Please seek Help. Dieting does not change your brain. ♥

There have been a series of strikingly similar posts that center around the concept of :

• Suddenly people are noticing my body and (I don't like it) (They are weird) (stop!)
• My family / friends / coworkers are being aggressively different with me
• I'm in a relationship and my partner is sabotaging me
• I'm in a relationship and my partner no longer finds my weight acceptable

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Dieting more, less, changing it up, adding weights, etc. That's not going to solve your issues entirely. It might plug the hole in the wall for a bit - but ultimately what you're worried about is still on the other side.

Therapy is not just for 'big things'. Therapy can help you manage your feelings of helplessness, worthlessness and anxiety around your weight loss concerns. Turning in circles, asking for advice can be helpful for a while but ultimately you need the right mentality to tackle your life and keep moving forward.

I know financially many people are in difficult positions. Some countries offer free therapy under medicare / medicaid. For people who have a small amount of money, there are sites like Betterhelp. For those with no money there are sites like 7 Cups that offer 100% free counselling.

By no means am I saying 'shaddup we don't need these posts!'.I'm saying, please, take care of your brain as well as your body and find a comfortable way of hitting back at negativity and a personal narrative that keeps you strong and safe.

Ok, sorry to anyone who didn't want to hear it. Hopefully people who needed to can use some of the sites I mentioned to explore options.

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Um. Thanks!

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You don’t need to be at your goal to be happy. I promise you will feel infinitely better with any amount of progress. Start today.

If you are like a lot of people on this sub you have a lot of weight to lose. And if you have like a lot of people on this sub, it’s your first time trying to lose weight and it’s terrifying. I’m going to use myself as an example.

A few years ago I had over 100 pounds to lose. I didn’t know how to do it I didn’t know how long it was gonna take but I knew it was gonna take a long time and it was going to suck. That was all I was telling myself. This is going to take forever and it’s going to be terrible. But when I hit that 100 pound mark I’ll feel amazing and be healthy.

What I didn’t realize was that as soon as I started eating better (and my damn sugar cravings went away) I felt better. I lost 5 pounds and I felt better. I lost 10 pounds and I went down a size in my pants, I could run easier. I could work out more and I can use my body in a way I never had before. I went down 20 pounds and I felt like I had conquered the world. I went down 25 pounds and I started wearing crop tops. I wasn’t even halfway to my goal and I felt like a whole new person. The only thing that I was kicking myself for was not starting sooner and convincing myself that this was an impossible journey.

And once you lose a little bit of weight and you see the scale go down and not come back up you realize that you can do it. If you do a little you can do a lot. The amount of time doesn’t matter anymore, because OH MY GOD it’s working.

Don’t use that big number as an excuse to not do it, because you’re going to feel so great even 10% of the way there. Go easy on yourself. You can do it.

I’m on my next weight loss journey and I have 60 pounds to lose, I’m already down 8 and I am feeling unstoppable.

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Anyone else despise the effects periods have on weight loss momentum and overall body changes?

I lost 65lbs so far, have 20 more to go to my goal weight of 165lbs. I’m a 5’10” woman.

About a week or so before my period, I notice the scale freezes. I’ve been circling around 185-187lbs for the past 10 days. I normally lose at least 1.5-2lbs per week the rest of the month. Regardless of any changes I attempted (ran more, increased my fasting window, etc), nothing moves the scale and I feel bloated as hell.

I understand it’s normal and whatnot but it’s so, so frustrating. What do y’all do in these times? Do y’all stick to the same habits or make adjustments?

Also, if it matters — I am not using any birth control, which may affect hormonal levels. (Husband had a vasectomy).

Rant over!

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Slow weight loss and nobody notices

I’ve slowly lost 49 pounds over close to 10 months. (I know it’s not good and I should’ve lost way more by now but I’m fat and it’s hard) My stomach is huge and is covered in layers and layers of fat so there aren’t many changes at all if any. It takes me forever to go down a size in clothes and no one really notices my weight loss even my mom said it wasn’t that noticeable cause I’m doing it slowly. I thought it was just my body dysmorphia taking its toll on me cause I suffer with it daily but I guess it’s really the truth cause my mom said there was no difference cause I’m not doing it fast. I mean what’s the point in putting in all of this work for no one to even notice, my clothes to fit tight, and to feel like trash in my own skin? I’ve put in way too much work on my body and mind to get here and it doesn’t even make a difference…it sucks

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Seeing all that loose skin made my skin crawl... literally

This post has absolutly no reason besides venting into the void.

