Has anyone had any not-so-pleasant reactions from friends/family about your weight loss?

I started my weight loss journey in June 2018. To date, I have lost 60 lbs! My husband is so proud of me (he’s lost about 45lbs btw) and I’m surprised and proud of myself as well.

Happy feelings aside, it’s becoming clear that with this weight loss, people are treating me differently. When I set out to lose weight, it never even crossed my mind about how people would treat me if my size changed. It could be all in my head about some people, but there is one person in particular that has now made me feel pretty uncomfortable due to my weight loss. My sister-in-law.

I have known her for 12 years now and she has always been overweight. I was also overweight until I decided to do something about it last year. We’ve always been roughly the same size with her being about 15ish lbs more. Ok, now onto the awkward/uncomfortable stuff.

I only see her once every other month or so. The first time I saw her, I had already lost probably about 15 pounds. She asked me how I was losing the weight and I basically told her that I was eating about 1500/cal a day and just making sure to track my food. Nothing magical or anything, just actually paying attention to my diet. She congratulated me on the weight loss and that was all that was said.

The next time I saw her, I believe I had lost 30lbs at that point. She again asked me what I was doing to lose the weight and I pretty much just repeated the same thing that I said last time. She almost became a little accusatory and said she didn’t believe that it was that “easy”. I said that it wasn’t necessarily easy, but that it becomes a lot easier if you track your food and watch your diet. She had a scowl on her face the whole time and seemed almost in disbelief at what I was saying. The conversation just kind of fizzled out after that.

Onto my son’s birthday party in February. At that point, I had lost about 50 pounds and she did the same thing that she had been doing, asking me about my weight loss. It was the same questions with the same disbelief as it had been previously. In addition, she mentioned that her friend had talked to her about maybe taking diet pills (for her, she said). After having that conversation with her, I just couldn’t help but feel like she thinks I’m using some other way to lose weight besides adjusting my diet.

We all went out to lunch for her daughter’s birthday about a week ago. Everyone was having pizza, but I’m not a big pizza fan, so I had some boneless wings. I think I ended up eating about 4 (I ate 3 donuts the night before, so I was cutting back that day). Right after I ate the last one, I hear her say “You must’ve eaten before you got here”. I kind of snapped back and said, “What? Are you watching me eat now?” I caught the snippy tone of my voice and I immediately let out a little laugh like I was just joking. She let out a laugh too and I don’t think she said anything else.

I had felt annoyed and a little badgered by her until then, but this was straight up creepy. I realized after the fact that she had been watching me eat.

I always wished I had some good comebacks when I get any responses that make me feel uncomfortable or aren’t congratulatory.

Anyone have any stories with odd reactions to your weight loss?

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Overeating healthy food...anyone else do this?

Oh hey guys.

I do meal prepping and portion my meals out at the beginning of the week, but lately I'm finding myself "over eating" fruits, veggies, nuts, etc. I should say "over eating" because really it isn't because I'm hungry, but just looking for something to do. In between meals, I'm finding myself gravitating towards the kitchen, going towards the celery and hummus or a salad bowl. I know I shouldn't feel guilty for eating an apple or a small handful of almonds or veggies, but physically I just feel kind of...bleh now. I'm trying to make myself feel better by saying that it isn't soda, sugary snacks, junk food, or bread.

Anyone else do this? Has it impacted their weight loss at all?

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Does anyone else have panic attacks when they loose weight/hit certain weights?

TL;DR- I have a crazy egg donor/mother who used to beat me for loosing more weight than her, among other things. I also tend to have panic attacks when I am close to the weight where traumatic things happened in my life. My reaction to panic attacks is to go on a binge, which stops my process. Does anyone else go through this?

Howdy y'all. My Mom is Reddit famous on another sub because she's a puppy fur coat short of being an actual Disney villain. As in, my therapist who specializes in abuse and trauma actually asked if I'd ever considered she might be truly evil. Yeah, it HAD crossed my mind once or twice...

Basically, I Am Talking About My Mom, She Is Horrible, This Is A Trigger Warning.

Anyway, my Mom would force me to go on diets with her as a "diet buddy", my job was to remind her to actually do the diet and exercise plan (which if I did, I'd get screamed at and called horrible names, and sometimes hit. If I didn't her lack of results were my fault, so I'd get... you guessed it! Screamed at, called names, and sometimes hit.), and if I actually DID the plan she told me to do, as a 16-17 year old teenager who was a foot taller than her, I'd get results faster than she did... guess what happened then?

