Hello reddit,
I'm worried for my partner, I'm not supportive of surgery as well
Reasons being that my partner has a very unhealthy relationship with food, binge eating whenever they have an emotional response to anything, spending our grocery money on those binges instead.
They want to lose weight but not put in the effort, they can't keep up with a diet, they can't keep up with exercise, they don't have any self-discipline sadly.
And my partner also asked if I could help them not snack and such, so our household has stopped snacking, we're eating healthy, I'm portioning their food, but they get mad at me for restricting their access to snacks, and whenever I find them in the kitchen snacking on something and I take it away from them? Pissed off and it's all my fault.
I try and keep them on a exercise schedule (once per week to aquarobics for now) and even that is a battle.
They expect surgery to be a magic thing, where after they've got the surgery everything will be easy, but I feel they're extremely misguided in that viewpoint, you've got to put in the work now already and change the relationship with food, deal psychologically with the food addiction before even thinking about scalpels and life altering surgeries.
They're also depressed and have emotion-regulation problems, they're suicidal as well, highly obsessive, and are susceptible to psychosis as well, they're on lorazepam and risperidone which absolutely do not help with losing weight either.
I've been trying to say they should look into something less invasive like a gastric balloon while they get psychological help first, but they're dead-set on the surgery because "nothing else has ever worked or will ever work"
Their oldest kid isn't supportive either, the father of their youngest isn't either, the parents aren't supportive, and it's all because we know how they are with food, and their unwillingness to put in the actual legwork.
I'm also extremely worried about the complications and side effects, mainly dumping syndrome, the loose skin, and possible complications that require surgery, and the mental effects those complications and side effects will have on someone who's already suicidal and unstable.
AITA?
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