Anti-Scale Victories

I hope long rants are allowed, if not I'll remove this post.

I've been on and off diets since I was 5. Every year, every month, every week I say "this is the week I will lose weight". There have been some weeks that I did lose weight, but many more when I didn't. I try to pick upcoming events and say "I will lose 2 pounds per week to reach X goal by X event", but I don't. I usually end up going to the event 5 pounds heavier than before.

I'm trying not to feel ashamed about my weight. I know I can be a valued person despite my weight. But everywhere I go, I see people who have lost significant amounts of weight - my sister lost 50 lbs, my boyfriend lost 40 lbs, my friends are stick thin and gorgeous and are perfect at maintenance - and I can't help but feel like I've been failing for 23 years. I remember my sister being congratulated about her weight loss by my family at Christmas last year. She whispered that she was almost 200 lbs and my family gasped in disbelief.

I was weighed at the doctor as 220 lbs this weekend, my highest weight ever.

I know how to get started. I am practically an expert at it. I also know that I have been put on new birth control and have been sick for the last 3 weeks, which explains some of my lethargy and recent gain of 15 lbs. What I don't know to do is reach my goal. I've lost hope in the phrase "this is this time that I actually do it". I don't think I'll ever do it. I've gone 23 years and haven't done it yet and it seems like nothing will ever change.

I guess what I'm saying is, I'm really sad right now. Very lost. Trying not to feel disgusted by my body. Hoping that this community can help pick me up a little?

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TL;DR - I'm fat and I'm sad. I need help being less sad about being fat.

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Only the gym can help me now

It's time. I can't avoid it any longer. After 8 months of really focusing on my diet, and feeling like it is finally under control, I've hit a major plateau. I also don't like the way I look (i.e. not toned), despite the weight loss so far. I know diet alone can't get me to where I want to be. I attribute a lot of my weight loss success to going slow and steady, and making incremental changes over time (progressed towards 1200/day + 16:8 IF + 10K steps per day). I'm going to do the same with the gym (looking to mainly lift). Today my goal was to just show up and be there for 30 minutes (preferably exercising). I did it! I lifted some heavy things and did squats, and now both legs and arms feel satisfyingly wobbly. My goal is to shoot for 30 minutes every other day, and build from there in terms of time and intensity.

I didn't take before/after pics for diet alone, because the number on the scale continued to affirm my progress. This time though, I'm going to take a picture now and will again in December to see what this whole exercising thing does to me ;-)

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Another Benefit To Losing Weight (and Progress Pics)

First of all, I want to thank everyone on this sub from the bottom of my heart. I’ve been a lurker for a few years, and you guys have taught me the healthy way to lose weight and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Thank you for that ❤️

I wanted to talk about something that I feel was another benefit to this whole weight loss journey (other than the actual weight lost and health benefits :P). I didn’t notice this until a few months in but losing weight has helped me accomplish so many of my other goals that I’d only ever dreamt of accomplishing. Something about working hard towards yourself and your own happiness also motivated me to work on other aspects of my life. For example, I’ve always wanted to be a creative of some kind, but was too scared to put myself out there (still am!) but when I started this journey, I thought, “If I can lose weight, how hard can X be?” I’m now making some positive steps to advance this passion of mine. This philosophy has helped me make so many decisions, as well as the “30 Seconds of Courage” technique. I’m still scared every single day, but starting this lifestyle change was somehow the push I needed to at least try.

Have you guys experienced the same? If you have, I would love to hear what you’ve done! If anyone is having doubts about starting any new goals, just remember that developing confidence is also a journey, and you deserve to feel good about any positive changes you make for yourself, physically and mentally.

Progress Pics: F/20/5’4, 167 lbs to 145 lbs (GW1)... Still got a while to go! ❤️

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[SV] Finally under 200 lbs for the first time in over 2 years!

I’ve always been chubbier than my friends and classmates growing up, but I always attributed this to the fact that I was a lot taller than everyone else. That is, until I hit high school, and finally realized that not only was I “chubbier” than most everyone, I was pretty overweight.

I began high school somewhere around 170, and this slowly climbed higher and higher until I just about grazed 200 my senior year, despite no significant lifestyle changes and even becoming more active. I remember telling myself, “I may be fat, but at least I’m not 200 pounds!” Then my worst fears came true: towards the midpoint of my senior year, my weight finally topped off at around 220. I could barely fit into my dream prom dress (that had fit me perfectly a few months prior), and after numerous doctors visits I was nearly convinced that maybe this was just the way my body was built and nothing I could do would change that.

