Why do people ask you "how did you do it" and then proceed to tell you that you are wrong/ignore you/tell you what actually works?

Hi everyone,

Long story short, I went from morbid obesity and approaching death with NAFLD to now being a few pounds away from no longer being obese. (CICO and increased exercise)

Because of the massive weight loss, I *constantly* have overweight (obese like I was) coworkers asking me "how I did it".

These conversations virtually always follow the same pattern.

Just the other day, I had a coworker ask me for the like the tenth time "how I did it" like the answer will change on the tenth time asking. I explain to her again that she needs to go on a calorie calculator online and input her personal variables. Then, she needs to eat at the deficit provided.

She tells me that I am wrong and that will not cause weight loss. (despite the fact she has seen first hand that I have experienced drastic weight loss.....)

She completely ignores what I say and starts telling me about how she bought a $3000 treadmill but doesn't have the motivation to use it. I tell her that she doesn't have to have a $3000 treadmill to lose weight and really doesn't even have to exercise at all if she can't bring herself to do it. I tell her exercise will make it easier/faster, but CICO is all it takes at the end of the day. She looks at me like I am a liar.

Then she tells me that she has a plan to "eat a salad only" for five days, then go back to her previous way of eating. I explain to her that CICO is a long term (really, lifetime) way of eating, that a week isn't enough time, that going back to her current way of eating would just immediately reverse the progress, that one salad only per day is likely such an extreme deficit she would suffer malnutrition if she made it a long term thing somehow.

Then she looks at me and is like "Well what do YOU eat". I tell her what my typical meals are like each day, but tell her that it is extremely unlikely that following my meals will work for her. I try to explain that I am a 6 foot tall male, in my mid 30s, at a totally different weight than her, who exercises daily and that she is a 4' 11" female in her 50s that never exercises, and that it is likely our calorie numbers will be drastically different.

She looks at me like a deer in the headlights and seems completely incapable of understanding that concept and changes the subject. I again suggest that she at least goes on the calorie calculator to at least get an idea of her numbers (she still hasn't done this at all). She tells me she won't because "I don't know how to calculate things".

I have countless other stories that go along this exact same manner with countless other people. It makes no sense to me? Why even bother asking if you are going to say I am wrong/ignore what I say/or tell me you know better despite the fact I have demonstrated huge weight loss success?

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Tuesday, 08 September 2020? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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It’s true, you don’t HAVE to exercise to lose weight. But maybe you should anyway.

Tl;Dr: Lost a bunch of weight, felt ok. Started weight training and intense cardio. Feel amazing.

My weight loss journey is far from linear. But overall, I had gone from 207 lbs. (93.9 kilos) to 173.7 lbs. (78.8 kilos) by December 2019. I’m 1.59 cms.

In January, my ex broke up with me, and the relief started a self care period. Since then, I managed to get to 132.3 lbs (60 kilos), just by tweaking my diet and taking walks. But my weight loss slowed down, because I was essentially eating at maintenance. CICO, after all.

A little over a month ago, I got spurned. Badly. And because I have ADHD, I had all this mental energy I just couldn’t channel productively. So I decided to hit the gym hard, so I had something to focus on, and to tire myself out.

I now weigh 125.2 lbs (56.8 kilos), but more impressive than the weight loss, is how I feel. It has become so...easy to just exist. Move. Jump. Stand up. Climb stairs. Hold items. Last night, I got up from a bench, and while I haven’t had to use my hands in a while, now it was just ridiculously easy. In fact, it was so easy, I did it again, and then again, and again, and then about 5 times in a row, just up and down.

My body is changing, as I am apparently one of those rare women who do develop muscle very quickly (some women are afraid of weight training because it will make them bulky. It usually won’t. It is making me a little bulky, not gonna lie) and I love it. I won’t become an avid weigh lifter, but this new body, with muscles that can hold me up and push me forwards, it’s incredible.

So, to lose weight, you don’t have to exercise. But the really fun part, the getting fit part, you do need to work out for. But it can become a lot of fun, and the new things you’ll be able to do, or do with more ease, holy crap dude. It’s amazing. Oh, and toning up is great to see happening, it’s so visible now that I’ve lost the weight.

