I am the caregiver for my morbidly obese brother in law. He is under our care (since 2 months ago) because his mother is not fit to care for him. He is 300+ lbs. I cook his meals daily and make sure his carbs are limited, sugars are limited, and he is only drinking water. He has done a good job and has managed to lose about 20 lbs.
I have two young boys (6 and 2) and they are both at a healthy weight (considered low weight but their pediatrician is not concerned because they both eat well) and sometimes they like to eat regular kid foods. We go out to eat about once a week to restaurants that sometimes don’t serve the healthiest meals. My husband believes that his brother should be allowed one cheat day. Today we went to eat at an Italian restaurant and they serve wings there. My brother in law scoffed down 8 big ones and drank a lemonade on the side. Had we allowed it, he would have ate more. My heart was breaking watching this and it felt so wrong. He has high cholesterol and I can just hear him breathing heavily while eating this meal. I felt negligent. This same place had some really good salads and if it were up to me I would have encouraged he get one of those with some lemon water. But my husband thinks this is cruel. I tell him that his brother needs to start getting used to saying no to these foods regardless of what other people are eating! I almost feel like if I weren’t there monitoring his food he would fall back to his old ways.
Am I wrong? Are cheat days okay for a person his size?
I am asking for advice here because I am here often trying to find ways to help and encourage him. With the stories I read where there is major weight loss, people have to physically hold them selves back from eating these foods and eventually it gets better. I don’t see people allowing themselves cheat days.
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