Saturday, July 6, 2019

My big fat stupid life in bullet points!

Do I need a tldr for a list of bullet points?

-September 2018

•start of my senior year

•I weigh 300 lbs at 6 ft (highest I’ve ever weighed was 330.)

•I have lots of classes with this girl I like

•she’s out of my league

•she flirts with me

•I ask her out

•she says yes

•first relationship I’ve ever had so I decide to put effort into losing weight for the sake of our relationship. First time I was ever booming with confidence. Took weight more seriously than ever.

•things are great for like two months

•I’m running on an elliptical and eating right

•happier than I’ve ever been

January 2019

• I weigh 280 (lowest I’ve weighed since 8th grade)

• Girl began to distance herself in November

•she was having problems with mental health

•regularly taking out her problems on me

(Background time-My mom was an abusive alcoholic. Physically and verbally. Now she’s just an alcoholic)

•Girl knows about my destructive homelife and uses that to take advantage of me the same ways my mom did. •Even after we stopped dating, she’d still mess with me.

•during this time I’m still working out daily and eating right. Still really motivated.

• My lowest weight in past couple of years is 270

-February 2019

•she’s finally gotten to me

•driving me to falling into old binging habits

•im working out less and less

•she stops talking to me all together

•even though she was evil and manipulative, she was my only friend at the time.

•I gain all of the weight back over time

-June 2019/July 2019

•I’ve been working at a movie theater for about 6 months

•really nice co-workers, I hit it off with all of them

•they become the closest thing I have had to friends since my ex.

•People genuinely told me they looked forward to working with me

•built up a reputation for being some type of clown or workplace comic

•in July I end up quitting

•my mother is on a mean streak and the money I make from work is paying for her booze

•I stay in contact with co-workers

•one in particular, was this girl that was really sweat.

•her and I began talking everyday

•I even came to see a movie (where we worked) and we ended up talking in the parking lot after her shift from 11 pm to 3 am. (Genuine conversation)

•we just joke and talk about our bad ex’s

•after this night I feel a genuine connection and I begin working out again. (Sparingly but still)

-this week

•I’ve been pretty depressed back and fourth

•still talking to that girl, but I get the impression she doesn’t like me

•we make plans three times to hang out

•she cancels because of good reasons each time, but nonetheless it’s disheartening

•I go to a party with her and a group of her friend (They really took me in as their own)

•Talking at the party she mentions she has off the next day

•later I bring up the movie “Midsommar” she says she wants to see it. So do I

•I tell her I’m seeing it the next day and I ask her “do you have off tomorrow?”

•she lies and says no, but then realizes we all know she has off.

•she backtracks and says she doesn’t want to spend her day off seeing a movie.(understandable she works there)

•next day I text her at 7:30 saying I’m planning on seeing Midsommar at 9:30 and I asked if she’d like to come with.

•she says yeah

•I feel really energized so I work out on the elliptical

•I feel like dying afterwords, borderline cardiac arrest

•I feel really confident and I make plans to buy my own dinner to make at home after the movie. Something healthy.

-movie theater at 9:00

•I talk to my old co-workers

•they’re excited to see me

•I talk to them and we all have a good time

•it gets to 9:30 and I decide to wait in the movie for my friend who hasn’t arrived

•9:55 roles around and she’s still not here

•I assume she stood me up

•I assume right

•she texts me apologizing saying she just tried taking a nap and overslept.

•I’m not mad at her at all because she’s very nice she wouldn’t do this kind of thing on purpose

•nonetheless im still really sad

•I go to Walmart buy a shit ton of garbage food and binge till I get sick

•I go on reddit

•post on r/loseit

•not even looking for weight loss advice at this point, just someone to talk to.

•post is probably against the guidelines because of its lack of weight talk

•feels real bad man

Real bad.

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For me, emotions + stress = weight gain | How do I “reset?”

My story: I lost my spouse and also my dad to cancer less than two years apart. Until their diagnoses, I was a bit over weight but not “obese”.

My family and I immediately transitioned from a dual income household to me being the sole provider. I found myself facing high medical expenses, the eventual loss of not one but two very important people in my life, working full time while also being a caregiver, and raising a young teen all at the same time. I gained a significant amount of weight in a little over a year.

Current challenge: Now that both my spouse and dad have passed away, and the teen I mentioned is an adult and is on his own, for the last year plus, I turned my focus toward myself and finding my new normal. I have not been able to lose weight and keep it off.