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20M SW:122kg(269lbs) CW:93.6kg(206lbs) GW:90kg(198.5lbs)

Hello, i am 20M and have been overweight most of my teenage life. Tried losing weight a number of times before but never had enough will power to pull through. Then i found this subreddit and was just reading it on my way to school each day and something clicked in me. i got home, stepped on a scale and decided that i want to lose weight for real now.

i started calorie counting and using a food scale. If you do not own a food scale then go out and purchase one. Its a must. i must confess that i was undereating at first because i wanted to see the progress but now i preety much eat whatever i want in moderation. my current BMI is 25.1 and "normal" BMI is 24.9. something about beeing so close to "NORMAL" in a very long time makes me want to keep going and gives me motivation.

also i havent really been exercising a lot, just random walks with a friend but i am plan on getting a gym membership one i get my paycheck. my friend is kinda pushing me towards the gym since we want to start together and its nice to have some company while training.

i have lost 28.4kg(62.5lbs) in about 5-6 months.

just wanted to share my story in case it helps someone.

Thanks to this subreddit and you amazing people i gained motivation for my weight loss journey and ill be forever thankful.

Sorry for format, am on mobile and english is not my first language so bare with me.

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My friends behaviour changed after I told her about my weight loss.

I'm a 5'1, 18 year old female. I've struggled with my body image since 6th grade (Around 12 year old).

I've been slightly overweight all my life mainly due to me resorting to food as comfort from my depression.

I've tried losing weight for years and had some success in 9th grade (14 year old) and kept it off for a good time. In 11th grade I got into my first relationship and changed schools. Sadly the relationship was extremely toxic and I lost a lot of friends which pushed me further into depression.

I missed a couple of my periods and after a trip to the doctor I found out i had Hypothyroidism which also led to my rapid weight gain despite me constantly doing 2 hour high intensity workouts everyday.

Before I knew it I was overweight again. By a good margin. After my breakup last December I had my finals and resorted to food for comfort again.

I weighed myself at the beginning of quarantine and it came out to a whopping 160.9 pounds (73 kgs). My ex had bodyshamed me constantly throughout our relationship saying I was so fat no one would even want to look at me.

I decided that things needed to change. If I wanted to get better and feel better and healthier I needed to lose weight. I started exercise and maintaining a calorie deficit. I didnt tell anyone about it except my best friend who is so proud and supportive.

I've lost about 33 pounds (kgs) till now, my goal is to lose 11 pounds (5 kgs) more.

I have started feeling more confident about my body now. I dress up quite often and take pictures of myself quite often and Im getting a little bit more comfortable with wearing crop tops now. :)

Now this is where the problem comes in. My other good friend used to constantly point out when I was gaining weight. She even mentioned it to my then boyfriend that I needed to lose weight and how i kept "blowing up" and looked like a fat old woman? (This sounds so much meaner than when she initially said it) She said that she was worried about my health.

I hit puberty way before anyone else did. So had like a C cup since I was in 7th and now it has grown to a DD cup. One time she asked me how I grew my boobs because she wanted bigger boobs (Shes a B or a C cup) I was confused and replied with its just genetic and honestly its painful for my back and its so much more of a hassle than regular sized boobs. (I didnt want her to feel bad). She kept pressuring me to tell her how so I just told her to massage them so she'd just drop the conversation? After that I gave her a long long talk about body positivity and how she has a great body and how she shouldnt compare it to others at all. How shes fit and looks good and all that because shes gorgeous and shouldnt feel insecure about her body like this.

She is more on the skinny size and has always been complimented and praised for her looks. Even after my weightloss journey is complete she will be much skinnier than me and her weight would still be less than me and on any day she has a long list of guys who are chasing after her and not me (I prefer it this way) this makes me think that this is not a jealousy issue. My goal isnt to be skinny or get more guys my goal is to feel good about myself and be healthy (mentally and physically) so that my medical condition doesnt stop me from living a good life.

