The $20 Psychological Win of Getting Your Fat Clothes Tailored

TLDR: $20 of tailoring can make your old fat clothes your new fab clothes

I used to wear clothes to hide my body. I was overweight, I hated my body, and I didn’t dress to look good as much as to not look fat.

Then I learned how to eat healthy and lost 60 lbs. I bought new clothes, and IT FELT SO GOOD to finally be able to be proud of my body. To wear clothes to show it off instead of hide it. To catch people noticing me and liking how I looked. That doesn’t happen when every outfit is baggy and frumpy because you are ashamed of how you look.

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You don’t have to hide the shape of your body with baggy clothes when you are proud of how you look. When you love the shape of your body then you have much more freedom to wear clothes that complement that shape.

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I’m not saying everyone should wear tight clothes. Wear what makes you feel good. But I worked WAY TOO FREAKING HARD ON THIS BODY and tight clothes make me feel pretty.

I think everyone should have at least one outfit that makes them feel amazing, whatever that means for you. You don’t have to wait until your goal weight to buy an outfit that makes you feel confident and attractive. It is such a huge boost to feel attractive, especially for people who have hated their bodies for a long time. I want that positive feeling for you. I want this first tiny seed of self love to take root because it does take time to grow but we can start today.

And you don’t have to buy a whole new wardrobe for this. The shirt in the picture above was one of my old fat shirts. The photos were taken 1 week apart with $20 worth of tailoring. You already have your old fat clothes hanging around anyway. Why not take one of the nice ones and turn it into a source of “DAMN I LOOK GOOD” feelings? It’s cheaper than you think!

Tailored clothes are always going to look better than something off the shelf. That’s one of the reasons why celebrities always look amazing - all of the clothing is tailored to their exact shape. Many people have never tried it but essentially you’re wearing clothes now that were made for someone else’s body (the average shape of humanity). Imagine how much better you’ll look in clothes that were made for you!

I can’t speak for women’s clothing but all the tailors I’ve been to charge around $20 for men’s dress shirts, and I just ask them for a “form fitting” or “athletic fit” and they measure me and do the rest.

You could also find high quality shirts at the Goodwill or similar for cheap (be sure they fit your neck and shoulders, guys, the tailor can tighten the other parts but not those, at least not as cheaply) and a tailor can make them contour your body.

If you don’t have any clothes that make you feel good about yourself then PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE consider trying this $20 experiment.

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How we feel about ourselves shapes how we interact with others, the perspective from which we see the rest of the world, and the decisions we make.

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If you feel like a fit, attractive person then it’ll be easier to make the decisions that fit, attractive people make. You’re updating your wardrobe to complement your new identity as a healthy human being. On a more physical level, my tight clothes let me know pretty quick if I start overeating, and I like the reminder of “HEY BRO ONE SLICE OF PIZZA IS ENOUGH SRSLY THIS CUTE SHIRT WON’T LOOK SO CUTE WITH THE BUTTONS POPPING OFF”.

Here’s the rub. It’s great to work hard and become as healthy as possible. It is admirable and noble and I’m proud of all of you beautiful people for the amazing things you’ve accomplished. I just don’t want you to put off really FEELING as beautiful and fit and healthy as you are until later. You’re working out and dieting and doing so much right. Let’s take credit for the work we’ve done and feel good things about ourselves, we deserve it!

Further reading: If you are often really hard on yourself, suffer from negative self image, or beat yourself up a lot over your weight then I’d encourage you to read “Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself” by Kristen Neff, PhD. I was able to make so much more progress on my weight loss when I stopped attacking myself for every mistake. I want you to be on your own team, and self compassion is a wonderful tool to do that in every part of your life.

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Bounce back

As of today I’m finally down to my pre-holiday weight! Last year I started my weight loss journey in May and I lost 38 pounds. My starting weight was 235 and my lowest of 2019 was 197. I got to 197 in October and stayed around the 200 mark for the rest of the year. When all was said and done with the holidays I was back up to 203.

But I wasn’t worried. See I had seen some statistic somewhere that said that on average people gain like 5-7lbs over the holidays. And over the course of last year I’d also been working a lot on my mental health and I was able to have some grace with myself. I said “so you gained six pounds, that’s perfectly understandable. It’s the holidays and you are human. You enjoyed yourself. That’s great! We can get back on the horse again and get back on track.”

And I did.

It only took two weeks.

Have you ever seen Youtuber Gabbie Hanna’s weightloss video? First of all it’s very inspiring and second of all her trainer at one point talks about getting a body that can bounce back. After the holidays. After a vacation. And this time it took my two weeks. Maybe next time it’ll take me one week.

My point is; be kind to yourself. We are creating habits that will hopefully last a lifetime. Don’t be in too much of a rush and give yourself the grace to mess up from time to time.

Don’t freak out. You can and you will bounce back.

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Saturday, 25 January 2020? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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How I lost 35 pounds and why you shouldn’t do what I did

Background: 20M, 170cm, and at my heaviest I was around 165-170lbs. But when at the start of 2019 (when I decided to start losing weight) I weighed around 160lbs. And at my lowest weight I remember seeing 116lbs. Current weight is now 125lbs.

Intermittent fasting truly worked wonders in helping me lose weight. But when I started counting calories and decided to enter a calorie deficit is when I really started to rapidly lose the weight.

I’d be lying if I said I lost my weight in the healthiest and safest way. This is because I lost over 35 pounds with almost little to no exercise at all.

