Hi, I am new to reddit.
I am getting pretty upset with people who comment on my weight loss goals by saying things like "Well, don't expect to look like you did when you were 20", or "You'll probably still end up with extra weight bc of your age." (I'm 46 and except for when I'm fat, have always looked 10-15 yrs younger than my age).
Why the fck do people say things like this? I know it is them projecting their own perceived limitations of themselves onto others, but it really pisses me off.
Just STFU about MY body, MY potential, MY expectations, and MY goals.
The person I most recently dealt with regarding this has already assumed/said that 1. obesity runs in my family (it doesn't, almost no one in my family or extended family is even 5 lbs overweight); 2. that I'm "naturally big" (wtf?); 3. that I am not going to look much different when I lose weight; 4. that I shouldn't try to lose as much weight as I told her because I couldn't possibly be that small (she can't see me as different than I am now).
I even showed this person a picture of myself when I was in shape, and she refers to it as a picture from when I was 20yo (I am 35 in the picture, she doesn't seem to believe it).
I know I should just not care, but it so irks me. We all have so many mental hurdles to jump trying to change things in our lives, esp. something as personal as losing a lot of weight - why do people say/think such ignorant/negative things?
How do you deal with it?
I am forced to interact with this person regularly, who is, other than her remarks about my weight, a smart, kind human being.
I'm sick of how people try to restrict your potential and expectations, esp concerning weight loss. I have struggled with my weight on and off my whole life, and always run up against this. What do you do?
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