I lost so much weight, worked my ass off for years. Im working out 6 days a week, 70 to 90 minutes. I am around 156 pounds, maintaining my weight by eating a lot on the weekend. I needed to maintain my weight in order to start trying getting those skin removal surgerys paid by my insurance.

For this I visited a clinic 4 weeks ago. The doctor looked at my body, a friend of mine was with me. Im mentally pretty strong, but this thing man...

To say, that im stressed out because of the whole skin situation would be an understatement. I always knew how bad it must look. I mean im not stupid - just because I wear glasses doesnt mean I dont see the flabby belly, my arms and my legs. That doctor was nice. And to make my suffering and emberassment even worse, that doctor was Handsome. I will never ever in my life forget, when we spoke about my none existing boobs and to lift them up, how he grabbed them and rolled them up like a friggin Sushi roll. And he was like "Well, they would be a bit smaller, but fitting for your small frame!" Thanks doc. At least I have a small frame, fitting for my Sushi roll boobs.

In the same clinic they took pictures from me, completly naked. I knew those pictures would be horrible, which is good, right? If it looks terrible the insurance is likely to say: "Crap, look at that shit. We should pay so we dont have to look at this anymore."

Fast forward two weeks, I get an USB Stick with those pictures. Im to afraid to look at them, so I put the stick away. Today i recieved my appraisal. Looked good, the doctor wrote everything i hoped for. So today was the first time im looking at those pictures of myself. And god damn, I was horrified. I always thought: "Well the back or the legs cannot be that bad, right?" Wrong. Everything is bad, absolutly everything. I remember somebody in this sub called himself a "melted candle" and to be absolutly honest, im the pinacle of this. Looking at this, I really am surprised how I am able to work out like this. No fucking surprise my back hurts like crazy after my sport. No fucking surprise, after 6 days of working out that hard constantly I feel like crap.

Seeing those pictures raises the question: Do i regret loosing all that weight? No. For sure not. Even with that skin, even with the pain... I still feel better. I mean I was in pain before as well, but at least I can move now. No diabetes anymore. I can do stuff, without thinking about EVERYTHING.

Man, I was thinking about sharing some of my skin pictures in case I get those surgerys. But now im afraid even a NSFW tag is not suitable for this.

Im sorry guys, this post is just me venting - I dont have any other void or pool of people who could understand the struggles I go through. If you are reading this: Thank you - I will keep you guys posted as soon as I get a reply from my insurance. Fingers crossed.

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TL:DR: I look like a melted candle but it was still worth the weight loss.

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Advice for avoiding loose skin?

5 lbs down, 75 to go… and a very vain fear of mine is that I (33F) will have lots of loose skin at the end of all this. I’m losing weight at a healthy rate- about 1-2 lbs a week, and I’m making an effort not to let it go faster because I know that can have a bad effect on the overall results. I want this to be sustainable.

I know excess loose skin may just come down to genes, but has anyone else encountered this same issue/fear on their weight loss journey? especially if you’ve had to lose about 80lbs total?

My stats: 33F, SW:225, GW: 145

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Any tips for losing weight without allowing it to consume your life?

I’ve actively losing weight for a few months, but I’m finding it consumes every thought. Whether it’s positive thoughts about how far I’ve come, negative thoughts about never being happy in my body, or thinking about what food I’m going to have next, I’m just constantly think about it.

I know it’s becoming bad because I’ve gotten to the point where I have been considering significantly dropping my calories (I’m currently in a 500 cal deficit) just so I can lose the weight and “be done.” Whenever I have these thoughts, I remind myself that weight loss is slow and I have to accept that. I have pushed off other goals, events, having fun all to focus on my big goal of losing weight. Also, I have about 3 events in August where it’ll be impossible to carefully track and count calories and I’ve been stressed about what to do (though I know I should just enjoy the event and move on).

Does anyone have advice on making weight loss less of a focus in my life? I’ve considered taking a break from the scale to really just focus on making good food a daily habit and not focus on the actual loss. But I’m terrified that I will unknowingly not lose. I’ve also considered taking what I learned and ditch calories counting. But again I am scared to not lose because I really do want to lose weight.

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