Weight loss or how I became the "Sk8er boi"

Good morning folks!

It truly is unbelievable to me. Last summer I weighed almost 110kgs. I started in the middle of march 2021 with my journey at 103kgs and now I lost about 30lbs / 14kgs. In my mind I heard a click. I just did not want to be fat anymore. I held a milka chocolate egg in my hand, looked at the calories and realised, that I was able to eat 4 of those in one sitting. No wonder I was big.

Now I am fluctuation between 89 and 88kg at 179cm height (25yo, male). I did this by first counting calories (LoseIt app), started running at 92kgs and now I am going to the gym 1-3 times a week. Since middle school I haven't been at that weight (And I was not as tall back then). I am really riding a wave of joy right now. I have never felt better, physically and mentally. And I thought I could never make it this far, but this really is the proof that anybody can do it, if I can do it! Don't let yourself down, know what you want, focus on that and control the things that you can control.

The pandemic, stupid decisions in the past and isolation kept me from becoming the better me. I realised mid April that I cannot control those things. And if I wanted to start to become happy, I had to look for things that I could alter. But where to start? I stopped caring about the news, toxic people that let me down and all the bad things that happen in my life that are out of my reach and are unchangable. And so I started to take a look at myself and what I was able to change! I picked up the cello again, learned to spend time by myself without anxiety and the fear of being left out and finally had stuff to do! My weightloss journey really is my manifestation of change for the better. I lost my weight, but I gained so much. I started reading some books about self-improvement, psychology (especially Victor E. Frankl) and stoic philosophy and here I am. I have not finished yet and my journey is still long. But for the first time my arbitrary goal at 78kgs is in reach (just because it would be at 25 BMI).

People are noticing the differences in my looks and my confidence and that is a great boost to my self-consciousness. When I look in the mirror, for the first time I don't want to barf but I think that I start to look handsome. The greatest compliment I got was from a girl. I told her about my true feelings for her last summer, when I was obese. She rejected me back then and two months ago she said that she was envious of me and that she could not go on being my friend if I got a girlfriend. Something something sk8er boi, see you later boy. Thing is, this happened when I did not reach my goal yet, so what will happen when I reach my goal? It will only get better. I just have to be as nice as possible to everybody around me. Life is a struggle and I do not want make life any more difficult for anybody else (especially not for the girl - I just try to keep my distance now).

I have been following this community since mid March, since I started and this is my first post here (I had a big laugh about the guy that posted that his dick got bigger (which I can confirm)). My gratitude to all of you and this positivity will help me keep my promise to myself. The journey will never end though. I will probably never stop counting calories, just because I don't want to fall back into my old self and I want to keep on improving myself as long as I can. The weight loss journey never has been only about the fat or the weight or my looks. It is about everything, about finally becoming the person that I want to be and to become alright with myself, because in the end the person you spend the most time with, is you. If you are unhappy with yourself, change it. Become better, lose it. Become healthy!

Thank you for reading and sorry for my weird language (english is not my first language) :)

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[NSV] Told my boyfriend my weight today and didn't even feel scared! The mindset it took to get me here and some thoughts on overcoming hangups

My stats: 25F 5'3" SW:148 CW:139 LW:132 GW:110

I've been dating my boyfriend for about two years now. I'm currently a few pounds down from the weight I was when I first met him, but a few pounds up from the lowest weight I've been since then. Throughout that whole time, I've never felt comfortable talking to him about my weight (not that he pushed or seemingly cared, but it would occasionally come up). I absolutely would have never given him a number. The few times he did ask, I felt anxious and panicky and wouldn't say it.

Even at my lowest weight, 5+ pounds down from where I am now, I didn't feel comfortable telling him, even though I was so proud of myself then! I guess I worried that it would make him see me differently, or I hoped that maybe he had a lower estimate in his mind that I didn't want to override.

But today it came up in conversation. We were talking about weightlifting, and I asked him if he could estimate how much I might hypothetically be able to lift (I've never seriously tried it before), so he asked me what my weight was (so he could estimate, I guess), and I told him! Just like that! I literally didn't even hesitate. I figured that, hey, he knows what I look like, I feel proud of how far I've come, and that he cares about more than just my weight (he honestly probably doesn't care at all).

This would have even just recently felt like an impossibility. In order to get here, I think the big step was realizing that my current journey says more about me than the number on the scale does and that I should base my self-image more on my actions rather than on my immediate outcomes. Which is something I NEVER thought I'd say! I used to see people write stuff like that on here and think it was BS because for me, the scale absolutely mattered and I wanted to see specific numbers.

I would encourage anyone reading this to consider what hangups they might potentially have surrounding their own numbers, and consider whether or not those mental models are accurate and beneficial towards achieving their ultimate end goals. For example, as a kid who loved K-pop, I grew up with hangups about someday wanting to be 110 lbs because 50kg was supposedly the ideal weight for female idols. But as I grew more interested in running and other athletic endeavors, I realized that this fixation on reaching that number made me shy away from activities that would build muscle. How messed up is that? Lately, I've been seeking more inspiration in the other women I see on my regular running trails. This feels much healthier, more sustainable, and less tied up in a bunch of childhood baggage.