I decided to enter a calorie deficit of around 1200 calories a day, but would often eat below 1000. I didn’t really do any proper research and just read online that a 1200 calorie a day deficit would result in fast weight loss. And being kind of desperate to lose weight, I decided to follow it from about April - August, but it was at its worst from June - August.

And by worst, I mean that I was almost starving myself. I would get up at 7am for work and hold off until 1pm, where I’d eat 2 granola bars that amounted to 300 calories. I wouldn’t eat again until dinner, which is where I’d do the bulk of my eating but definitely not enough to give my body all the energy/nutrients it needed. There would even be days where I knew that I would have a big dinner, so I wouldn’t eat for the entire day. I was obsessed with only looking at calories and not other important factors like sugars, fats and sodium values.

I highly HIGHLY DON’T recommend the method that I used to lose weight. It wasn’t healthy both physically and mentally. And for a period of time my attitude towards food changed. There were countless times that I wouldn’t even feel like eating, in fear of gaining weight.

For the most part I would say that I’m eating much better now and have been since September. I have also started to exercise along with incorporating more fruits, healthier grains and organic foods into my diet and i’ve been feeling more energetic!

The main thing I wanted to share from my own weight loss journey with anyone reading this is: Stay safe and please don’t starve yourself!!

Yeah we all wanna lose weight, but make sure to do it safely and to do all your proper research or to even meet a nutritionist. Calorie deficits, while very effective, can also be very dangerous.

Also remember that your body is different than anyone else’s body. While a certain method or calorie deficit may work for someone else, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll work for you as well.

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Help me get it together - 57kg to 64kg in 2 years and so disheartened.

Hi. I'd like to preface this by saying I know I'm not "overweight" in any massive way, but all our struggles are relative. I feel so much more content in my skin when I'm slimmer, and I don't want to get any bigger than I am.

I'm trying to lose weight, but I feel so powerless about it. I'm 160cm or 5ft 3. I've gone from 57kg to 64kg, so hovering around a BMI of about 24.5-25, after maintaining well at 57 for 2 years (was originally 74kg in 2010).

Here is a link to my "weight-loss" progress since 2017. The galling thing is that I have the mentality that I'm trying to loose weight ALL THE TIME that I've been gaining it. It's infuriating. I get tricked by the line going down temporarily, but the overall, trend is up.

I'm feeling very stuck, and like there's no way out. Any thoughts on the best way forward would be really appreciated.

- Calorie counting has failed every time for me because I get obsessive and over-restrict, then binge
- I work a full time desk-job and am also doing an MA after work, so my time for exercise is fairly limited (I do run 2-3 times a week and walk 3-5km each weekday) and I'm sitting A LOT and I think this is the main problem
- I struggle massively with self-awareness. I *feel* like I'm always eating really healthy, but evidently there's some disconnect here
- I'm really, really tired of endlessly struggling with my weight
- I'm scared I'm gonna keep getting fatter
- I can't afford any of the local gyms because of Tokyo being a super expensive place to be (I do run outside and have hand weights at home though)

Anyway.... How can I move forward? Should I put all my energy into calorie counting again, or should I focus on not snacking and trying to be more active, like how I lost the weight before? I feel like I'm so lost.

(BACKGROUND: After a lot of badly disordered eating as a teen, I went from 74kg to 57kg from 2010-2015 through not snacking, eating three meals a day and being fairly active. My weight loss has always been quite up and down, but I thought I'd really managed it after maintaining at 57kg for 2 years, and I'd also gone a long way to fixing my mental health and food obsessions.

Anyway, because of being much busier at work and having a more sedentary job, I've gained weight again, but really slowly, over 2 years. And now, this afternoon, I realised that I'm almost back where I started and I can't do up any of my trousers :( I also bought a gorgeous pink jumper yesterday, and now I feel like I can't wear it because I look like a blob. Help)

Thank you and good luck with your journey. xx

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Thinking about my weight loss even on the bad days makes me so much happy.

So I am having a bad week. Even with a lot of hard work I got negative annual performance evaluation last week. I was sad about my boss ignoring all the good things I did and focus on my lack of team work.

However everytime I think of the weight I had lost it makes me so much happy. I wake up every morning and see that my waist is the thinnest it has been in years. I am getting closer to my goal of getting visible abs. Its a source of uplifting my mood even in horrible times.

The only problem now is that my pants are getting too lose. I have reached the last hole on my belt and even then my pants are almost falling down. I dont know what size pants to buy (or should I buy a smaller belt?) My goal is to look a certain way but I dont know what waist that would given I also have to gains some muscle which may increase my waist a bit.

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Disordered eating and weight loss.

I feel stuck. If I try to lose weight healthy it triggers my restrictive patterns and i wont eat over 700 cals and if i dont try to lose weight i binge on at least over 3,000 cals a day. Im 270 pounds, 5’7 and 17. This is not right. I have been through too many therapies and doctors to count and nothing has helped. I haven’t been depressed lately and i feel really good and confident on less. I know its messed up but I’ve lost 15 pounds and i dont want to gain anything by going over 1,000. Ive struggled with this since i was 13. My sister lost 100 pounds with “healthy eating” but i know she struggles with it too. Im jealous. I want that. I just want to get between 130-150. I don’t know who else to go to or what else to do. Is there a way I can switch to healthier eating without gaining all that I’ve lost?

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