Since she used to point it out all the time when I was gaining weight I thought shed be happy to know that I lost weight so I told her I lost 33 pounds (15 kgs) and I told her I expected her to notice to which she replied that she did but just thought I had lost a small amount. She didnt sound happy about it and just..sort of brushed it off and went cold?

She used to compliment me a lot when I used to send her pictures earlier (like A LOT) she used to hype me up all the time. She has stopped doing it now and whenever I send her pictures in different outfits which I wasnt confident to wear earlier she just replies with a word and two or just ignores it. If we are having a normal conversation and if I mention anything about my stomach getting flatter or how happy I am after losing another pound she just goes cold and starts giving one word replies. My best friend suggests that it might be jealousy but I dont get why she would be jealous of me? She gets more guys she gets more compliments shes so much more fitter than K am and I hype her up so much because I want to not because I feel like I should. I dont get why she would be jealous of me? I dont think its jealousy cause quite honestly i look the same as I used to before. I dont understand why her behaviour would change like this and only when I talk about MY body. I've seen my other friends talk about losing weight in front of her and shes so supportive towards them.

Idk why I feel really bad about this whole thing? I've stopped talking about my weight in front of her at all. But I dont get why would her behaviour change like this all of a sudden. What can I do to make things better between us?

(Also sorry for the punctuation I'm too lazy to fix it :p)

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Today it hit me: I barely recognise myself.

After a shocking month last month and feeling rather anxious about going into September, I discovered today that I’m someone entirely different.

I’d been walking around with this mentality that I hadn’t changed that much. How could I have? It’s only been a few months since I started this journey. I thought “I still eat badly sometimes and it’s not like I do serious exercise or anything”. But I caught myself in the mirror at the pool and I had to do a double take. I genuinely thought “Who is that?”

On a physical level, I saw it. The difference. The improved skin, the muscle tone, the actual change in my size that my measurements said I had but I, mentally, never acknowledged.

Behind the physical, I was glowing and looking confident. At the POOL. In a SWIMSUIT. For the second time that day and for the millionth time this week. I couldn’t believe it and I still can’t. It got me thinking beyond just the smaller size: I couldn’t believe the breakfast I had (the fact that it was BALANCED and that I EAT breakfast now), or how I crave vegetables all the time. I could always demolish a salad now. My mindfulness and awareness of my health and my passion to IMRPOVE it astounds me. Baffles me! If anyone had told me this was what I’d be at 21, I’d have laughed.

This part isn’t hugely weight loss related, more lifestyle, fitness and health related: but I got slightly emotional. After last year being another rock bottom year, I didn’t have much hope for 2020. Then with quarantine, I thought “ah shit...here we go again”. But that didn’t happen. Instead, I’m standing here at the lightest weight (70kg - holy shit) and fittest I’ve ever been. I care about my health, I’m 2 years clean and a year sober. I didn’t give up and I didn’t back out - I pushed through. I can’t believe it.

I’m not super sure what this post is supposed to be but, I guess, I’m just elated and wanted to share. I don’t know if there’s anyone else out there struggling but I guess I want to say that, you’ll get there. I never thought this would be my life but here we are. 2020 is the year for thriving it seems! Whoever needs to hear it, you gotta stick it out and it’ll be worth it. Promise.

Thanks for listening and now, excuse me while I happy cry on my bus ride home :,)

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I've suddenly found myself unnaturally fixated on food.

I recently came to realization than I have become obsessed with all things weight loss, food, nutrition and low calorie recipes. I catch myself spending hours down this rabbit hole of success stories and advice every single day. It suddenly hit me when I scrolled all the way down my YouTube recommend videos and every last one of them was related to food. Mukbangs, loseitnarwhals videos, recipes, people trying different diets and etc. I definitely used to have hobbies or at least spend my time in a different way but I just find it so hard to snap myself out of it.

Despite being very aware of calories and all that I still find myself overeating way too often. It's been two weeks of pure gluttony and I know it's really gonna bite me in the butt... Does anyone else find that the more they think about weight loss, the harder it is to stick to it?

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