This is something I never thought I would have to deal with.
I have one friend in-particular and it is hard because we work together. We bonded initially over our weight struggles, I was a lot bigger than her but we were both obese. I was 5'4 and 250, she was 5'3 and 200.
A year later and she is 170 and I am 150. However, once I surpassed her or was getting close, her attitude changed. She keeps making comments and I don't know if it is intentional or not but it is affecting me.
I had my first date planned in years (tinder). She sent me a meme the day before my date, some tinder vs reality thing. She mentioned how women put up misleading pictures so guys just get disappointed once you finally meet. She then said most guys on there only care about bodies and it's hard if you're not a size 4. I was already super nervous about my date but these comments made me so paranoid. I told her I might cancel the date and she said she would if she was me. She then backtracked and said I may as well go for the experience lol.
She also groups us together in statements like "we don't have nice bodies". I am like, speak for yourself! Not to be rude as all bodies are good but my shape is probably considered to be more attractive than hers. I feel rude saying that but I am a hourglass with 34DD's and she is more straight and flat chested. I feel weird saying that and I am not body shaming her at all but, all body shapes could be celebrated but it sometimes makes me think she is jealous.
She prefers to take her weight loss much slower which is fine, I am aiming for 1-2lbs a week. Every week she asks me how much I weigh. Despite telling me every so often she doesn't want to hear about my weight loss anymore, yet she brings it up again after a couple of days. She also makes comments how I am doing it too fast, I have averaged 1.3lbs a week throughout my journey. She also told other people in the office that I am obsessive and too extreme with dieting.
I told her I got into a smaller size jean last week and she asked if it was a particular shop, a shop that is known for their sizes being bigger lol. It wasn't... then she will also tell me I am 'brave' for wearing particular styles of clothes and how she couldn't wear it. I wore a long sleeved body suit with jeans and she said I was brave for that, that comment seriously has me second guessing wearing things like that.
Guys is this common? How the hell do I deal with this? I never thought this would happen to me. It's also weird to think someone is being jealous as being big for so long, you don't have to deal with this stuff. I am working so hard not only on my weight but my body image and this really impacting me.
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