Which numbers matter to you? Where do those numbers come from? How much influence do you want those numbers and/or their associations to have on you? For example, if you have hangups about X because your sister always weighed X, or about Y because Y was your college weight, I would urge you consider if you want to let your envy of your sister have that much of a role in your psyche, or if you're avoiding discovering new potential happy weights as you age because you're struggling with come to terms with no longer being young.

And again, don't get me wrong--I think the number on the scale is a really valuable metric and that paying attention to it can be and often is a hugely powerful tool in maintaining our psyche during the weight loss process. But it's limited in that it can backfire on you. It can lead to shame and embarrassment, which while in the moment can sometimes feel like just the slap in the face we need, and thus can inspire immediate action, their initial power fades fast. Weight loss takes a long time and requires you to maintain a disciplined mindset pretty consistently--how far do you think painful emotions like those can carry you?

Focusing on the positive (or perhaps more realistically: neutral) associations we can have with the scale is going to be more effective than hoping the negative emotions it can cause us will make us finally behave. The negative emotions fail us because of the fact that humans generally seek to act in ways that reinforce our own self-perception (i.e. we like to have a consistent self). In other words, if you feel bad about yourself every day, then you're going to act on behaviors that make you feel like it is appropriate to feel bad about yourself. It's not just that going over your calorie limit can you make you feel like a failure, but also that thinking of yourself as a failure can cause you to act in ways that will reinforce that self-perception--i.e. going over your calorie limit yet again because subconsciously you think "fuck it, I'm that kind of person anyway" or "that's just who I am."

TL;DR In summary, I felt more comfortable telling my boyfriend my weight because I (a) had accumulated enough wins to feel pride at my accomplishments and (b) started working through some of the baggage I had regarding certain numbers. It might be helpful to learn more about the hangups you might have and try to heal from them because otherwise those hangups can influence our actions in unhelpful ways.

When did you finally feel comfortable sharing your weight? Would love to know how others may have healed in similar ways, other tips or things they've learned, etc.

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I go to the gym, I gave up alcohol. Why can't I lose weight?

M 29 5'6 175. GW: 145.

I gained about 20 pounds in the first few months of the pandemic because I lost my active job, stayed home all day, ordered take out a ton and drank alcohol most nights. I finally started going to the gym again 5ish months ago and generally do a Push/Pull/Legs routine 3 days a week and then some occasional yoga. I use MFP to track calories and a month ago I started using a spread sheet so I can see that my average daily calories are 1,600-2,200, with a goal of 1,500. I've also cut out alcohol completely for the past 14 days.

Now after all that. I've lost 1 pound. I know Im getting stronger at the gym and I'm seeing some minor results, but its incredibly upsetting that I'm about 6 months in to my fitness/weight loss journey with no change. I really thought once I quit drinking then the pounds would fly off, like it was the one thing holding me back. Now I just dont know what else to do. I already think my calories make sense for a man who works out.

The only things I can think of that might change anything are -Maybe calorie counts are not accurate (i use a scale at home but eat out 2-3 times a week), - Maybe I need more protein (I get 90-100ish daily), -Maybe I just need to walk more.

I just dont understand what isnt working.

EDIT: I weigh in once a week and take a picture and measure my belly. I do feel better in general. But measurements havent changed.

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My Experience so Far Rant type thing (Advice Welcome)

20m SW: 330 (originally probably more) CW: 320 Minor goal weight: 300 Major goal weight: 220 Serious journey time: < 1month

Sorry if I sound harsh in some of my language used. I used to be involved in a lot of sports even though I was over weight but quit when I got to high school and am kicking myself for not sticking with it and maintaining a better weight.

I have talked about starting my weight loss journey for a long time. I have hated the way I looked (mainly the weight department) for a while and during high school it worked out fine because I devoted time to school, work, and even taking college classes my senior year instead of dating because I felt I wasn't worth it for anyone.

I started at a 4yr college at the end of 2019. I ran out of things to devote my life. I felt empty inside and even though I had friends, I put on more like a freshman 25. I finally was feeling not so empty and then Covid hit. So I started working at a warehouse and lost a little weight but now felt empty alone from not seeing my friends anymore. I had bought a scale but didn't use it or do anything outside of work. 2020 started and I was stressed out with online classes and not being able to hang out with everyone I wanted to, I started eating to fill the void (again).

Classes ended I went back to my hometown for the summer and that is where things snapped. I started going to the gym with my dad on the day or two he would go and worked out on my own one other day of the week but was still eating like crap so I made very little progress. This past Sunday 7/11, I snapped fully with the hatred for my weight and laziness to fix my issue. I put on a shirt I had bought at the start of the school year and it didn't fit like it did before.

