I've been overweight since entering puberty and I've always known people tried to tiptoe around the issue by just calling me chubby, big-boned, well-built, etc. I guess it worked because I never really cared about being overweight until recently. During the pandemic, I stayed at home and gained over 10 pounds in around 6 months. I'm just about 5'4" so it was quite noticeable. It was so discouraging to see the scale and I also noticed the changes in my body. This was not even my highest weight, but I guess when I was younger I just didn't care about how my body looked.
Anyway, I started dieting end of last year, hoping to build some muscle and be in the mid range of a normal BMI. I'm barely 3 pounds into the normal BMI range and my mom has started making these gross comments. Usually I wear oversized sweats at home, but she was organizing the closet and got out all these old clothes from when she was young. I tried them on and she was shocked some actually fit me. I guess she didn't really see the results of my weight loss even though I've been telling her about it and suggesting she do the same. She has been overweight for a long time now and the doctor has advised her in the past to lose weight. She did for a while but gained it all back.
So since then she keeps making weird comments, like yesterday when I was eating toast and an omelette with avocado, she said "being healthy, huh?" I don't even think my meal was that low calorie or healthy. She just doesn't understand CICO and sees these foods as "healthy" even though they're not really good for weight loss. Then I woke up this morning and was drinking water in the kitchen and cutting up a baguette and she's like "you're a skinny monkey". Like what?? Just out of nowhere all these random comments keep coming, calling me too thin and telling me to stop losing weight when I'm barely in the normal weight range. When I'm eating she always has to be like oh so healthy, and now making all these comments about how I'm skinny is kind of gross to hear. She never said anything when I was seriously overweight but now I've lost 25 pounds and suddenly these disparaging comments come in about how I'm skinny when I'm barely even a normal weight.
Also I told her the other day like I can actually feel bones at my hips now and she was like oh when I was your age my hip bones were protruding through my pants and everyone was like that. Idk why she can't just be supportive of what I'm doing but always makes these weird comments to put down my achievements.
I'm just so frustrated with her. She always talks about how she wants to lose weight and stuff but never does. That's also kind of annoying even after I started looking into it and telling her about CICO. She also bought some weights with a group of her friends to set up a home gym of sorts. But she's never using them. I've been using them every other day or so and invited her to train with me, but she quit after 2 days. I just don't get her. Like she wants to lose weight, she knows she's overweight, but she doesn't really change her eating habits and even thinks my advice of CICO, high protein and weight lifting is bad and won't work for her. Then she kind of makes rude comments about my weight loss. All seems very contradictory and I just feel like I can't talk to her about any of this anymore because it's like talking to a wall that only echos back rude remarks.
If anyone has experienced this kind of thing, I would like to hear how you dealt with it? I've just been ignoring her but it's been nearly a week of this and I'm getting so tired of it.
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