I can't tell if I am loosing or gaining weight. If I lost 20 lbs and she gained 2, I'd be screamed at for gaining weight, having no willpower, being fat, etc. Then she'd cry about how ugly I was, how I'd never know the "power of being a beautiful woman", and I'd have to comfort my mother for having such an ugly daughter. If I had gained 20 lbs and she'd lost 2, I'd get all kinds of praise. Once I had lost some weight because I was following the diet and exercise plan she'd picked for us, and she was eating ice cream every night and refusing to work out. She. Was. PISSED. While it might not sound bad, this really was- she glared at me with utter loathing and hate in her eyes, completely vibrating with rage, and made me eat an entire carton of ice cream as punishment. Being forced to binge eat ice cream does not sound bad, but the waves of rage and hatred from my Mom for doing the thing she told and nagged me to do when she had a hair trigger temper and had zero problem breaking my bones in a fit of rage (which I didn't even know were broken until I was an adult and my X-rays showed all kinds of weird things, I thought that's just how life was), was pretty awful.

I'd done something good I should have been proud of, and instead I got loathing, anger, rage and punishment.

From all of this I have a very hard time actually seeing weight loss, to the point where I can't tell the difference after loosing 50, 60, or 70 lbs. I have to have my (current, amazing) family tell me and point out the changes. It is REALLY discouraging to put in lots of gym time and effort and see zero changes at all, even when the people around me are gobsmacked, and my clothing is literally falling off. It makes it hard to keep up with positive changes when I see zero benefit.

So, I check my weight as a way of keeping up with progress. I've lost over 90 lbs, and am at 231.6 right now. Which means...

I'm about to hit 220 lbs. It was the weight I was when Bad Sexual Assault Things Happend With The Guy My Mom Wouldn't Let Me Kick Out when I was a teenager (she 'hired' my abusive boyfriend and he moved in with us, when things started getting bad I wasn't allowed to kick him out because she didn't want to pay him $30 a week.) A full decade + later, I was getting my poop in a pile and my Dad died in an accident. I haven't been able to get near 220 ever since. I realized that if I keep doing what I've been doing for the last month and stay on track... I'll be to that weight by the end of next month...

And I then was on the teetering edge of a panic attack for the rest of the day. Gibbering, awful, going black at the edge of my vision- right on the cusp ALL DAY LONG. I had a therapist and PTSD medication but with a layoff, I no longer have health insurance so that has to wait until I get another job. I just wanted to know if anyone else had these kinds of struggles and issues, and what they can do to help it.

I know this is made worse by the PTSD issues I've got (guess who gave me PTSD?), but since I'm job hunting I can't exactly do any of the things that have helped with PTSD in the past. I'm talking about weed. No go when you need to take pee tests. I have medication for the PTSD but I'm out and without insurance... it's a no go.

Sorry for the wall of text. I'm just not sure what to do. I keep sabatoging my own weight loss for what? To please a person who is not capable of loving another human being? To protect myself from not being physically abused by a woman who if she ever lays hands on me again, will go to prison?

I just wish my damn brain would shut up and let me get healthy without all this extra drama.

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2-year Lose It! Anniversary - My Story

This week marks two years that I’ve been using Lose It! so I thought I’d share my weight loss journey. I’m a 5’-11” male and will be turning 37 this summer.

I’m going to go back about four years to fully tell the story. I weighed somewhere around 195lbs and wanted to “get in shape.” Now I’m not going to sit here and say I was vastly overweight, but like a lot of guys, I tended to gain all my weight in the belly. I didn’t feel good about myself and always talked about doing something about it, but never did.

In July of 2015, I started lifting weights to try to get in shape, but I did not change my eating habits. I was absolutely against doing anything cardio because I had asthma and it was difficult. I continued with this method for about two years with minimal results.

In January of 2017, I convinced myself to incorporate cardio into my routine. It was extremely tough at first as I was only able to run a half mile or less. It was hard to breathe and just generally sucked, but you know what…I stuck with it. I actually started to enjoy running and built up my endurance to the point where I could run 6 miles at an 8:15 pace. Surprisingly, my asthma became a non-issue while running too.

In April of 2017, some friends were talking about Lose It! so I downloaded it to see what it was all about. I decided it was finally time to face the music and start getting serious about losing some weight. My weight around this time was about 180lbs, and I set a goal to get down to 170lbs. I purchased a Fitbit so I could start tracking my runs and bought a food scale. I created recipes in Lose It! to really analyze the source of calories in my meals. Over the next few months, I faithfully logged my food and tracked my exercise. I admit I’m a numbers guy and tracking everything became somewhat of an addiction.

