I used to be upwards of 210 kilos and I'm now down a significant amount, I'm at about 170 kilos now (at 189 cm in case you want a visual reference). I understand I'm doing the right things, and everything is going better.
However, one of my friends (let's call him Bart) commented to me while we were out drinking that i "looked way grosser before", as if to help me feel like I'm progressing in my weight loss. He has always been a really fit person, as long as I've known him (we're 20, we met when we were like 12). I told him that saying that was a bit of a dick move, and I didn't appreciate being referred to as "gross" by someone I considered a close friend. He didn't really understand why I would feel that way, but relented and said he wouldn't say things like that again.
This spilled into my interactions with other people too, unfortunately. Whenever my parents or family say "wow you look way better!" I no longer take it as a compliment, I see it as them saying I wasn't good enough before. It's even worse when I see people from high school or my old workplace comment on it, for the same sentiments as with my parents, except I don't even acknowledge things like that anymore. To be clear, I have let everyone I regularly interact with that I don't like comments like that. My family has stopped the comments completely, with the exception of my obese sister, who is also working hard towards losing weight. I don't mind talking with her about it though.
Well, last night I was at a bar with Bart, and the bartender asked to see my ID. I handed it to him and I made a comment like "that's from a hundred pounds ago but the picture still works eh?" And the bartender just chuckled, said it was fine, and handed back the card. I thought it was kinda funny. But Bart pipes up and says "yeah man, you look WAY better now than you did! It's a crazy change!" To which I said "just shut the fuck up dude, stop talking about my weight loss". He was silent through his two drinks he had and left.
Am I being an asshole for setting these boundaries? Am I overreacting? I understand he was coming from the right place, but I just don't like this feeling that people thought I was a lesser person when I was fatter. Obviously this isn't affecting me so bad I'm going to trash my progress, but it's still affecting me to the point where being around people I used to know makes me sort of miserable.
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