I am angry

I am in the middle of my weight loss journey and I sometimes find myself feeling so damn angry.

I am angry that so much of my self worth is tied to my weight. I am angry that people who meet me now or who have known me for the past four years only know me as overweight and that I justify to them that I was skinny before they knew me. I am angry that medication helped me to get here. I am angry that people will treat me better when I lose weight. I am angry that a lot of those people will be friends and family. I am angry that congratulations on my weight loss make me want to tell people to go fuck themselves. I am angry that gaining weight is treated as the worst thing that has happened to me. I am angry with them that I agree.

I want to lose weight for good reasons and feel healthy. But so much of the time I feel so much spite.

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Limiting Alcohol During Social Settings

Hello! I (22f, 5'5", sw: 165, cw: 158, gw: 145) recently graduated college and am in the middle of trying to loose a bit of weight from an overly celebratory senior year. Getting into full-time work, I am new to the world of post-9-5 happy hours and gatherings, 99% of which revolve around alcohol and appetizers. I can control myself around the chicken wings or nachos floating around, but I don't know what to do when the older colleagues I'm trying to impress are all holding beer/wine, even though I don't need the extra 200 cals. (A similar sticky situation emerges if a guy asks me out and suggests going to a bar for the first date.) I don't exactly want to say "I'm counting calories" when someone asks me about the ice water in my hand.

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What have you all done to avoid looking out of place on these Friday night affairs? Should I nurse one drink all night, stay firm with nothing? I want to find some happy medium between weight loss and not looking odd in front of new peers.

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From believing my metabolism was broken to finding new ways to lose weight

I’m 45/f, 5’7”, and my ideal weight range is between 135 and 125 pounds. Well, I haven’t seen the 130s since ... 2014? Maybe before that? I don’t know. Ever since, the weight has kept creeping up and up until earlier this year, my weight got up as high as 165. Before that, I’d never weighed that much except when I was 9 months pregnant with twins. It was a wake up call and I decided to make some changes.

Part of my problem has been the usual slowing of metabolism that many people experience during their middle years. Add to that some relatively minor but nonetheless disruptive medical issues and injuries experienced over the last few years, and there I was. It’s difficult to explain just how demoralizing it is when you first begin experiencing a slowing metabolism. The tried and true methods that I used to rely on when I was younger to drop weight no longer seemed to work. I’m not exaggerating when I said I’d started to believe that my metabolism was “broken” and that I’d never be able to lose weight, ever again.

The first thing I did that began to turn things around, in March, was to sign up for an online coach with Nerd Fitness. My coach designed a workout routine for me that is fun and fits my aging body and avoids injury. More importantly, through his constant monitoring and encouragement, he helped break me of some really unhealthy eating habits that I’d fallen into. (CICO is my main diet strategy, with a side helping of focus on trying to eat more of certain neglected food groups and macronutrients.) Between the beginning of March and end of May, the Nerd Fitness program was the main thing I was doing and to my delight I dropped about 10 pounds. I know for some that’s what they drop in a month or even a couple weeks, no big deal, but for me, it was huge. Those 10 pounds meant I wasn’t broken after all! I could actually lose weight, if I was only willing to be consistent over a longer period of time (compared to the shorter term investment needed to see results in my younger days). Side note: not everyone would think Nerd Fitness is worth the money, or has the money to pay for it. I’ll just say that I’m not rich, and there’s other things I could be applying that money towards, but Im fortunate that I can technically afford it and it’s been well worth it to me as an investment in my health and in improving the quality of my life.

The second thing I did was start playing VR games. Since end of May, I quit going to the gym entirely and started playing Beat Saber. (I do intend to start mixing some gym time back in, but for now, Beat Saber is my main thing.) At first it was sporadically (I think the first time I played Beat Saber was around January); then around April I started playing once or twice a week; and then finally, sometime in June I started playing pretty much every single day. I play at least an hour, every morning; usually closer to 90 or 120 minutes. I LOVE this game - I would play it even if it wasn’t an amazing workout. The fact that it’s also an amazing workout is a nice bonus.

Anyway, I’ve dropped an additional 8 pounds since I started playing Beat Saber consistently, for a grand total of 17 pounds lost. At 146 pounds, I’m only 12 pounds away from the high end of my “ideal” weight range, and on my way to having the most toned upper body that I have EVER had!

I decided to post because I want to help spread the word on VR in general for fitness and weight loss and about Beat Saber in particular. Believe the hype - VR works for weight loss!

My birthday is tomorrow. Had you told me I’d be celebrating my birthday this year in the 140s, I would not have believed you. I am so grateful.

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How close to your goal weight will you lose your love handles

I have been on my weight loss journey for just over a year. I have been slow and steady losing 55lbs in 14 months (28/M/5'5"/205->150). I started doing keto without counting calories and exercise (lifting 4xs a week and HIIT cardio 2-3xs a week). With this I lost the first 40 easily but hit a plateau. For the past month however I have started counting calories (in addition to eating keto) and added in daily ab exercises. The weight has been coming off quickly and I am still progressing at weight lifting so I am confident the weight loss is mostly from fat, not muscle.

My question is, when will these damn love handles go away? I am only 15lbs from my goal weight and while my love handles and belly have shrunk slightly, they are still there and noticeable.

Should I be seeing more drastic reductions this close to my goal weight? Should I adjust my goal weight, or maybe despite progressing at the gym am I losing more muscle than fat?

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Very tall man- eating enough calories?

Hi friends! I’m new to this sub, so my apologies if the question has already been asked!

