family, friends, and weight loss

hello! just wanted to start a thread for people to talk about and share their experiences with friends or family and weight loss.

i've noticed my own friends have gotten weird about me losing weight (despite being overweight myself) and claim im going back into my old bad habits when this is the best i've treated myself in years in regards to weight loss. i understand their point of view and why they'd be concerned, but their comments are about me not having a second helping for dinner and thinking im starving myself or if they dont see me eat through the day they think i dont eat at all. i eat a reasonable amount for my height, age, and weight but they think its unhealthy because i eat under my maintenance instead of just becoming a gym rat and working it all off (i eat around 1200-1300kcal. im 5'5" and currently 75kg down from 88kg.) i really hate going out (im hella antisocial) and i find its easier to just eat less instead of working out a lot.

i've tried to explain CICO and that you can eat under maintenance and lose weight without it being considered unhealthy but they dont think it works that way and that i just have to "eat healthy" and workout a lot which is partly true but you're not gonna lose weight if you're not at a calorie deficit. i live with them so having people watch and judge how much i eat makes me very anxious but i'm sticking it out for myself so i can feel more comfortable in my own body. if you have any advice or just want to share your own experience with this topic that would be lovely!

[EDIT: just so people dont get concerned about my motivation with my weight loss; im ftm and i need to be under a 30bmi to get top surgery (basically boobie go byebye) so being safely under that bmi is very important for me. plus i've never liked how feminine and curvy my body looks with all this extra fat in places my brain doesnt see as normal. cutting down on it has made me more confident in my own identity. plus i wanna be a handsome slim guy, not an average chubby guy. my dad is pretty large and i have his looks so i can confirm i would not look very good at a larger weight once i start transitioning haha]

i dont see many of these threads around so feel free to share anything <3 good luck on your weight loss journey

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