Hello, It's my first post here and I don't know if I can explain my situation the right way, especially since English is not my first language, but let's give it a try. It's 3am here so I'm sorry for any spelling mistakes I've made but I'm too tired to correct them rn.
Till my teens I was really, really skinny person, but developing bad eating habits and no physical activity led to huge weight gain - at the age of 14(M) I was ~ 5'6ft 170cm and my weight was 209lbs 95kg. I was kind of fitting into my family tradition, because everyone around me was overweight or obese, and no one knew anything about good eating habits. Having no support I became "that obese kid" in a school and I was slowly loosing all my friends. I became really shy person and developed many strictly introvert behaviors that stick to me till today.
When my social life and health were completely ruined and I was about to go to high school my sister persuaded my mom to start a weight loss diet. As she says it was hard, because my mom kept saying that "yeah don't ya worry he will be fine he still has plenty of time to grow higher, it's obvious that he won't be overweight in few years". Well, no. I'd probably become damn walking ball (or not even able to walk, I'll mention it later).
First few months of the diet were hard - the only vegetables I ate were tomato and cucumber, so I was really struggling to stick to it, but I had no choice - I was surrounded by healthy food and support, mostly coming from my sister. I was really sceptical about the idea, but days have passed, first pounds have been lost and I started well, can't say I enjoyed the idea but following the diet became easier. After few weeks my sister moved to another country to study, so the hardest period of time has come - me and my mom, both fat and with no motivation and knowledge to follow strict rules from day to day became on our own.
We've managed to follow the diet for 6 months, so to holiday. Then something happend (can't quite remember what) and my mom stopped the diet despite the amazing weight loss success. I had to make a choice if I wanted to keep on track or go back to my shitty life. Because I had no friends and absolutely nothing to do during summer I decided to give it a try and start a diet on my own. During these two months I was cooking alone motivated by the weight loss which started to become visible and more importantly by conviction that I won't get any friends in new school. When school started I somehow managed to make few friends (only 3 but hey, that was a real success for me), and strated (at the age of 15) cooking for me, my mother (she's workaholic, works since 8am to 9pm) and my aunt (obese, whole day every day taking care of my 100yo grandma who's the only not overweight person in my family).
During that period of time I've been diagnosed with hernia in my spine that popped out (the disease is more complex) and overnight I became stuck to bed for few months. Every move I made caused huge amount of pain but rehabilitation helped and I could function normally. At this moment loosing weight was crucial in order not feeling pain whenever I sit or bend over. After a year everyday pain has gone away, but still after a moderate physical activity it was coming back. The next months of diet were passing, and now we are in 2020.
My mom and aunt had a break in the diet for 3 months, mainly because I wanted to give keto a try, but they went back on track after that. During 3 years I have become aware of what is healthy and what is trash food, started exercising and lost over 66lbs 30kg (5'10ft 177cm).
Now my mom and aunt are still overweight because of the habits they were developing their whole lives, but I have achieved success. Loosing weight helped me get rid of pain caused by hernia, made me more sociable and I've made more wonderful friendships but many behaviours I've developed being fat are still sticking to me.
Sorry for really long introduction to the whole situation but I wanted to give you a good picture of my motivations.
Rn I'm looking not so terribly bad, I've been exercising daily for few months but still following a weight loss diet but my (still overweight) family have turned against me. My aunt and mother are the biggest opponents - they say that I look extremely skinny and they can see my bones (they can't, collarbones does not count) and try to prevent my diet at all costs. It's even more weird, because I still cook for them and try to HELP them loose that damn weight.
I've had a long talk with my mom few weeks ago and it helped till now when again she wants to do everything to stop me from loosing weight (now I'm kind of skinny-fat so the more fat I loose the easier it will be to do the cut after bulking) (I just want to get down to the 132lbs 60kgs so only 10/5 lbs/kgs left). I know that she cares about me so I shouldn't be upset but I thought she understood everything when I explained my motivations few weeks ago (it was really honest and hard talk). I don't know how to calm them down and explain that I am definitely not going to become anorectic or anything like that.
I'm doing my best to change my and their lives but it has become extremely hard since everyday I hear that we should visit a doctor, they can see my bones or statements that I don't know when to say stop.
Everyone who is still there, please give me an advice on how I should explain to my family that I'm okay and that the healthy habits are really important to me as they changed my life and greatly improved my mental health. Thanks in advance.
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