My partner is 6’8 and around 325lbs. We have been kicking ass at the gym and lifting heavy, and his muscles are definitely more defined than when we started 6 months ago. However, he really wants to lean out (GW is 285). I worry that he doesn’t eat enough for being such a tall man- we sometimes each too much on the weekend, but on a typical weekday, he eats what I eat, rounding out at ~1500 calories. I think this is too severe a deficit and might be impacting his weight loss goals. Any other tall guys out there experiencing this? Any advice? Thank you!!

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SV/NSV Tried to at least maintain on vacation and actually lost a few pounds!

Last week I went on vacation for 8 days from Friday to the following Saturday. I was at 300 lbs when I left. I kept up my logging and did my best to stay on my 16/8 fasting schedule. I spent a lot of time in the pool and did a lot of walking around while on vacation. My goal was to maintain and not gain while I was gone. I did even better! I dropped under 300lbs for the first time in nearly 19 years. As of this morning I am down to 291 lbs.

After dropping nearly 115 pounds in just over 11 months, I've never felt better as an adult. Just some advice for those of you on the same journey:

DON'T GIVE UP!

It is difficult to completely re-calibrate your body and your mind at the same time. For a lot of us, weight loss is just as much or more mental than physical. The physiological aspects of it are widely known. If you eat less calories than you burn off, day over day and week over week, you will lose weight. It is that simple, but simple is not easy. The mental part is figuring out why you are overweight in the first place. Re-orient your attitudes toward food. Don't use food as a coping mechanism or a drug. By all means, have a coping mechanism. We all need one, just make it a healthy one.

Some practical tips from my own experience:

-Give up the sugary drinks. Before I started this, I would easily down 2 or 3 42 oz sodas a day. That's nearly 1000 calories, just in drinks! I switched to zero-sugar or diet sodas and water with a no-sugar flavoring and just by doing that I lost about 10 pounds in the first month.

-Stop snacking out of boredom. On previous road trips, I would eat just to pass the time while driving. Not this time. I didn't even bring any snacks in the car.

-Eat fresh fruit. I love munching on fresh fruits. Grapes and strawberries are my favorites. They are filling and relatively calorie light for the volume. For instance a 1 ounce serving of chips is about 150 calories. 150 calories of strawberries is right around a pound!

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I feel like an absolute failure.

25-Female-Hispanic-About 5'4".

Brief Background:

Overweight for most if not all of my life. Family history of obesity/cardiac issues/thyroid issues/diabetes/basically everything. Grew up in a Hispanic family where every family reunion was an opportunity to let me know how fat I was. A lot of body dysmorphic type issues. I'm also a butch lesbian so I have some self-esteem issues having grown up being compared to my feminine, thin, and pretty younger sister. My mom was the chubbier one between her and her sister and to this day, in her 50's, she is still obsessed with her weight. My relationship with my body is modeled after what I have seen her do with hers.

More Detailed Background:

In January 2015, I was reviewing pictures from the previous holidays with my family and was incredibly unhappy with how HUGE I looked. I weighed myself and was shocked to see the number: 225lbs. I then began my official weight loss journey. I started with a weight loss clinic my mom had told me about. I did it for about a month and a half. I lost about 20 lbs but was rather unhappy with the program as it was mostly focused on appetite suppressants and things that made me feel weak and hungry rather than fit and strong. We are at about 205 lbs at this point.

I then began researching workout programs from home as I was embarrassed and self-conscious about going to the gym. I started with the P90 program offered by Beach Body. It was pretty awesome. I did my 90 days and got down to about 185-190. The difference between that and those holiday pictures was pretty great. I also dropped down shirt sizes from men's XL to men's medium-ish.

Now realizing my love for High Intensity Interval training, I decided to try out P90X3 which advertised itself as quick 30 minute workouts that gave you everything you needed. It was incredible. I had never felt so strong, fit, and capable. I dropped to 168 lbs. I could wear a men's small. I had never felt more proud of myself.

Then life happened. I graduated with my Bachelor's degree in May 2015. I finished P90X3 in August of 2015, right when I started graduate school, living away from home for the first time, and serving at a chain restaurant. You can probably guess where this is going. Within the first year of grad school/working at a restaurant/living on my own I gained back about 20-30lbs. The last 10 pounds kept coming on and off for the next two or three years. I started and stopped working out a few times. Started and stopped diets. I could never really get myself going again.

I graduated with my Master's degree in December 2017. I got a job at a homeless shelter that had me working/playing with kids all day. I maintained the ~200 lbs basically from January 2016 to about March 2019.

I think things skyrocketed in the last few months. I started a job that seemed really exciting at first but then ended up absolutely killing my spirit. I quit without notice or another job lined up and questioned everything about my life and future. This was in May of this year. I don't know how much I weighed at the time but I'm going to guess somewhere around 205-210.

Today:

Now we are in July. I have a job offer but may not start until the end of this month, maybe beginning of next month. I have been sitting at home every day except for when I am able to convince myself to go to the gym or go on a walk with my dog.

I decided to weigh myself today. 220.4 lbs. I lost it. I cried and cried and cried and cried. How could I not have noticed? How could I have let it all come back? How did I sit around for the last two months and not have taken advantage of that time to lose weight?

I'm devastated. I don't know what I want from posting this. I guess I just needed to get it off my chest. I know I can fix this it just seems so much harder right now than ever before.

I'm going to my cousin's wedding this weekend and I am terrified of all the comments and looks I'm going to get. I'm sure someone will ask me what happened. I won't have an answer. I failed.

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