My mom is overweight, I need help how to support her.

Hi all, I'm not sure if this is the correct way to go about this but I am at a loss and I just want to be a support or aid in helping my mom to lose weight. My mother is about 320~ pounds, and is diabetic which I know adds in another layer to this.

My mom struggles to get herself up out of most sitting situations, and usually does not move throughout the day unless it is to go to the bathroom. My heart breaks for her and I want her so badly to enjoy her retirement to the fullest extent. I can tell she is on the cusp of being fed up and wanting to make a change. She has made small breakthroughs prior to this (getting on the peleton, walking on the treadmill for a few minutes, etc), and is currently using apps to count calories.

I myself am going through my own weight loss journey and I understand that until you yourself want to do it, you cannot be forced to. I will be moving back in with them for a few months next year and I want to do anything and everything I can to help encourage her during that time. She makes remarks about herself and knows that she needs to lose weight but always says working out hurts, she can't do this, etc. I never ever shame her or make any comments on her weight, I only comment back when she is making crappy remarks about herself (I say things like "I know it sucks but we have to keep going to see results, if it hurts too much its okay to rest today we'll be back at it again tomorrow"). She will make about a weeks effort to work out and then gets really mad/sad and goes back to old habits.

My question to you all, is how can I support her or help move in the right direction? Do I ask her to work out with me while I'm home with them? How can I help her take her small strides and make them longer strides? Are there any specific work out tools I can buy her that will maybe not be so intense but at least can get her moving that worked for anyone here?

Thank you so much for reading, and in advance for any feedback.

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How many Premier Protein drinks can/should one drink a day?

They’re so good! And so much protein! My trainer/nutritionist says probably only one because it’s best to get your nutrients from actual food, but I’ll do that once I get to a certain point in my weight loss lol

I don’t have the time (or honestly the motivation) to cook and they’re so easy to drink. I’ve been having a hard time getting all my necessary protein in.

What do you think? I would be nice to get 60g of protein through two drinks. If not, what are your favorite easy ways to up your protein intake?

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How often / when to diet break?

Hey friends -

I've been on an extremely slow cut for the last 6 months or so (15 lbs down in that time), from around 155 at 5'5". I'm now sitting at 139-138ish and going at a pretty steady .5lbs loss per week (sometimes a little slower).

However, it's been awhile since I took my last diet break (back in Oct. for a trip to Italy, just two weeks), and I'm really starting to feel it get a little difficult to go below ~2200 cals/day (maintenance is somewhere between 2300-2500 est.) without being majorly hungry.

Since I don't have any concrete goals except be around 134 by June/July - do you guys think it's time for a longer diet break to help my metabolism/body recover from the continuous weight loss? I feel like it could be a good idea but I'm hesitant that I'm just losing willpower and should push through these last 5 lbs or so.

Happy to hear if anyone has any tips or advice!

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Vanity?

So I'm curious if anyone else has dealt with this... I recently reconnected with an old friend that I haven't seen since losing 100 lbs. I get all the normal "wow, you look so much different!" and "you lost how much?!" Can't forget "I'm so proud of you!"

While I don't judge overweight/obese people, I personally don't celebrate weight loss because my mentality is "I never should've gotten to this point anyways." Of course I enjoy hearing the compliments as it motivates me, but that's not the purpose of this post.

This friend I reconnected with and even a handful of family members have asked me how it feels to have lost so much weight, and I usually say something along the lines of "I feel less tired and looser, but in a good way." Stuff like that. And a couple of times I've been asked if I plan to lose anymore, to which I reply (sarcastically) "I still don't have a 6 pack" usually met with laughs. This friend laughed but also said "you look good now, why would you want to lose more?" And it's kinda just weird.

I'm still considered overweight for my height and have a fair amount of body fat lingering in a lot of areas. And most important, I'm still not happy with how I look/feel. I relayed that to him and he kinda said something about being shallow.

Am I shallow for thinking that way? Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you deal with people that say that kinda stuff? I didn't really say anything else because I don't know what to say, it's just confusing. Sorry if this gets posted all the time or I sounds whiny, I just wanna know how other people feel about hearing remarks like that. Thanks.

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Weight Loss Veterans Advice Post

I've had multiple usernames over the years, but I'm on my 3rd weight loss journey. The first two times were roughly 60lbs, yay babies! This time is due to medical complications.

I thought this sub may soon be flooded with new users or advice seekers. The weight loss veterans can try and add to this post to help out the new losers..