My physical self has grown very fond of “survival mode,” apparently, and is holding onto the calories from every crumb that goes into my mouth. My emotional self reacts to stress in a manner which then encourages my physical self to remain in “survival mode”.

I am working with a physician, a dietician, and have tried a few different therapists in an effort to break the cycle. The good news is that there is no physical reason why I cannot lose weight.

Starting the beginning of this year, I track everything I eat. I have remained the same weight while staying within 1,400 calories a day (with very few exception days- one exception or “cheat” day every other month, to date). Because I walk a lot and liked the interface, I chose the “my fitness pal” app to track both food intake and physical activity. I have worked my way up to about 8,000 steps per day alternating a fast pace with a slow, leisurely pace on average. I recently added IF (16:8) to the mix. Sooner or later, I will find what works for me and will return to a healthy weight.

The reaction of others to my weight ranges from fat shaming to sympathy to encouragement. It is so easy for some to hide behind a keyboard/touch screen and criticize a person that they will likely never have to look in the eye.

Only those close to me (until now, anyway) know this story. I get the occasional snarky and judgmental comments while out on public. My favorite response is “Try burying your spouse and your dad within months of each other - then tell me how you’ve managed your weight!”

I have found folks who are physically active to be the very best in terms of offering words of encouragement and guidance when asked. The person who looks like a model and is less than 4% body fat is just as quick with a kind word as the person who looks just like me.

Though I like myself and enjoy spending time alone, I miss jumping in the car and heading to a baseball game or to the next town over to enjoy a favorite venue. I have tried online dating without great success. Though I have had many good chats and have also been on dates, in summary, it is easy to see and judge only the outer shell without a thought about the inner person and how/why they became what you see. After a few failed attempts, I discovered my self confidence is not ready to filter through the bots, filters, cat-fishing, etc., in order to meet someone who genuinely wants to be friends and partners.

Have I found the winning approach to weight loss? No. Am I going to quit trying? Absolutely not.

Healing after two great losses (dad: 2012 and spouse: 2014) is a journey. It took me awhile to find my new internal normal. Now I am focused on my new external normal. There are still days that I have to remind myself I am enough and I am worth the effort to become the best version of me!

I needed to write all of this out as much as I needed a reminder that motivation, for me, comes from within and is assisted by controlling my inputs.

Positive ideas and advice is appreciated and welcomed.

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Saturday, 06 July 2019? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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A new beginning after a change of routines.

I was 117 kg and at the start of 2016, I decided to start doing something about it. Joined a 6 weeks weight loss programme where I was thought about eating better and exercises I can do. Over the period of one year, I managed to lost over 40 kg. A year later, managed to lost a total of 53 kg from my initial weight.

Late last year, I started a new job where my routine completely changed. The work hour is chaotic, I no longer eat on time nor was I exercising regularly. As much as I love the new job and adventures, learning new things was stressful and I started binge eating again. In a period of less than a year, I have gained over 10 kg.

I realised all of this happening but I just can't stop. Or won't stop, maybe. I know I am in deep shit. If I don't start doing things mindfully again, I am going to go back to my starting point and I don't want that to happen.

I am restarting today. Woke up this morning, and decided to just do it. Found this sub and I thought I'll share this to keep myself in check. Wish me luck, guys!

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Friday, July 5, 2019

I finally reached my first goal and want to share my story and thoughts

With the help of this sub, MyFitnessPal and a cheap electronic scale I finally reached a healthy BMI of ~24 at 90kg (22M, 193cm). A year and a half ago I was at 115kg (the highest weight was near 120 but I wasn’t checking it very often back then), started losing weight without any system around a year ago and have been doing CICO for the last three months.

I’ve been obese all my life, and it runs in the family as well, so I thought it’s genetic. That I have heavy bones. That it’s just the way my body and metabolism works. Had gyno on top of that and hated my appearance to the guts. Taking off my shirt in front of other people was a big no-no, I was conscious about it and disgusted. Teased as a teen but it wasn’t too bad really, not as bad as I hated myself.

Finally, a chain of stressful events led to a situation where thinking about cutting out my titties was somewhat of a “now or never” thing. So I went for it. Was a life changer obviously. Started going out more, becoming more comfortable in my own skin. After a while, people started telling me that I lost weight. I didn’t believe them at first but after a while started stepping on the scale as more and more people commented on this, and saw the change myself. It was like 5kg over half a year or something, but this bit of evidence was convincing enough.

