the dark side of losing a huge amount of weight

By all means, I have to start off by saying weight loss was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have lose roughly 200lbs and have been able to maintain it for almost 2 years. I started at 398lbs in 2020. I am currently 26F.

Weight loss did fix alot of my problems. It also gave me a life I had never experienced. I have definitely experienced living in the past 2 years than I have in my entire life and for that I am thankful.

Now for the negatives.

1. My entire life and though process is calorie counting. If I stick to my calories, my mood is great, Ive done amazing, life is beautiful. If I go over my calories by even a few calories, my mood becomes trash, I get irritated, moody, etc.

2. My entire day revolves around food noise in the sense that Im either thinking of what to eat thats low calorie, when can I eat next, how to stretch every calorie, etc. its honestly exhausting. My husband can look in the fridge and throw a few things together and call it a meal. I have to plan carefully as to how I can engineer the meal to be the least amount of calories, highest amount of volume and highest amount of protein. Its EXHAUSTING.

3. I see more flaws in my body now than I did at 398lbs. maybe its because I care more and am harder on myself. But unfortunately I pick apart my body several times a day and on days where I am not mentally in the right mood, I cant look at the mirror without having an internal meltdown.

4. I am obsessed with the scale. I will be starving in the morning but refuse to weight until the exact same time every day before even getting a sip of water. Its a problem.

5. I have had 2 rounds of skin removal surgery and one follow up procedure. You would think it would be enough. Nope, Im going back in for another procedure to remove even more skin in some areas Im not happy about. It never ends. My husband tells me he finds my body so normal and beautiful but I cant seem to convince myself I am happy with it and I think I can always make it look better. Im sick of myself too.

6. I am terrified of having babies because I dont want to ruin my body again. I am so worried Ill gain weight or stretch out my surgery results that I am dreading the idea of pregnancy.

7. yea thats it for now.

I just wanted to write this to say that weight loss is great but it wont fix everything. but its still worth it to lose weight to live an overall healthier life. Do I have these thoughts, yes. But if you look at my life as a whole, you will see that although I have my issues, I have come a long way and have really changed my life for the better.

But yea I should see someone. This is pretty much borderline if not already an ED or something.

Drop some of your pros and cons of weight loss. Or opinions. Happy friday.

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Hi! I desperately need encouragement and a metaphorical slap in the face!

I keep finding new bottoms to sink to and I'm hoping that by writing this it will change something in my mindset. Please help me with advice! Or just encouragement

I've had times in my life where I was quite fit and times where I was obese. I've had the most success in losing weight and also feeling amazing by doing intermittent fasting and something called the dukan diet (basically nothing processed no sugar).

But now I'm getting older and I've gone from obese to morbidly obese. There was a while that I was technically morbidly obese but I still felt normal. But not now. Now I actually feel morbidly obese. I feel like a hero for walking a few blocks like I did a major accomplishment. My body is starting to feel like a prison.

I tried getting on the weight loss injections and I had a prescription but I can't afford it. My doctor recommended bariatric but I don't want it to have to come to that just yet. I've done major fasts before! I've done three day dry fasts. I love the high of exercise. I love how good I feel when I eat healthy. But it's been many years and I don't know how to start again.

And now I don't know what to do without food. Eating and hunger have nothing to do with each other anymore. It's almost like I don't know what to do with that myself without putting food in my mouth. I know I just have to reshape my mentality to getting my high from the gym instead of food but I don't know how to start.

I know I'll be able to do it once I start for 2 weeks but I don't know how to do those first two weeks. It seems so futile because especially now in menopause I barely lose any weight even if I don't eat anything. Please help me find the motivation to believe that it's worth starting even if I don't notice any difference for a month

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Feeling confused and hopeless about the journey

33F we all read so many things.. like make a lifestyle change, but weight loss comes from a calorie deficit.

For me, I can't count calories for the rest of my life. How do I make a deficit a lifestyle otherwise?

I know I could eat much cleaner, but I don't eat excessively. I already eat under 2k calories a day. I doI lost weight previously by using slim fast but that was a huge calorie deficit and I gained it back.

