Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Can't Handle Compliments

Y'all has anyone experienced awkwardness or shyness or even anxiety over being complimented for your weight loss?! I hope I can articulate this for you all. I've been around 250# for a long time and when an amusement park experience changed me I stated losing weight. But it was slow. Last summer I really needed to keep it consistent and kick it up a notch and I lost about 40# on top of what I had lost over the years since then and it's changed how I look, obviously. Well lately many friends and coworkers have seen me in the hallways and will make comments in a very positive way. One girl was like "you're going to be a skinny legend." I feel so grateful and happy and even proud of myself for doing it. But if I am happy, how can I not just thank the person for their compliment and move on?? I feel like an ass even thinking this but it truly gives me anxiety and IDK what to say in these situations! Anyone else????

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A month of intuitive eating: -9.2 lbs

TL;DR: After being on "diets" for most of my life, I switched to intuitive eating and have lost almost 10 lbs this month.

I've been "dieting" in one form or another since I was 9-10 years old (41 now). It's been hammered in that I need to count every bite/lick/taste and weigh/measure every food--FOREVER--if I had any hope in losing weight. I always knew that tracking sucked the joy out of eating, but figured that was what I get for being fat.

Last year I'd just fucking had it. I became heavier than ever and got so sick of the ups and downs and feeling so defeated. I decided to quit trying to lose weight; I'd rather stay fat than continue to fail at every weight loss plan. I quit counting calories/tracking, and quit weighing myself. I did my best to eat reasonably and continue with the good food habits I'd already established.

Curiosity got the better of me about 6 months later, and I stepped on the scale. It was the exact same number as it had been the last time I weighed myself. Maintaining for 6 months with no measuring/tracking/counting is nothing to sneeze at. It told me that I could trust myself and my food choices.

I spent the next couple of months cleaning up my diet a bit more, and also being a little stricter with intermittent fasting (generally do 18-20 hours a day). At the beginning of the month, I doubled-down on IF, and have tried to cut back portions here and there. I do dance and barre workouts for exercise, 30-60 minutes most days, nothing real strenuous right now due to my high weight, but I'm feeling stronger. I've lost almost 10 lbs this month doing this.

Most importantly, I have a normal relationship with food for the first time in my entire life. None of the conventional diet advice I've followed fits me. I do best with a higher-fiber (30-50 g/day) and higher fat diet (if I had to estimate, fat makes up 40-50% of my calories most days). No commercial diet plan would advocate combining fat and carbs, but it makes my digestive tract happy (my digestion is the healthiest it's been--ever). I don't track or count calories, but loosely calculate fiber grams. I'm losing weight and feel very comfortable.

I can still work in treats, as long as I don't throw more at my digestive tract than it can handle. Last week I went out to lunch with a friend and had a Philly cheesesteak sandwich and some onion rings. I noticed later that it's the first time I recall not feeling guilty at all, and I didn't start thinking about how I would atone for eating it (and if I follow my natural hunger signals, I tend to eat more lightly the rest of the day after a meal like that).

In any case, if you have been stuck and "tried everything," maybe it's time to give intuitive eating a try. I got my mental health in order, which has helped reduce the disordered eating (and tracking/counting calories was an epic trigger for me, which took me until last year to figure out). We all have different needs, and you may have the answer within you.

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Is the weight loss really worth it in the end, if I feel worse about myself?

Good afternoon fellow R/loseit members!

(TL;DR @ bottom)

I joined lose it about 8 months ago as a food/calorie tracker in my weight loss journey started a month prior. And as of this writing I’m pleased to say I reached my soft goal about two weeks ago (220, starting at 285) and am now gearing to push on to a new goal of 199.

All my friends and family have been so supportive through this journey so far (that’s in reality started 2 years ago @320lb) and have made me feel like I’ve achieved something great. And I started to believe them until the other day when I went to do a set of push ups and looked down my shirt for the first time in a while.

While I never expected to lose my man boobs, I never expected to see my stomach folding in on itself. When I’m in a planning position my stomach now folds as if to resemble a hot dog bun.

