Long time lurker, first time poster (using throwaway for this). But... has anyone noticed a difference in how they're treated in social situations or even just in public in general since losing weight? Cause I just need to rant a bit (hopefully its allowed)
Over the past three years, I've lost 80 lbs and gone through a body recomp going from 210 lbs to 130 lbs (5'6" F, 25) after being obese my whole life. I'm now maintaining aside from continuing to tone up/build muscle. I was lucky in how I lost weight in that I lost almost all of it from my stomach and face while maintaining my boobs and butt, so I went from an apple shape to an hourglass shape.
Before I lost weight, I was pretty much invisible in social situations. People in public acted like I didn't exist and I was always that token fat friend amongst my social groups. Now... everything is different. Strangers notice me... but not necessarily in a good way? Men are friendlier and more talkative in general, but it almost always leads into flirting or trying to ask me out. The worst of them leer, make vulgar comments and just overall act creepy (I know not ALL guys are like this, so pls don't pm me anything angry about that). I've also noticed that women in general are ruder to me than before... but I don't think I'm acting any different to provoke that kind of reaction.
Many of my friends no longer invite me out as much and almost act like they're threatened when I'm around their boyfriends or go to bars with them (since I get attention there now too; before I never did). I also get unwanted comments from friends, coworkers and family about what I'm eating, how I'm "starving myself", and them trying to push food on me or claiming that I'm not "enjoying life" because I stopped eating as much junk food. Basically trying to get me to gain weight back.
I was so excited about losing weight as I can now dress more fashionably and pull off styles I never could before... but now that I'm there I feel like I want to hide in my oversized clothes again to try to avoid the attention I'm getting. It sucks lmao. At least I feel better health-wise.
Rant over, but I'd be interested to hear if anyone else who has been successful in weight loss experienced this.
TLDR: Lost a bunch of weight, now people treat me different but not necessarily in a good way.
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