Tuesday, January 8, 2019

Has anyone here been able to overcome their body dysmorphia after major weight loss?

Would like to someone to talk to about their body dysmorphia experiences and how they were able to cope and learn to love themselves. I've (5'10 M) dropped from 305lb to 200lb (180 is my goal) over the last 10 months. My face has gotten a lot cuter however I stiil have a chubby loose belly and a lot of loose skin on my manboobs. I can appreciate the massive improvement in my face and I look decent when im clothed but still view my unclothed body as disgusting/unsexy/unlovable. I recently gained the confidence to ask out the first girlfriend ive ever had.. only to ruin the relationship a week later due to my dysmorphia insecurites needing verbal intimate validation that she wasnt able to provide yet as her past left her avoidant of intimacy. The relationship probably wasnt going to work due to other incompatibilities but it taught me that i still have a long ways to go with being okay with myself before I should attempt another relationship with someone. Comment here or DM would be much appreciated

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LoseIt, You Changed My Life

I have been meaning to post on this sub for virtually ever. In September of 2017, I had this moment of sudden shock and realization that I needed to do something about my weight. My girlfriend and I at the time were both in the 270's, our highest weights ever. I remember laying in bed, telling myself that tomorrow would be the day I changed. As many of you begin, struggle to maintain, or near your goals. I wanted to share a few things I learned along the way, as well as some inspirational transformation pics.

I had previously downloaded the LoseIt App during a previous weight loss attempt, but didn't understand really the implications of food and calories. That's when I discovered this sub. Your stories, advice, and support helped me really understand that weight loss is a simple (yet difficult) math problem. I started religiously logging my calories, bought a food scale, and became more mindful of the things I was consuming.

For over 320 days, I logged every single calorie. I remember going to weddings and estimating my calories, like 3000 calories worth of beer in a night, or 6 vodka shots and half a Dominos pizza. I had tons of days where the number I logged was very high, but the next day I would get back on track and get back to my 1300 calorie goal. I think that's my been my biggest advice for anyone, a cheat day/meal/week doesn't mean the end of your weight loss. Heck, sometimes it doesn't even set you back more than a day or two. Just pick yourself back up.

I started my journey in September of 2017. I hit my 100 lb weight loss goal on July 23rd 2018. Since then, I have managed to stay under my goal weight and got to a point where maintenance has become second nature. I have bad days, but I always remember just to make tomorrow better. I didn't exercise at all during any of this, although I did do more physical activities and tried to take a daily walk.

-Take photos throughout the journey! Although I hate seeing myself in underwear pics, there were months when the scale didn't move much, but monthly progress pics kept me motivated and helped me see the changes I didn't really see in the mirror. Document your journey somewhere. I used instagram to show progress and help myself when I was feeling like nothing was changing.

-Find ways to keep eating your favorite foods. I am a slut for pasta and carbs, but couldn't imagine wasting all my dinner calories on a small handful of noodles. My favorite meal is chicken alfredo, I just use a small serving of noodles, then add zucchini noodles for volume. You still get the taste and texture of pasta, but can eat a lot more of it.

-Give your body what it needs. I remember days where I would feel like I was going through some crazy withdraw. Listen to your body, if you feel hungry, eat a snack. A day going over calorie goal isn't going to set you back in the long run.

-Take you time. Go at your own pace. I lost 100lbs relatively quick, but that's the pace I was comfortable at. If you are feeling overwhelmed, eat at maintenance a week or two and get your mind back into it. Small steps.

-Log. Log your good days. Log your bad days. Whether you log them or not, you consumed those calories. Logging my cheat days gave me a lot of insight into my eating patterns. IT also helped me stay motivated after to make better choices.

-In that same vein, know when to stop logging or weighing. I got to a point where I was SO FLIPPING sick of logging my food and weighing myself. I felt confident that I understood my eating habits after 320 days, but know people who logged for years, or just months. When it becomes something you dread or only give half effort to, switch it up.

You can do this! This community is amazing and I am so happy to have found you guys.

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Weight-loss books that you recommend to others?

I'm looking for new recommendations and fresh inspiration as I settle on my weight-loss and fitness goals for 2019. Below are my five, along with the authors and a brief summary; remember that you can often find used books, even hardcover, in Very Good condition on Amazon for $5-$8 (including shipping), and that Kindle versions are often less than $10.

[1] Keeping it Off (Colvin and Olson): Long out of print and a dated font and format, but full of inspirational anecdotal stories of obese to normal BMI, and helpful advice on how others have made their weight loss permanent.

[2] Younger Next Year (Crowley & Lodge): An easy, fun read aimed at 50-somethings, with plenty of sound advice for anyone in their 40s or beyond. They don't pull punches and offer tough love to get you up and moving (especially for people like me who have never been athletic).