As time went by, I got down to a little under 110, and discovered the sub. Very inspirational guys, keep up the good work! I wasn’t counting calories at the time, just tried to clock in enough steps and just cut down on meals a little, and it worked. I got under a 100, and wanted more, so I downloaded MyFitnessPal and started counting out of curiosity. I believed in weight loss by then and wasn’t obsessing over these things, so it wasn’t challenging at all. I will list down my thoughts on weight loss to elaborate more here, but will finish the story first.

I didn’t consider it dieting, I was eating pretty much the same food as before, just skipping on some snacks and having more moderation and replacing Coke with Coke Zero and other similar small changes. I was comfortable with how things are because my target deficit was just around 500 calories daily. So, in this pace, I was losing 3.3kg a month, and here I am, in onederland (under 200lbs)!

I’m planning to lose another 10, and reach my ideal weight of 80kg in another 3-4 months. Maintenance will be another journey, but I need to get there first.

Here’s a brief summary of my approach and mindset when it comes to weight loss, I hope it will help someone:

I am not restricting myself in eating anything, I am simply getting a reference on my calorie intake using the journal.
I am not able to consciously tell exactly how full I am at a given point of time so I use the journal to estimate my nutrition.
I do not try to get the exact amount of calories consumed or burned simply because a 50-100 calorie difference is not worth the effort. I am comfortable with estimating.
Writing down the calories is not a chore, I am genuinely interested in my nutrition stats, and I aim to use the journal for a long time to change my eating habits fundamentally.
I do not have any significant issues with my metabolism, “heavy bones” or any other sort of legitimate excuse for my obesity, it’s not genes, it’s simply overeating.
It’s ok to exceed the calorie limit a little once a while, be it a night out with friends or a family dinner or any other event. It’s all about habits and daily choices - one day is not going to ruin my weekly or monthly progress - I simply don’t have the stomach capacity to eat that much in one day. Slow and steady wins the race.
I enjoy tracking my progress and seeing the weight graph go down. Even though I weigh myself daily, I don’t record fluctuations on the graph. I just put it down once a month or so, so it’s easier to read and is always showing a positive change.
It’s nice to hear a compliment every now and again, but I am doing it for myself first. I feel better, I look better and I like myself more. And I didn’t know I had a bone in that weird place!
I am my body. It’s not a suit, or a property, it’s quite literally the whole entire me. Might as well take care of myself, because this is what I’m stuck with and I’m not getting a new me. I cannot replace the hardware, I can just accept it and improve from there.

And a little cliché: you can achieve anything you want if you set your mind to it. During this journey I noticed that being comfortable with yourself and the process makes it much much easier. Wishing you reach your goals and stay healthy! Thanks to each and everyone for being a part of this fantastic community!

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20lbs until I'm not Obese

Hi guys. 16f here and I'm currently around 215 - 220 lbs standing at 5'7 inches tall. Binge eating and eating large portions has always been something I've struggled with due to some problems with mental illness.

I'm really trying to get at least under 200 lbs as a starting goal for the summer and continue my weight loss journey from there. I'm focusing more on losing fat and getting stronger. What kinds of workouts at the gym are best for full body other than cardio? I'm really trying to focus more on getting toned rather than just skinny-fat. Any advice helps and is appreciated. Also, I've been intermittent fasting for a bit and have recently tried going on keto.

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[Daily Directory] Find your quests for the day here! - Saturday, 06 July 2019

Welcome adventurer! Whether you're new on this quest or are towards the end of your journey there should be something below for you.

Daily journal.

[Q&A] "I have a question."
[Day 1] "I am starting my weight loss journey."
[SV/NSV] "I have an accomplishment to share."
[24hr Pledge] "Today I am going to..."

Interested in some side quests?

[Motivation Monday] Share some motivation, get some motivation.
[Tantrum Tuesday] Need to vent? People getting on your nerves?
[Weigh-In Wednesday]
[Track with Me Thursday] Did we just become best friends?!
[Free Talk Friday] What's on your mind?

Community bulletin board!

[Running with Loseit] Run with losers. Avoid arrows.
[Maintenance Monday] Lost it? Work on keeping it.
[Wecipe Wednesday] Swap and discuss recipies!

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