Tuesday, October 22, 2024

My husband and I need to lose weight but are on different mindsets. Help!

My husband and I have been gaining weight off and on for the past few years. It was normally a case of we’d gain weight and lose a little and then go back to gaining, losing etc. weight gain has gotten worse since the arrival of our kids, understandably a dramatic lifestyle change and not enough time to look after ourselves.

I’ve always been a heavier girl however was able to get down to 61kg back in 2013 so I know I have it in me to lose weight.. I lost a further 19kg after the birth of our last child in 2020. Getting the motivation back for me has been hard but I’m very determined to lose weight as I’m at 81kg now (162cm tall). Ideally I’d love to be at 65-62kg again.

The issue I’m having is my husband (while he desperately does want to lose weight) cannot stick to any diet we’ve tried.. he is at an all time heavy and gets depressed now trying clothes on. I can totally sympathise with him as I’ve been there before and am on the cusp of it myself too. However he will then go eat a load of unhealthy things and not want to help himself. (For reference he is 140kg and 6’3) He’s gone and purchased a bag of shakes the past weekend but then proceeded to eat fast food over the weekend. I’ve attempted to cook healthy dinners for us and cut back portion sizes (and seen some weight loss myself) but will then find he’s gone and binged a whole heap of chocolate later on and cancelled out the purpose of calorie controlling and healthy eating.

Despite me trying to help, I cannot have full control over what he chooses to put into his body but his weight is starting to affect his mood, our sex life and overall enjoyment in life. He was laying in bed saying how hot it was last night but it was one of the coldest nights we’ve had this week so I could tell it was from his extra weight.

I’d love advice from partners or couples who have lost weight together and what you did to find motivation and help eachother. I find that because he’s not motivated at all, neither am I really and we both have a tendency to go for easy options when it comes to food or if he has a hankering for takeout I simply cave in for fear of missing out lol.

I just want us to both be in a place where we can be happy in the bodies we’re in and set good examples for our children.

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