Not sure if this is the most appropriate place to post this, so if not I'd appreciate someone pointing me in the right direction.
Anyway. I'm a 27 year old woman-----and a virgin. I'm not necessarily ashamed of my virginity, but I am tired of hanging onto it. I never had sex because A) I never really dated throughout high school and college due to my weight, which gave me crippling anxiety and self-esteem issues and B) I've never met anyone that I liked enough to sleep with. I've never been much of a partier, so there hasn't even been much opportunity for drunken night stands in my (currently non-existant) dating/sex life.
Fast forward to now. I've lost almost 100 pounds and for the first time since my teenage years, I feel attractive. I get attention from men that I haven't gotten in years. I recently joined Tinder (I know) and have met and talked with a number of guys. The trouble is, despite the weight loss, my body is still kind of a mess. My belly, though much smaller, still hangs over my waist. My arms are still flabby, though they're slowly becoming more toned. I look good in clothes, but I hate the way I look naked and I feel like it's sabotaging my chances with some of these guys I'm talking to, including one that I actually sort of really like.
I'm proud of myself and I know I did something amazing and the reason I did it (besides health reasons) was so that my weight wouldn't hold me back from doing the things I want to do. But here I am, wanting to be intimate with someone but too nervous that he'll judge me or reject me once I take my clothes off. I almost feel like I'm cat-fishing these guys because it seems to me that the person in my online photos is not the one I see naked in the mirror.
To be clear, I don't think I have any hang-ups with sex. I know that being a virgin at my age is unusual to say the least, but my previous weight was holding me hostage to the point where I couldn't imagine any man wanting me, so I just sort of let the years go by and never tried to meet anybod.
I know I'm rambling, but I'd really appreciate some advice.
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