After seeing this I researched and discovered about lose skin after weight loss and as I expected there to be some, I thought proper muscle building/toning would solve the majority of it. Only to further read that a surgery that most insurances won’t cover could be the only remedy.

Being overweight most of my life, has negatively affected my mental health. And I thought this would help in that aspect (with Other areas of health of course) but now that I’ve seen this and found this research I find myself asking: was it worth it? I can’t look at myself now without being disgusted. My girlfriend has done nothing but tried to boosted my ego about my body. But I fear it’s going to take a toll there also, as all I can think when being “intimate” with her all I can think is “if I’m this disgusted, how could I expect to be appealing to her” (for record sake, she has been one of my best friends since way before I attempted any weight loss, atleast 12 years)

So now I just don’t know what to do. Do I keep pushing with a tighter exercise regiment focusing on core strengthening? Will it even help? Was all this work for nothing but to hate myself further?

Have you fellow redditors had a similar situation? What was your remedy/fix? Did you have to rely on a medical system that has made itself unavailable to the common citizen?

Even if you don’t reply, I appreciate your time in reading.

TL;DR: Over the last 8 months I went from 285 to 220, and now have excess skin on my abdomen that repulses me more than when I weighed 320. Research has told me the only fix for this is a surgery that insurance won’t cover. Have you had a similar situation, if so what did you find that helped?

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HELLO ONEDERLAND!!! M/18/6'3"(250.2>199.0=51.2lbs)

Hello all! For the first time since I was 13 years old I finally weigh less than 200lbs. On August 20th I started my journey to weight loss, that same week I also moved away from home and started college Majoring in Computer Systems Engineering. These past 5 or so months have been tough but I'm glad I did it!

I mainly did OMAD, with a few 48 hour water fasts, and alot of cheat days.

My weight has been my biggest insecurity for as long as I can remember. My entire highschool career is riddled with failed attempts to lose weight. At the time I felt like I've done everything to try to lose the weight, and I just kind of accepted that I'd be obese for the rest of my life. Thank you so much to this subreddit and a few others for giving me hope when I was at my lowest. I'm not done yet, but wanted to share this milestone. Cheers!

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Had a picture posted without my permission online... saw the comments and it was ugly.

Yesterday was not a winner in my weight loss journey.

I had a picture of me from behind (taken without my permission) at a concert this summer and I recently found it posted online. The comments... were heart breaking. As someone who has struggled with weight all my life I thought I looked pretty good. I had lost 30 pounds prior to this 2 month trip, and yes I had put 10 pounds back on but I was feeling good! At 5’5” I felt strong and pretty at 155 pounds.

And this was one of the best nights of my life! It was the end of a trip that I had spent 2 years saving up for! Until someone tagged me in this post so I could see the comments calling me a line backer... built like a bowling alley. Fat bitch. Ugly and a terrible dancer.

I now feel sick to my stomach. I know they’re just trying to attack what they can see from a person they don’t know. I just hate that they caused me to break down in the bathroom at work. All because I didn’t give her my seat that was in front of her.

In the end I reported her and got her suspended on twitter but I’m still searching trying to see if there is any more traces online. Each mention of me I’m mentally cataloging. I’m obsessing over it. The damage is done. I skipped dinner, threw out the dress, and cried some more.

Today I’m trying to pick myself up and be able to move forward in a healthy way. But I think I’m going to be wearing my baggiest clothing for the next few days.

Yesterday was a hard loss in this weight loss journey.

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Wednesday, 29 January 2020? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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Tuesday, January 28, 2020

Weight loss plateau....HELP?!

So I’ve lost eight pounds this month. I know, this is a lot of progress and I shouldn’t be expecting to lose more than this. BUT, I was losing very consistently, and it seems I’ve recently came to a dead stand still. For a week(ish) I’ve been exactly the same weight. How can I overcome this? Been doing 18:6 fasts until 2pm and then eating an apple/banana at some cheese with ritz crackers at work, going to the gym (3-4 times per week) and then eating dinner. Considering cutting out the 2pm snack to do a true OMAD. I usually stay around 1200 cals a day, but tbh I’ve been eating slightly more unhealthy the past week. Is this the reason for my plateau? Any insight appreciated 😃

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