Once I went to college and started walking pretty much everywhere, I lost a little weight and kept bouncing back and forth between 208ish-215ish. Finally, the summer between my sophomore and junior years (this summer!) I switched to a new doctor, who actually took my concerns about my 50-pound weight gain seriously. She prescribed me an appetite suppressant/metabolism booster to jump-start weight loss, and told me I should lose up to 30 pounds in the 6 months she’s prescribing it to me, provided I change my diet and exercise habits as well.

Well, today, a month after I began taking it, I hit my first milestone and lost 10 pounds, putting me at just under 200 for the first time since my senior year of high school! I don’t feel like I’ve changed my diet super significantly, I just try to make healthier choices (less fried food, more veggies) and control my portion sizes a little better. I hope that the habits I’m trying to create now will help me to get to my final goal even when I’m off the medication. Only 19.4 pounds until my next mini-goal!

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is there a right mindset for weight loss?

Hey lovely people,

I've recently thought and read about how the "right" mindset can be of benefit for weight loss. For example someone wrote that one has to adapt a way of thinking that thin people have. That they do not constantly think about weight loss and that they naturally eat smaller portion sizes and make healthier food choices.

I'm technically not overweight but I would like to lose 10-20 pounds (yes I would still be in the healthy range) and last year I actually was 10 pounds lighter. I then was going through an emotionally challenging time and I had no time to think about food yet I ate somewhat healthy. I still remember how good I felt in my body, how my clothes would fit me better and how my skin was glowing. So albeit I was depressed, I felt more at ease with my physical state.

Therefore I now try to eat healthy all the time and track calories. Yet it is hard for me to maintain my past-self's mindset. I just had the idea that maybe I should not clinge to the old one but to create myself a new thinner future-self mindset. Does that even make sense?^^ Has anyone tried this psychological approach to weight loss before? Maybe in combination with meditation?

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Feeling like I've failed

I'm hoping this great community can help me. I've been really successful with CICO since June. I've lost 23lbs and learned more about what my body needs to be the best me I can. My goal starting out was because I have 2 girls, 6 and 2, and I want to be here for them and be a positive role model. I want them to see a strong empowered woman and I want them to see me actively working to make myself better.

But I've messed up. I tried to keep myself talking about how I'm making myself strong, not skinny. I tell them I want to make myself feel good and not talking about being fat. Unfortunately, kids catch on to everything. Yesterday my 6 year old told me she doesn't want to gain weight or get bigger because she doesn't want to be fat.

The WHOLE reason I'm doing this is to be more body positive, but what's the point if it hurts them. I feel like I've failed just by trying.

Tldr: I tried to keep my weight loss positive, but my daughter caught on and now thinks gaining weight to grow makes her less.

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I finally understand making a “lifestyle change” and I’m a little less worried about maintenance

I’ve been on my weight loss journey since the beginning of the year (actually right after Christmas because I didn’t want it to technically be a New Years resolution I was bound to fail on).

I just hit my goal weight today! I’m super pumped and so happy that I actually made it.

A few months ago, I remember making some comments about how I was almost terrified of reaching my goal because that meant going into essentially a lifetime of maintenance. At least while losing, there was a goal, but at maintenance, there is no end and that was scary.

I always heard people talking about making it a lifestyle change instead of a diet and I guess I never really understood what that meant. I just equated it to continuing to count calories once I reached my goal weight and that was the only plan I had.

Calorie counting was the only strategy I had for my weight loss. At the beginning of my journey, it was tough to stay to my calorie limit because I didn’t want to feel like I was eliminating foods or depriving myself. After a while, I started seeking out lower calorie meals. After a while, that turned into healthier meals that were naturally lower calorie. With the majority of my food being healthy, whole foods, I was able to fit in the occasional glass of wine, cookie, ice cream, or chocolate. I didn’t really work out at all to reach my goal, but I do like being more “active” going for walks or doing yoga instead of sitting on my couch. This all happened very slowly over this period but started to make more sense and become easier.

This morning, while driving to work and reflecting on the fact that I had done it and was beginning to strategize how I would move forward, I was contemplating this idea of it being a lifestyle change, when I suddenly realized that it had been this whole time.

I don’t have the desire to go back to eating deep fried and carb heavy foods. Not only because those don’t make me feel good anymore, but also because I’m choosing to live healthier. Just because I can add a few calories back into my limit doesn’t mean I throw out all the changes I’ve made over the last months. I’ve already made the changes, and I’ve found even more foods that I love and ways to fit in the stuff that’s not so healthy that I still love in moderation. I didn’t even realize I was creating good habits this whole time and now I feel so ready to take on maintenance because it’s not something different and unknown. It’s something I’ve already mastered and I’m excited to keep doing it.

Also, I have to add in a thank you to this sub. I didn’t get really serious about my weight loss until I found you guys about a month in. When I’ve been frustrated, I’ve gotten inspiration reading people’s success stories and found comfort in other people’s rants. I appreciate all of you.

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