By the fall of 2017, people were noticing that the pounds were literally melting off. I easily hit my original GW and just kept cruising because this was my new lifestyle and not a temporary diet.

In December of 2017, my most satisfying moment came when I went to the doctor. I weighed in at 158lbs and the last time I saw him I was in the 190s. He asked me if I saw the scale because he thought the nurse mis-wrote 158 instead of 185!

Today, I’m in maintenance mode and my current weight is in the low 150s. During the week, I try to be diligent and really control what I eat by eating home-cooked meals and minimizing eating out. Doing so allows freedom on the weekend to eat what I want and partake in consuming adult beverages without much worry. I make myself “earn” the freedom to do these things by getting in some good cardio exercise on the weekends.

A few closing thoughts: Knowledge is power and losing weight really does come down to numbers – CICO. A food scale is probably the most important tool for weight loss as it is all about portion control. I still eat the things that I want, just less at a time. I never take a bag of anything to the couch with me anymore. I always weigh out a serving size and that is usually enough. As for cardio exercise – If you can’t or don’t want to run, then walk! I don’t always run, but do try to get in at least 30 minutes of walking each day.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far and I hope someone out there can find some inspiration in my story!

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I am one of you again!

I'm just posting here to say that after 9 months of eating whatever I want and doing little exercise, I am back to healthy eating for my weight loss. One of the things that motivated me the most was being subscribed to this sub. Seeing everyone's positive posts about their weight loss made me realise what I was doing to my body. I actually felt jealous about other people's losses, which is not like me.

I am at that awful point where my clothes don't fit, I have to keep relying on that one big pair of fat pants for work, and I am out of breath walking up a hill.

It feels so good to get back on track and start caring about my body again. Before this 9 month binge I had lost 4 stone and looked the best I have ever looked. I promised myself I would never let myself get so big again, but meeting new people and actually developing a social life made this difficult.

I'm getting married in December 2020 so here's hoping I can lose enough weight in time to get my dream wedding dress.

So just wanted to say that I am back and now one of you :)

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Life is totally different.

I've lost 172 lbs. I'm 6ft 1in tall and was 367lbs. I am now 195lbs. I've posted progress pictures previously. Do you guys realize how much better life is when you're much much healthier?

Holy shit.

I remember not being able to walk up the stairs without being gassed. Feeling sooooo fat when eating just about anything. The sweating. Not being able to dress nearly as good as "fit" people just because things look terrible on you in general when you're fat. The judging eyes in public. Always wearing shorts and a t-shirt, even in the winter. Hiding from the camera. Taking shits 3 times a day. Spending so much money on fast food.

It feels so good knowing I can jog for 30 minutes straight. The looks I get in public are so much nicer. I shit 0-1 time a day. I don't sweat unless I'm in a hardcore workout or it's super hot. I spend so much less on food. I don't mind, and I quite encourage people to take photos with me. I enjoy shopping for clothes now, and even more so looking nice.

It's like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Literally and figuratively. My life is better in basically every aspect. Why did I not lose weight sooner? I was a moron. Had I known I'd feel this good, I'd have done this ages ago. After a while, losing weight just becomes second nature. It's like I'm a master of weight loss now.

I sit down at restaurants now and the booths are giant. I flew recently and am flying out for a business trip tomorrow. What the hell? The seats aren't THAT bad. Movie seats are big, man. I was just bigger.

Motivation for everything is at an all time high. Sex is better. Life is better. People smile at me and say hi all of the time. People seem to respect my opinions more and listen to what I have to say. I check myself out in the mirror instead of shying away. I no longer hate myself.

It's crazy knowing I can sprint. I can jog. I can hike up big mountains. I can lift heavy things, and not get tired so quickly. I can relate to others who are bigger, and when people talk about them behind their back, I can stick up for them, as I know what's up. I was featured at my local gym with a plaque on the wall to inspire others. I never would have imagined this. I'm so happy I can go to my sister's wedding this August knowing I'll look solid in the wedding photos. My confidence is sky high. People call me "big guy" in reference to my muscle instead of my fat. That feels SO GOOD.

I don't know why I am even writing this post. I just felt like it. You guys - you have to experience this. Buckle down. Right now. Start today. Future you will thank you. I promise.

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I lost 165 lbs but am currently down 157lbs after a small backslide. Here's what I've learned from the past 6 months of my struggles.

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been here... It's been a while since we spoke.

So let's talk.