[3] Lean Habits for Lifelong Weight Loss (Georgie Fear): I was initially put off by the "abs" cover, but the four core habits and 12 supporting habits she outlines are absolutely 100% effective. A good reference book that I revisit every few months, as I have not always been ready for some of the habits, but have often found myself ready to tackle them later.

[4] Body Fat Breakthrough (Darden): I often come back and challenge myself to hammer away at his 10 Fat Bombs. As with everything else in this (and any) list, you have to pick and choose what makes most sense to you, both in this moment and in general. But the more tools you can acquire in your journey, the better, and I find this one helpful in mine.

[5] Mindless Eating (Wansink): I'm well aware of the criticisms of his methods (others unable to replicate his studies, etc.), but his guidance to become more mindful of the food traps that are out there, and to become more mindful of our food, are helpful to me. Downvote away! But please leave your reasons if you do.

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Three Years Of Healthy, Sustainable Long Term Changes while losing 200 pounds

Hello r/loseit! Your friendly Canadian Mod ThatCanadianGuy88 here!

January 6th 2019 marked the 3 year mark since I began my journey to a better and healthier me. January 6th 2016 I woke up looking somewhat like this,

All 480 pounds of me.

Now I admit its not the best picture in the world but I am sure you get the basis of it. I was 480 pounds and Im sure quickly approaching 500. I used to sit around watching shows about obese people and say "Man you think they'd wake up at 500". Then suddenly I found myself in the same situation. I can't remember now all the emotions and feelings going through my head but after years of being obese (I have been 300+ since I was 14 but also 6 foot or taller) it was finally time for a change in my life. I started on my journey looking to take off 50 pounds. A friend of mine had just taken off about 75 and I figure I could do 50. So that was the goal. Getting down to a reasonable 430 (cries in stupidity).

What followed was the craziest 24 months of my life. The first 8 weeks I focused on my food and only my food. I was the notorious late night snacker. I'd often skip Breakfast and lunch and eat all my calories from 5pm on (while gaming till 2am). Now to put that in perspective. My TDEE would have been around 4500 calories at the time. I was gaining weight. So that meants in 9 hours of the day I was eating 4500 calories+. Scary when I think back on it. But I started eating 3 normal meals a day, cut the chips (my crack) and ditched the beer (my weakness). Those first 8 weeks saw me drop around 45 pounds if I remember right. I basically hit my entire goal in 2 months.

But then I had a conversation with a life long friend who owned a boot camp/personal training gym. Long story short I joined up and then my transformation really began.

All 440 pounds of me walked in on day one like this.

This was April 2016. The summer went by I was working out 4-5 days a week and eating the best I ever had in my entire life. The weeks flew by and before I knew it my birthday was here. It was the morning of September 2nd. I jump on the scale at 380 pounds. I had lost 100 pounds in 9 months.

The first 100 gone.

The next 200 would take a little longer to hit and I had to wait all the way until the follow August to hit the 200 pound mark gone which is where I find myself today cocking in right around 290 (holiday bump) but I am closing back on the 200 where I've spent most of 2018.

Side by Side

Fun with business cards

Full time line including bonus fat clothes pic.

2018 saw me ease up a bit as my life took a lot of changes. Moving into my first house with my girlfriend and all that goes with that. Taking the family business to a new level of success. While also having to essentially reintroduce myself to my entire circle of people as far too often people would walk right by me and not realise who I was.

Im back on the path to success and have lost 7 pounds since the new year began (wooo water weight woosh). Has the adventure been easy? Not always. Despite it turning into a routine and my new normal the temptations are always there to "be bad". But through the help of this community, my GF, the gym and the countless people I have interacted with in the Reddit weight loss challenges (of which I am currently on my 9th) I have managed to develop an entire new outlook on life and make changes that I can keep with me for many years to come.

So for all of you who are part of the new year new me movement. Remember, you can be a success and you can meet your goals. You wont lose weight everyday or every week and you won't always stay at your calorie goal. Life is meant to live and have fun so don't let a calorie goal consume every minute of your day. And if you are trying to lose weight in a way that makes you miserable and upset. Stop that. You need to do things you can keep doing for the rest of your life. Find that balance and results will come. It's never as fast as we want them to. I figured I'd get down to 250 in 2018. That didn't happen. But that is OK and I now have 2019 to look forward to and get to where I want to be.

Keep up the great work so many of you have began and so many of you have been doing for months or years. I look forward to another year helping all of you as much as you help me with my own goals.

And lastly remember,

You don't need to be good everyday. You just need more good days than bad days.

