 37 lbs since February (234 - 197 lbs) but all of my clothes still fit me. I went to the store and tried on a smaller pair of pants and couldn’t get them past my thighs. I do workout about 3 times a week so I don’t think my weight loss is from muscle. I also don’t look too different than I did 37 lbs ago (friends and family haven’t noticed) but I’m wondering if this has happened to anyone else? Is there a certain mark where things should really start changing in terms of dropping clothing sizes and appearance being slimmer?

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[22M] Developed harsh sagging on butt after losing the most recent 20 pounds

Yo! I'm 22M, 6'2", 215lbs. I started my weight loss journey in June 2022 at about 305 pounds. I have noticed that I've developed bad rolls on the bottom of my butt and its really messing with me. I recall my butt looking nowhere near this bad 20 pounds ago.

Is there any way to go about fixing this quickly? I have the goal of dropping another 15 pounds. I would consider myself fairly muscular (even at this weight, I have faint abs), and I have lift pretty heavy on my lower body. I hardcore trained my glutes throughout this last year as I've lost weight because I've always wanted a nice butt, so this is really not a fun sight to see.

Is this just loose skin causing excessive sagging? It kinda feels like its sagging towards the center, in between my thighs and under the bumhole. My butt isn't flat (IMO it looks great in underwear). After it curves, the skin just flattens and sags where my ass meets my hamstrings. It feels like there's fat in the folds formed by the sagging as well, and there's still sagging even when I bend over at the waist (like I'm tying my shoe).

Would surgery be my only option (are there non invasive types?)? I also was wondering if maybe loosing another 15 pounds will (hopefully) take away the fat from the folds, or if it'll just make it worse. I know one answer may be to just train and build muscle there, but I feel muscle in my ass, its lifting it, it's just a shitton of fat sagging on the bottom. Plus, this is bad enough that I'm not exactly willing to wait the possible years in may take to train enough muscle into them.

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