I decided to cut out all unnecessary eating (three meals a day and maybe fruit, vegetables, nuts after dinner) and limit myself to no more than one soda a day. I also started drinking water instead of eating anytime I felt hungry between meals. I also started to workout on my own every day for 30min to an hour working mostly on core unless I am going to the gym where I do a 30 to 45 minute mostly upper and legs.

Even since I have started working out I have felt better and more confident. I've kind of adapted a "you can do x so you can do unrelated y" mentality (if that makes sense) and started pushing the boundaries of being introverted as well. I never would have made a post like this before but since I'm making changes to me now might as well make one more, I guess.

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I am going to try make posts regularly to give me another reason to work towards my goals. Not sure what to put in those but I'll cross that bridge when I get there I guess.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Wednesday, 14 July 2021? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

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Welcome to r/Loseit!

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So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

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Why you’re overweight

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Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

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Before You Start

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The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

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Tracking

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Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

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Creating Your Deficit

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How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

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The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

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Exercise

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Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

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It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel *awesome* and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

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Crawl, Walk, Run

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It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

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Acceptance

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You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

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Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

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Additional resources

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Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!

* Lose It Compendium - Frame it out!

* FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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How do you stay motivated on your weight loss journey?

I'm in a mental place right now that I'm desperate to start my weight loss journey, but beginning it is just so hard.

I'm 84kg last time I checked at 24F / 5'5, so definitely overweight. I work full time at an office job 8-4 five days a week. I spend about 80% of work time sitting on my ass. I have a horse and I try to ride him every day during the week, but it's winter right now so every now and then it's too wet to ride. There's a gym nearby, but I can't afford a membership on my income right now, but they have an indoor pool that I can pay $10 for 40 minutes to do laps, which I've tried to do on weekends. Eating wise, my partner and I are doing a meal service in our country called Lite n Easy because we don't really know how to cook as well as the apartment we're renting the stove is actually terrible, so we're eating healthy during the week thanks to that, but we get Uber Eats on Fridays to Sundays due to convenience which we're picking some not always healthy options. I definitely do not drink as much water as I should, but I don't feel thirsty enough throughout the day to drink the recommended amount so I never do.

My issue right now is motivation. I have this mental thing going where I'm sitting at work, pumping myself up mentally to go to the shops and get some good food, do meal prepping and counting calories, go ride my horse and go swimming to get fit, picturing what I'd look like thin, fit and healthy. But then all the lazy thoughts come the moment I clock off of work -- "you've been working 8 hours today and all week, you deserve your night, go home and watch Netflix" ; "30 minutes is an annoying drive through rush hour to see the horse, go another night" ; "cooking is hard and the stove at home is sucky, start eating healthy all the time when we find the new house in a few months" ; "you deserve a cheat day after eating healthy all week and it's Friday! Treat yourself with some Maccas. You know you deserve that Quarter Pounder". I even splurged on the new Fitbit so it could help me get fit, but right now it's only a glorified digital watch and a sleep tracker.

I know these are all excuses and I know I'm sabotaging myself. I know that I shouldn't have these excuses and I know many of you reading this are probably like, "clearly she isn't truly dedicated to getting fit with all these excuses". But I do want to get fit! I really do! I want my boyfriend to be able to carry me without worrying about him pitching forward and dropping us both or breaking something. I want to be comfortable sitting on him without having to worry about crushing his legs. I want to walk without watching fat jiggle around me. I want to be able to do anything without being short of breath. I want to be able to go shopping and not have to worry about things being in my size. I want to be able to ride my horse around a course without having to stop halfway through because I can't keep up with the stamina needed to finish. I want to fit in my saddle properly, and I want to look good in riding clothes without my muffin top stomach spilling out of my breeches. I want to wear a fucking bikini and crop tops and skirts and jeans where my legs look good! I want to look good! I want to feel good! I just want to be good. I don't want to end up like my sister who is 27 and morbidly obese. I don't want to be like my dad who is also morbidly obese who can't even see his toes when he tries to look past his bulging belly. I don't want to be like that.

I don't know how to be motivated, because everything I've said in the previous paragraph should be motivation enough! But the laziness is just so...strong. My laziness is like a brick wall I can't get over.

I don't know where to start.

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50 pounds lost. My story

It has indeed been a journey.

This is my story, I am a 16 year old that used to be overweight almost my entire life, this always really affected me in my self esteem, and my confidence. I remember at the very start of quarantine I started to workout and eat in a deficit.

I started my weight loss journey when I used to be 14 years old, I remember the day I weighed myself and I saw that 95kg, (I used to be 5'8-5'9, so that made it worse) I wanted to cry. I used to be bullied because I used to be the fat kid at school, didn't think twice about my health, about my appearance, and about my relationship with food.

I can now proudly say I have ended my weight loss joruney with 50 pounds lost, and I feel better than ever! I did this alone, no paid coach, no nothing, I just one day wanted to change my lifestyle, and this has been the best decision I have ever made!

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