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Obese exit strategy [Day 1 post w/questions]

Hello reddit, obese lurker here. I write this in the hopes that it my “escape plan” prove useful to someone else.

About me

I am a mid-20s guy whose always been fat, but the problem exacerbated itself in college. I gained just almost 100 pounds while going for my degree. 18-20-hour days and half your daily calories in caffeine absolutely wrecks you. 2 years ago, I tried to lose weight, and succeeded for a while, but didn’t retain the good habits that caused me to lose the weight in the first place.

Mindset

The secret to weight loss is these 4 words: Incremental permanent lifestyle changes. The lifestyle changes are what everyone talks about: counting calories, eating better, more exercise, etc. Permanent means that you cannot drop them or revert back to previous behaviors, or your original weight will follow. Incremental means to move a few steps at a time, and over a period of time; Trying to go hard at the start leads to burning out within a few days. Layering it on helps it “stick”.

Fat man’s get skinny plan

With the mindset above, these starting steps to gradually get myself back on track, layering in something new 1 week at a time.

  • Begin light exercise (walking on warmer days) 2x a week
  • Cut out soda / cut out all caffeine sources (withdrawal happens here, but it gets better after the first 3 days)
  • Begin logging calories, but make no calorie cuts yet.
  • Increase exercising to 3-4x times a week.
  • Begin restricting to -500 calories a day
  • Start C25k program
  • Begin restricting to -1000 calories a day
  • After 10-20 lbs is lost, buy some strength training equipment or a purple-gym membership.

Misc pieces of wisdom from my first attempt

  • Don’t weigh daily: there are too many fluctuations / uncontrollable factors to worry about that. Even weekly stressed me out on the first attempt, so I’m going to try monthly.
  • It’s ok to have cheat meals, the long-term vision is what’s important.
  • A gym membership is useless until you build the exercise habit first.
  • (Personal note) A single soda at a party caused my first downward spiral. Always avoid!

Questions for veterans

  • Is there a better app then MFP for tracking calories? Some of the numbers aren’t always right / accurate.
  • Is there a subreddit for 1500-2000 calorie meal prep?
  • Is there a good list of indoor cardio exercises? I cannot walk outside when it gets cold.

Thanks for reading, hope this helps someone!

Edit(s) - Formatting is hard.

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How to help my girlfriend lose weight?

My girlfriend opened up to me this morning about being insecure of her weight. I told her I will help her make a routine and we will both do it together everyday to help her feel better. Thing is, I don’t know anything about weight loss. I’m an 18m who has a super fast metabolism so even if I tried I would have a hard time putting on weight, because of this weight loss was obviously never a priority for me.

This is the routine I’ve come up with so far

-I wake up at 7:00 every morning

(I have lizards I need to feed so I usually do it at this time as well as some other stuff)

-make a nice breakfast fruit smoothie

-wake her up at 8:00 with said smoothie.

-after breakfast we either A: go for a walk if the weather is nice B: do some wii fit yoga (Around 30 minutes)

-next we will do 10 minutes of meditation.

That’s as far as I’ve gotten. Any advice is welcome. Thanks!

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[SV] 70lbs down! (30/m/5'10")

I started my weight loss journey in July of 2018. I was pretty ashamed of myself. Growing up I have always been on the bigger side but I did a lot of sports and was athletic but still a little fat. Graduating high school I was about 210lbs. Since then I have gone between 210-260. I did on and off dieting and working out. The last few years I started to go even higher. I always said as long as I'm not 300 lbs I'm okay. Kept saying I'll workout and diet. Kept putting it off. Eventually we had a health day at work. I weighed 300lbs and had very high blood pressure. Me and my girlfriend of 4 and a half years also broke up around up time as well. Decided it was time to make improvements. I started off doing Keto. Keto helped me start my weight loss journey. It helped me stay away from certain foods and what not. I wanted to stick with it so going out to eat was hard because of the limited food I could have. Say what you want about the diet but it helped me change my habits. By limiting what foods I could do, I started to get creative in the kitchen and try new foods and what not. I started to see progress on the scale. Eventually when I felt I had my diet habits down. I thought it was time to join the gym. I joined after I was down about 30lbs. I started off small. Would do about 4 lifts per muscle. Be in and out in about a hour with cardio. Doing this helped me get into the swing of things and get the habit of going. I stopped doing keto now that I was over 50lbs down because my body was clearly changing with the muscle I was forming and having carbs helps. Today is the day I saw 70lbs down. I go to the gym about 5-7 days a week depending on work and have developed a lot of gym knowledge and food knowledge as well. It's fun now. Learning new ways to cook and different workouts to do. I love being active and it's been a great ride. I would love to lose 20-30 more lbs and maintain from there. Just wanted to share my story.

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