6 months ago, in October 2018, I moved out of my dingey cheap apartment and ceased my 2 hour (both ways) commute so that I could move into a beautiful apartment 3x the size and less than a mile away from my job. It was a huge life upgrade... And it was also the most stress I've had since I started losing weight in July of 2017.

Looking at MyFitnessPal, I can pick out the exact day where things started going wrong. October 23rd, 2018. Weeks of 1200-1300 calories a day, flawless eating... Then, I baked a batch of cookies. The first non-healthy baked goods I'd made since I started losing weight. The next few days looked like this:

• October 23rd, 2018: 2,617 calories. 10 cookies.
• October 24th, 2018: 3,046 calories. Cookies, fat bombs, and an obscene amount of protein bars.
• October 26th, 2018: 5,420 calories. We moved. We had pizza.

On it goes. I got back on track by October 31st, but the past few months are riddled with these types of occurrances. In November, going into December, I made it back down to 166lbs. Ate well on Christmas and ballooned up to 183.6. Got back on track in January, but then started eating again after something else caused my stress levels to spike. In January and Feburary I struggled with binging and 'entry-level' purging behavior (heavy workouts after binges and/or fasting after binges), but made it back down to 166lbs. At the end of February, a family member passed away and for the first time since July 4th, 2018, on the weekend of the funeral I sincerely did not log anything I ate.

I came home and it continued. The truth is, even as I type this, I am only about 5 days out from my last set of terrible eating decisions (we went to Red Robin on Friday -- spoiler alert: I didn't get a lettuce wrapped chicken sandwich or broccoli as a side).

I spend a lot of time thinking about my future, my weight loss, and my eating habits now. I spend significantly less time talking about them than I used to and I'm starting to realize maybe that's a good thing.

You see, what we have here is an incredible community. Thousands of people who have all gone through the same journey you are partaking in or are about to take on. Advice, a place to vent, tips for getting started, a shoulder to lean on, a strong support network: /r/loseit has it all.

But what /r/loseit doesn't have is the ability to see the future. It doesn't have an understanding of the best choices to make for your specific situation. /r/loseit can't tell you how you'll deal with stress the first time something really, really goes wrong. We can't tell you that you are making mistakes when you tell us that everything is fine on the surface. There are lots of things that /r/loseit can't tell you... So here's some of the things no one could tell me that I have learned:

1. Making good eating habits for any length of time doesn't turn you into a 100% healthy instagram blogger than never has cravings and talks about how much they looooooooooooooooooovvvvvvvveeeeeee raw vegetables with nothing else for lunch. There is a legitimate possibility that you may always look at a cake and think about eating the entire thing. You may always have cravings. You may always have an addiction... And it's important to come to terms with that, especially as someone who was formerly super morbidly obese.

2. Giving up the things you love isn't part of making sustainable choices. When I started losing weight, I gave up baking. Last year, I remembered how much I love it. I love baking and -- yes -- I love eating the results of that. When I decided to start baking again, I knew it was going to be tough and it has been. But baking isn't what fuels my binges: even though it's easier to binge because I bake, trust me... I'll eat every package of mealprep I have if it's the only thing available.

3. Saying no to 95% of the food offered to you isn't healthy or sustainable. Are you really planning on weighing your food at Thanksgiving for the rest of your life? Or eating broccoli three times a day on vacation every time you go? Are you truly going to be known as the person who never eats the potluck forever? It's important to value your goals, but it's also important to acknowledge that food is a huge part of our culture. People celebrate life with food, people find solace regarding death from food, people discuss business over food, people spend time with their families and friends through food. Since I stopped saying no at every single potluck and wall of samples I have had the pleasure of trying so many new things that I never would have gotten to try at home. Work functions surrounding food are a lot less stressful now as well and I am learning how to make positive decisions and still enjoy myself.

4. Just because you are losing weight and eating above the caloric minimums doesn't mean you are making healthy choices -- mentally or nutritionally.

5. This one is painful for me to say, but I also think it's important. Don't let your only friends be people whose only shared interests with you are weightloss. I learned in the worst possible way how important this is and I can't stress to you enough: you are so much more than your weightloss. You are a human being with your own interests, hobbies, and achievements. Weightloss is just one piece of who you are. Don't let it consume you.

This is a scary post for me to write, because it addresses some pretty awful events that I have been apart of in the past few months. However, I know it's been a while since I posted... And I feel ready. Even though it's important to take time to yourself to think about what's going on with your weightloss, it's definitely important just to talk about it as well.

Remember, /r/loseit can't see your future for you. We can't always give you the best advice for your situation... But maybe sharing the current pieces of my story can do a little bit to help someone who didn't realize they needed it.

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