I don't drink soda or coffee. Just green tea. I can look at a bagel and gain weight. It's so frustrating.

I know my medication doesnt help or even prevents weight loss (Zoloft).

Where would you start? I also tried Noom, using My Fit Pal, Cardio apps, Pilates challenges. The weight just increases.

Oh, right, I am 205lb and 5'3. ADHD 🙃

Tia ❤️

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Struggling with bingeing after weight loss

Over the past year I have successfully lost around 50lbs after dealing with binge eating disorder and just a horrible relationship with food for a very long time. I definitely struggled to contain the binge urges during the beginning, but from january of this year up until last month I had been doing extremely well and was completely binge-free. However, as I am now getting close to my goal weight and am getting more comfortable with body, I have found myself less motivated to stick to my “healthy lifestyle” and have felt the urges to binge coming back. During the past month or so there have been a few instances where I had a small binge, but they weren’t horrible and I was always able to get back on track the next day. For some reason though, earlier this week I had a binge and I have not been able to get myself back on track, and instead have been binging almost every day since. I am trying so hard to resist the urges because I always hate how I feel afterwards, and this was my exact behavior before my weight loss journey and I do not want to ruin my progress, but it is just so hard. Does anyone have any advice?

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Workout plan advice

Hi, I am very new to the workout space and have a lot of options presented to me for workout/weight loss plans that are just a bit too confusing for me to pick. I have type 1 diabetes, and have a BMI of 30%. It’s hard to find a program that specifically will work/is helpful to type 1 diabetics, not type 2 as they are very different. Trying to lose about 40 pounds, and I don’t really care about building muscle at the moment. I don’t like going to a gym, and I have a treadmill and some dumbbells. Trying not to spend more than 75$ a month. Does anyone here have advice for a great program I can use?

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Craving can change after weight loss

[F 174cm SW: 88kg CW: 68kg GW: 65kg] I'm on a trip in Montreal right now and the entire time leading up to it I was looking forward to all the food I was going to eat--poutine, croissants, pizza. For the past few months I've been strictly off junk food and sugary food, but I decided to give myself a break while I'm in Montreal. So I went to a bakery that I've been looking forward to visiting for weeks and bought a bunch of sweets and... it was gross. Like, objectively speaking the pastries were great, but I realised I just don't like sugary food anymore. Now that I'm here I'm actually not super excited about eating out, even though I expected the food to be the highlight of my trip. All I'm really craving is something light with a lot of vegetables in it.

It's wild because when I was at my heaviest weight all of my meals were like instant noodles, pasta, and toast with butter, but after a few years of healthy eating my cravings have completely changed. My cravings for movement have even changed too. I find that I get antsy and even a bit depressed if I don't get exercise. My sister is going through a weight loss journey as well and noticed the same thing. She has to go on a walk every day or she feels sick.

I just wanted to share this here in case anybody is wondering how they will keep up their weight loss after they lose it. It may be that the lifestyle that you had before won't at all appeal to you in the future.

Has anyone else noticed that their desires have changed after a weight loss?

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Need help with daily calorie intake.

Hi everyone. I have a question.
Last year January I started my weight loss journey. I weighed at 115kg at 163cm height. I decided to eat very little food daily (around 600-800) calories a day and had a cheat day on saturday. I lose alot of weight and weigh 78kg current to this post. Anyways I started to lift weights and run daily 6x times a week equating to training 12x times a week. I eat roughly 1k-1.1k calories a day but sometimes feel very hungry at night. I decided to put my stats into a TDEE calculator and my results were, 2,365 calories are my maintenance and for 0,5kg weight loss per week i should eat 1,865 per day.
My fear is after eating 1000 calories per day and increasing it to even 1.5k per day i will gain weight. Can anyone advice me on what to do. I am generally concerned for what I am going to do. Even though i have lost weight it has my impacted my food relationship heavily.
(Note I am currently 78kg and want to get to 70kg) Thank you all.

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