My tips:

1. When posting, seeking diet advice, include your age, height, weight, and gender. There are formulas we can help you use, but they need this information.

2. The time is going to pass anyway. You may as well use it to lose weight. Use websites like Losertown.com to project your weight loss, and you're less active than you think.

3. Speaking of activity, don't add in your activity calories or eat them back unless you're an athlete. There may come a point when you're looking to add them in, but your focus won't be weight loss at that point. It will be performance.

4. Check in on your mental health and recognize if you're getting burnt out. If you are, then take a maintenance break for a week or two. Think of it as practice for when you reach your goal.

5. If you think medication to help suppress your appetite is needed, then please talk to your doctor. You do not need the validation of anyone here. It will still take work. They will surpress your appetite, but if you eat more calories than your body uses, then you will still gain weight. There are potential side effects, temporary or permanent. This is a talk for your doctor.

6. Use a food scale. Volume measurements are notoriously inaccurate, and you can be eating twice as many calories as you thought.

7. Log your food, weigh yourself at whatever intervals you want, and have a way to make this routine. I mealprep and eat the same foods 3 or 4 days in a row. I cook less, clean less, and have to log my foods less. Does it suck if I did a bad job? Yes, but it motivated me to improve my cooking, fast.

8. Your activity will never compensate for overeating. The same way, one bad day will not ruin everything. Keep everything in perspective. It takes 3,500 kcal to gain a pound of fat. Was your binge 3,500 kcal over your TDEE? No? Then you didn't even gain a pound, but you probably do have water weight from the carbs. It will be okay. You got this.

9. If the numbers aren't adding up and your weight is remaining over weeks when you didn't add in weight lifting or the hunger is flatly painful/all-consuming, then see the doctor. Medical issues can complicate weight loss. CICO is the basic formula, but that ignores the hormones and other bodily functions going on that you should address.

Good luck!!

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My hypochondria and low self-esteem have teamed up to tell me that all my weight loss is due to undiagnosed colon cancer.

I'm having trouble accepting that I accomplished anything positive so I'm now convinced that my 50lb weight loss is just undiagnosed colon cancer and not the result of my efforts. I have put a lot of work into tracking calories but I feel like I'm not doing enough.

I do have some digestive problems and my father recently died of colon cancer. So I can't dismiss colon cancer outright. I have a colonoscopy scheduled just to be sure.

In the meantime what should I do to stop worrying about this/accept that I have accomplished something?

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Is it supposed to be this slow?

I (F, 22, 5' 9", 193lbs , GW: 165?) have finally started the journey of losing weight and improving my life!

(TL;DR down below, I realize this became a longer post than intended!)

I used to be in sports and did a lot of weight lifting for years, as well as being tall, so I understand that muscle probably accounts for a lot of my current weight. That being said, I am still overweight, and it has killed my self-esteem and confidence. I am a recovering addict as well who got used to being relatively small; getting clean has absolutely saved my life, but I have also gained a lot of weight because of it, as well as slipping back into BED which I have also been fighting for years.

For about two weeks I have been eating much cleaner, hitting my caloric deficits, and exercising most days. I am very motivated and feel great! Well.... mostly.

The swing from BED to monitoring CICO has been very difficult, mentally and physically. I am worried I was creating too high of a calorie deficit at first, which I have since corrected. I am trying so hard to do this healthily and effectively- I had a long-term partner with a very extreme ED and that was insanely scary to witness.

I have always been firmly against weighing myself, but I bought a scale to track my progress on my new journey. I weigh myself the same time every day. Annnnnnd... In two weeks... I have lost... 0.8lbs!

Yay! ....Yay?

I must admit, this was sort of a punch in the gut. I expected to have lost more. But, perhaps I am too eager or doing something wrong. For the first week of my journey I know I wasn't eating enough, which was most likely backfiring. The second week I made it a point to eat more (yet still clean and within the healthy caloric deficit), which was difficult to do, but I know it's the healthier, safer, and more sustainable thing to do. I'd much rather lose weight slower, protect my mental and physical health, and keep it off- than lose it very quickly, hurt my health, and gain it all back. I want to do this right!

Anyways. The point I'm trying to make/the questions I'm asking is: is it normal for weight loss to be at this slow of a rate? Is there anything I'm doing wrong/things I could be doing better? Lurking this sub has definitely helped my motivation and patience, so THANK YOU all for being so amazing and inspiring! We got this!!

TL;DR: Started my weight loss journey, got discouraged from not losing much weight (according to scale), looking for any advice on how to do this thing correctly! TIA :)

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